Do I buy a car?
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Buy the cartommycat said:
Sure, but it would be awkward since you're older than my husband so that would make him your....hmmm...let's see.
The only thing that comes to mind is the little ditty, "I'm My Own Grandpa."
Buy the car and see the happy face of your 16 year old when he receives the key to your "old" car. Enjoy life each and everyday, even people withput cancer are waiting to die, we really do not know when our time is up. Live everyday and make memories for your loved ones.
If you don't........ you look back on a year NOT lived and have no memories.
You are alive today and today is what counts, Yesterday is a memorie and tomorrow is a lovely new adventure.
Hugs, Marjan0 -
GLad to hear you Followed Your Dreamppaseka said:Future
When my wife was diagnosed last October with Bartholins gland cancer that had mets to the pelvic nodes and nodes in the illiac region, we were planning on building a new post building that was to be our "toy box". Immediatly put the plans on hold. She had a partial vulvectomy in Nov, 28 radiation treatments and 9 rounds of chemo. When we were about four weeks I.to radiation she lookded at me on our way home from chemo and said "let's build the building". I was reluctant at first because it had always been our dream and I did.t want to do it if she wasn't going to be aroind to enjoy it. Needless to say, the building is done. I guess if we waited to do things because we were unsure of the future, we would never do anything. Live for today, because tomorrow is never promised. By the way, we have our first post treatment PET/CT next Wednesday. Praying for good results.
Dreams are important to living well with or without cancer. Prayers for good results next week. Let us know how your wife is doing.
NB0 -
I Feel the thoughts but one must move forward.
I too have had the feelings you expressed. I decided to plant trees and I did think, Will I be here to see them grow??? But here I am one year later, the trees are growing and I continue to move forward scan to scan, test to test.
Buy the car....NB0 -
I say Yes, why not?
Wow...I can't believe I'm reading what I thought nearly 3 years ago!
YES!...buy your car. Live your life. My oncologist's line was always..."champagne and cake." I love those words.
Three years ago, before my diagnosis but pretty darn close to it, I was thinking something similar. I was having bleeding for a few weeks and just knew it wasn't a good thing. I couldn't get a prompt appointment with my at-the-time primary doctor so I saw my coworker/friend's doctor instead since he was able to see me right away. He said I was nearly 50 and due for my first colonoscopy anyway. Went to the GI doc a few days after that. Just prior to seeing the GI doc, I bought a car thinking 'maybe this isn't a good idea. what if this bleeding is something serious and I won't be well to pay this thing off?'
Well, the truth of the matter is that a bus can run over us and we won't be able to pay off the car, the house, or enjoy that pint of Ben & Jerry's in the freezer.
I think that we, who've had a cancer diagnosis, are often suspicious and superstitious about the future. We sometimes don't allow ourselves to dream and want things. I think that's normal, healthy even. And then, we move on 'cause that's what we do. We begin to dare to dream and enjoy life. And that is my hope for you and all of us.
Let us seize the day.
Warm regards,
Aud(p.s. congratulations on completing radiation/chemo.)0 -
I love your definition ofJayhawkDan said:I posed a similar question a couple of weeks ago
about spending $1000 on a crown for a chipped tooth. Far back molar, nobody can see it, but I decided "what the hell, I'm not giving up," and went ahead and did it. Glad I did --otherwise I felt like I was giving up. Btw I'm stage IV, dx as chemo for life, terminal. I decided "terminal" is a place to catch a plane to places I wanna go to. Buy the car!
Dan
I love your definition of terminal!0 -
I say Yes, why not?
Wow...I can't believe I'm reading what I thought nearly 3 years ago!
YES!...buy your car. Live your life. My oncologist's line was always..."champagne and cake." I love those words.
Three years ago, before my diagnosis but pretty darn close to it, I was thinking something similar. I was having bleeding for a few weeks and just knew it wasn't a good thing. I couldn't get a prompt appointment with my at-the-time primary doctor so I saw my coworker/friend's doctor instead since he was able to see me right away. He said I was nearly 50 and due for my first colonoscopy anyway. Went to the GI doc a few days after that. Just prior to seeing the GI doc, I bought a car thinking 'maybe this isn't a good idea. what if this bleeding is something serious and I won't be well to pay this thing off?'
Well, the truth of the matter is that a bus can run over us and we won't be able to pay off the car, the house, or enjoy that pint of Ben & Jerry's in the freezer.
I think that we, who've had a cancer diagnosis, are often suspicious and superstitious about the future. We sometimes don't allow ourselves to dream and want things. I think that's normal, healthy even. And then, we move on 'cause that's what we do. We begin to dare to dream and enjoy life. And that is my hope for you and all of us.
Let us seize the day.
Warm regards,
Aud0 -
Thanks!
Thanks to everyone for the replies. I feel so much better. You all have confirmed what I know I need to work on -- living life. That includes investing in my future, whatever investments those might be. So, now the big question: what kind of car?!
Thanks again. This is a great group.
Robin0 -
Just Do IT
Buy that car! I am putting in a beautiful new sewing room in my house because I love to sew and am very good at it, it makes me happy. Colon cancer stage 3 does not make me happy. Buy that car, take that trip, sell that house, buy that house, go on vacation, get a kitten or puppy. Just LIVE - cancer takes enough away from us. Alice0 -
home runPhil64 said:It seems to me...
That underlying this discussion is the more basic question:
Am I Living?
or
Am I Dying?
If I am Living than I'm saving for retirement, buying cars as I need them, upsizing / downsizing where I live as required...
If I am Dying than I may go two different ways:
1) splurge and live like there is no tomorrow... Take the trip you always wanted to take. Buy the fancy big red car (not just any car)
2) save and plan for others to enjoy the gifts given to you... Plan for giving any wealth away accordingly???
I think I agree with a lot of posts on here...
Assume you will Live and Live... Buy smartly, continue to save for the future, etc.
Most importantly - Love Always!
Phil
Phil
Your post is a home run.
thank you!0 -
Everyone has already said
Everyone has already said it. Buy the car!!! I went through the same thing. I was afraid to buy anything! Then gradually i came to this conclusion. Since my husband of 33 years, dropped dead at 52 years old, I just had to live my life. NO ONE knows when. I was first diagnosed in 2004 & have had 2 recurrences.. Still kickin and my present husband of 2 years repeats my mantra for me. "I know", you had cancer, you deserve it".
My reply, "your damn right"!
Enjoy, make it a vette, a shiny red one.
Hugs,
Judy0 -
No promises!
No one is promised tomorrow so you need to live life for today! I enjoy every minute and still make many plans for the future. Cancer has stolen some of my time but it will not steal my future.0 -
DAN/terminalJayhawkDan said:I posed a similar question a couple of weeks ago
about spending $1000 on a crown for a chipped tooth. Far back molar, nobody can see it, but I decided "what the hell, I'm not giving up," and went ahead and did it. Glad I did --otherwise I felt like I was giving up. Btw I'm stage IV, dx as chemo for life, terminal. I decided "terminal" is a place to catch a plane to places I wanna go to. Buy the car!
Dan
Unfortunately, when my ship came in, I was at the terminal with my bus ticket. LOL0 -
Judy jjaj133jjaj133 said:Everyone has already said
Everyone has already said it. Buy the car!!! I went through the same thing. I was afraid to buy anything! Then gradually i came to this conclusion. Since my husband of 33 years, dropped dead at 52 years old, I just had to live my life. NO ONE knows when. I was first diagnosed in 2004 & have had 2 recurrences.. Still kickin and my present husband of 2 years repeats my mantra for me. "I know", you had cancer, you deserve it".
My reply, "your damn right"!
Enjoy, make it a vette, a shiny red one.
Hugs,
Judy
I did get a red mustang!!!LOL0 -
good one...danker said:DAN/terminal
Unfortunately, when my ship came in, I was at the terminal with my bus ticket. LOL
:-)0
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