Quality over quantity

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  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
    mamolady said:

    Kari,
    Not having chemo is

    Kari,
    Not having chemo is does not make you a quitter. Only you can decide the turns your journey needs to take. It takes great courage just to even face the decisions you have been making for the last 3 years. I hope this part of your journey is everything you hope for. As for when your journey home begins, only God knows. My sister opted to not have chemo when CA found its way to her liver. The docs wanted to throw everything at it. She said enough. She out lasted their expectations. She also lived her life. She spent time with us and my dad. She took me to London. She put all her ducks in a row so I wouldn't have to deal with too much. For the most part, she was never sad. She knew it was all part of her journey and in the end she went home. She taught me more than she will ever know about courage and hope.
    All the best in your journey,
    Cindy

    Kari,
    I pray that if I ever

    Kari,
    I pray that if I ever have to make the decision that you have that I will have the grace, courage and strength that you have. You are inspiring and my prayers are that all the days that you have are filled with love and peace.
    We have not often had someone that has reached this point and that has shared with us this decision. I think that it you have throughout this journey shared with us all the ups and downs with love, humor and encouragement.
    My heart goes out to you and I wish you peace dear sister.
  • Kylez
    Kylez Member Posts: 3,761 Member

    Not a quitter
    Kari,

    You are nowhere near a quitter. In fact you are incredibly brave and courageous. The strength you are showing in what must be a terribly difficult time is inspiring to say the least. Choosing quality over quantity and time with your family in relative comfort is a wonderful choice and clearly the best one for you. I hope that the comments on this thread give you more peace with your decision and the love shown gives you strength.

    I wish you peace and comfort,
    Clementine

    You're so brave
    You are so brave Kari! I don't know if I could handle this with as much grace, dignity and courage as you are. I am really amazed!

    You are so beautiful Kari, on the inside and the outside. I pray that you know and will always remember that your pink sisters love you and that we're here for you no matter what you might need.

    I am so happy that I can call you, not only my sister, but, my friend.


    I'm always here 4U,


    Kylez
  • jnl
    jnl Member Posts: 3,869 Member
    Aortus said:

    Heroic
    Kari, I can't begin to tell you how sorry I feel that you have been faced with this decision. It's harder still for me to find the right words to tell you how much I admire the courage and the grace you are demonstrating as you move forward. I remember how Moopy and I used to use the image of you plowing through snowdrifts with your college texts on the seat behind you as an example of how nobody can keep a Pink Sister down. I remember looking at the pictures of your great beach adventure and wondering how anyone (much less a BC warrior) could have so much fun. Well, guess what. You're giving us all an even better model now. Thank you so much, Kari, for always showing us how to live... and keep up the good work!

    Love,
    Joe

    Don't you ever apologize.
    Don't you ever apologize. We just have been worried about you and it is obvious that you've been busy. I know this new chemo was hard on you, and, I understand your stopping it.

    You have so much courage, grace and peace about you now Kari.


    Live your life Kari and love your life, as, I know you do.


    Love, Leeza
  • sbmly53
    sbmly53 Member Posts: 1,522
    Everything I feel has already been said
    You are an inspiration, heroic, not a quitter, brave beyond measure. Dear Kari, my heart and my prayers are with you.

    Miles of love back to you,

    Sue
  • GreeneyedGirl
    GreeneyedGirl Member Posts: 1,077
    sbmly53 said:

    Everything I feel has already been said
    You are an inspiration, heroic, not a quitter, brave beyond measure. Dear Kari, my heart and my prayers are with you.

    Miles of love back to you,

    Sue

    You are~♥
    Inspiring~Unforgettable~Strong~Thoughtful~Loved~♥♥♥
    Dear,Dear Kari~I'm certain you feel all the love and care in these posts, as I read them, it gives me insight into the special moments we have as we share here~we build special relationships that minister to us in our times of need. The decisions you are making, I can only imagine how I would handle it. You have been thru so much that is for sure. I hope that you are truly able to be at peace, finding ways to go and just "breath", and enjoy some special moments with friends and loved ones. Find that mountain top, and just sit and let the sun shine on you. Go on that cruise and let the wind blow across your face. And in those moments that find you extremely challenged Know that WE are all thinking of you, and pouring strength and love your way~
    Our pink sister~~♥♥
    ~Melanie
  • Chickadee1955
    Chickadee1955 Member Posts: 355 Member

    You are~♥
    Inspiring~Unforgettable~Strong~Thoughtful~Loved~♥♥♥
    Dear,Dear Kari~I'm certain you feel all the love and care in these posts, as I read them, it gives me insight into the special moments we have as we share here~we build special relationships that minister to us in our times of need. The decisions you are making, I can only imagine how I would handle it. You have been thru so much that is for sure. I hope that you are truly able to be at peace, finding ways to go and just "breath", and enjoy some special moments with friends and loved ones. Find that mountain top, and just sit and let the sun shine on you. Go on that cruise and let the wind blow across your face. And in those moments that find you extremely challenged Know that WE are all thinking of you, and pouring strength and love your way~
    Our pink sister~~♥♥
    ~Melanie

    Kari,
    You are inspirational

    Kari,

    You are inspirational in your grace, courage and caring. Godspeed on your journey, Sister in Pink.

    Deborah
  • ladyg
    ladyg Member Posts: 1,577
    Kari
    I admire your courage in making the decision that is right for you. I know it could not have been easy but I think that having quality as opposed to quanity is a good choice. I hope that you get to do all of the things you want to do. I will be right here with all of the other sisters to support you.

    Hugs,
    Georgia
  • linpsu
    linpsu Member Posts: 747
    Sweet Kari
    Dearest Kari - you are one of the most courageous ladies that I've ever had the privilege to know. You have been through so much over the past three years, but yet you continue to inspire us. You have made a very difficult decision, but certainly it is the best one for you. Enjoy your life, take it easy, and do the things that make you happiest.
    Much love,
    Linda
  • Ritzy
    Ritzy Member Posts: 4,381 Member
    fauxma said:

    Kari,
    I pray that if I ever

    Kari,
    I pray that if I ever have to make the decision that you have that I will have the grace, courage and strength that you have. You are inspiring and my prayers are that all the days that you have are filled with love and peace.
    We have not often had someone that has reached this point and that has shared with us this decision. I think that it you have throughout this journey shared with us all the ups and downs with love, humor and encouragement.
    My heart goes out to you and I wish you peace dear sister.

    I wish I had a magic wand
    I wish I had a magic wand Kari, to erase the cancer from your body, but, I don't. Cancer really does suck! You've always been so uplifting and helpful to all of us on this board. You've given great advice, comforted us when we needed comforting and sent us strength, when we were weak. You truly are the best pink sister any of us could even dream of.

    In reading your post, I did find peace in it, peace that you had decided to live your life and not have chemo make you feel ill or weak. I know that wasn't an easy decision Kari, I know it was very difficult to make. We all have to do whatever is best for us and you've done that. And, we all stand with you, supporting you and loving you.

    I shed tears for you Kari... I truly wish you bright, happy and love filled days!


    Sue :(
  • cahjah75
    cahjah75 Member Posts: 2,631
    Dear Kari
    my heartfelt prayers are being sent your way. I too would want quality over quantity. I'm sorry this is happening to you. May you cherish the special moments with family and friends that are yet to come. {{hugs}}
  • weazer
    weazer Member Posts: 440
    cahjah75 said:

    Dear Kari
    my heartfelt prayers are being sent your way. I too would want quality over quantity. I'm sorry this is happening to you. May you cherish the special moments with family and friends that are yet to come. {{hugs}}

    Sweet Kari
    You are such a Warrior....So many Prayers and Hugs for you!
    I bet your dog looks great with Pink nails.
    Lots of Love.Karie
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    Dearheart, I cannot think of a braver person....
    I also feel that there comes a time when enough is enough. As you have, I have made my peace with my life and my hereafter, and will more than likely choose the 'quality' as well...

    You are by no means a quitter, in my opinion, just a weary soul who wants peace. Both here and wherever you believe you will go in the hereafter.

    I am stretching my arms across the miles to you, dear Kari....and, as my Navy dad would say "Fair winds and following seas"....and keep a light burning, will you, so I can find my way...


    BIG hugs, darling! Kathi
  • Ritzy
    Ritzy Member Posts: 4,381 Member
    camul said:

    Kari
    I can feel the peace in your post. I will be there with you and for you and will continue to keep you in my prayers. I do not in any way see your decision as quitting, I totally see it as making the most of the time you have left with quality and dignity!

    I thought I had come to terms with this until a couple of weeks ago when they offered me one more chance with a new regimen. The se of this have been very hard and I, along with my boys are questioning if this is the answer, or if I should have stayed on the path which was stopping the herceptin and do palliative with hospice. I know that it was heaven not being sick from chemo, the pain was manageable with a patch.

    I wish you much happiness and hope you are able to spend this time with your family and friends and enjoy all of the small things in your life. This is a whole new journey that you are embarking on and along with the peace I can see being scared... I just have to believe that the next journey will be one that is free of pain and cancer, and filled with love and happiness.

    Miles of love right back to you,
    Carol

    Miles of love to you today!
    Miles of love to you today!
  • Different Ballgame
    Different Ballgame Member Posts: 868
    Peace is Gold
    Dear Kari,

    I felt a wave of peace sail over you after reading your post. You made the decision that is best for you. You want quality over quantity. I pray that you have many quality days to do the "special" things that will bring you pleasure and give your family and friends good memories. I pray that your palliative doctor provides you with the best of medicines to keep you pain free as possible. It's difficult to tell you not to be afraid, but I believe with all my heart and soul that there are angels who will be watching over you during your hospice days and they will bring you to life everlasting, so have no fear.

    God Bless You.

    Lots of Love and Lots of Hugs,
    Janelle
  • carkris
    carkris Member Posts: 4,553 Member

    Peace is Gold
    Dear Kari,

    I felt a wave of peace sail over you after reading your post. You made the decision that is best for you. You want quality over quantity. I pray that you have many quality days to do the "special" things that will bring you pleasure and give your family and friends good memories. I pray that your palliative doctor provides you with the best of medicines to keep you pain free as possible. It's difficult to tell you not to be afraid, but I believe with all my heart and soul that there are angels who will be watching over you during your hospice days and they will bring you to life everlasting, so have no fear.

    God Bless You.

    Lots of Love and Lots of Hugs,
    Janelle

    I dont think I can add
    I dont think I can add anymore to the eloquent posts. knew a woman who made the same decision. She was at peace with her decision. Of course its hard for us because we love you and you have been here and such a part of us all. And forever will be. You are one of the strongest people I know.
  • jnl
    jnl Member Posts: 3,869 Member
    roseann4 said:

    You are so not a quitter!
    The choice to let go is one many of us have to make. I would hope I would do the same when the time comes. Enjoy each precious moment. That's all any of us has for sure.

    Love, peace, and joy,

    Roseann

    Hi Kari! Just saying that I
    Hi Kari! Just saying that I hope you're having a good day, and, to please continue to post on here.


    Love, Leeza
  • Lynn Smith
    Lynn Smith Member Posts: 1,264 Member
    carkris said:

    I dont think I can add
    I dont think I can add anymore to the eloquent posts. knew a woman who made the same decision. She was at peace with her decision. Of course its hard for us because we love you and you have been here and such a part of us all. And forever will be. You are one of the strongest people I know.

    I feel like Megan
    I feel like Megan. I didn't know what to write before.It was upsetting.I understand your decison.You're tired and your journey has been a tough one.Still there isn't any of us that want more than a MIRACLE to happen. I was upset about Nancy and then read this. I took a break for a day and came back today.I also think of the others here on this Board and all over the world that are fighting this beast or any cancer or other life threatening disease.I was dx in 2009 also.Had Stage 0 but I just feel down alot. We're losing our Pink Sisters and it hurts.

    I hope you get to do the things you want.I'm still gonna pray for a MIRACLE.You're so brave to come here and tell us your decision. It had to be hard. But we want you to know we love you, support you and will be here if you need us.

    THOUGHTS and PRAYERS to you and your family.We are thinking of you.

    Lynn Smith
  • Tux
    Tux Member Posts: 544

    I feel like Megan
    I feel like Megan. I didn't know what to write before.It was upsetting.I understand your decison.You're tired and your journey has been a tough one.Still there isn't any of us that want more than a MIRACLE to happen. I was upset about Nancy and then read this. I took a break for a day and came back today.I also think of the others here on this Board and all over the world that are fighting this beast or any cancer or other life threatening disease.I was dx in 2009 also.Had Stage 0 but I just feel down alot. We're losing our Pink Sisters and it hurts.

    I hope you get to do the things you want.I'm still gonna pray for a MIRACLE.You're so brave to come here and tell us your decision. It had to be hard. But we want you to know we love you, support you and will be here if you need us.

    THOUGHTS and PRAYERS to you and your family.We are thinking of you.

    Lynn Smith

    Kari
    Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with us.
    (((Hugs))) and prayers sent your way.....
  • Gabe N Abby Mom
    Gabe N Abby Mom Member Posts: 2,413
    Kari,
    I hope you feel the

    Kari,

    I hope you feel the miles of love wrapping around you right now. And I will continue to keep you wrapped in miles of love.

    Hugs,

    Linda
  • Kat11
    Kat11 Member Posts: 1,931 Member

    Kari,
    I hope you feel the

    Kari,

    I hope you feel the miles of love wrapping around you right now. And I will continue to keep you wrapped in miles of love.

    Hugs,

    Linda

    Dear Kari, I understand,
    Dear Kari, I understand, Your courage and your grace is an inspiration to to us all. We stand with you holding you close. With love and lots of hugs
    Kathy