I hate the term "cancer survivor!"

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  • Kenny H.
    Kenny H. Member Posts: 502 Member

    terms are funny
    I've heard that people also get annoyed by the term "battle," especially if someone passed on because of the disease....like in an obit that states that a loved one lost his or her battle with cancer. For some, it sounds like if they didn't "fight" hard enough.

    How do you know when you
    How do you know when you "survived" it? 5, 10, 20 yrs till you die of another cause?
  • tommycat
    tommycat Member Posts: 790 Member
    taraHK said:

    different terms
    Interesting. There are definitely some terms I like better than others. I tend to say I am "living with cancer". Also, I'm not sure I have ever said "I have cancer" -- instead, I say "I was diagnosed with cancer". Just a different mind-set, I guess.

    Tara

    I definitely like BEING a
    I definitely like BEING a survivor of cancer, but like Tara, if it somehow comes up in a conversation I too will say I was treated for cancer.
  • janderson1964
    janderson1964 Member Posts: 2,215 Member
    I am ok with survivor. That
    I am ok with survivor. That is what I tell people that I am a cancer survivor. Every day I get out of bed I am a survivor of cancer. It is my way of slapping cancer in the face.
  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    Kenny H. said:

    How do you know when you
    How do you know when you "survived" it? 5, 10, 20 yrs till you die of another cause?

    Dear Kenny
    I consider having survived everyday I am still on this earth and not in it.
  • christinecarl
    christinecarl Member Posts: 543 Member
    I like survivor, it took me
    I like survivor, it took me a while until I felt like one. I often wondered when I first started the cancer journey, when do you become a survivor? For me it was not the 1st day of diagnosis, but rather getting to that 1st 3 month checkup and being told I was still fine. I feel like I had to earn survivor and I am fine with that, it feels pretty damn good.
  • lps954
    lps954 Member Posts: 11
    Champion or Victor
    I have them now - I am a cancer champion or I am a cancer victor or I won against cancer or heck - I'm happy to be alive after dancing with cancer. Hmmmmm - cancer dancer. Interesting. Guess I will use lots of terms to express where I've been and more importantly - who I am today!
  • z
    z Member Posts: 1,414 Member
    PhillieG said:

    Words
    What it boils down to is whatever helps one get through this "party" called cancer is great.
    I'm not a big fan of Survivor, Victim, Patient.
    I'm a person with cancer but that works for me. I can see the appeal of Survivor because its a hell of a thing to go through and when you do get through it, it is a survival journey. I'm really not a fan of the word HATE. It's overused (IMO) and has lost its impact. "I hate brocolli", "I hate Mondays".
    Too much hate in the world.
    Just my opinion, I'm sure someone would like to press


    :-)

    Phil
    Did you know when you click on the hate button your sent to an expressions page with food on it. lol
  • z
    z Member Posts: 1,414 Member
    PhillieG said:

    Here


    Phil
    The like button takes you to the same place as the hate button.
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    Cancer Survivor
    I hate the term, but only because it has the word "cancer", which well, is a whole story in itself. But I am a survivor...so far. And survivor fits, I survived being told I had cancer without having a heart attack at the fear of the word. I survived being divorced so that my ex wouldn't lose everything he worked so hard for in his life, I'm surviving his alcoholism, (well so far, it's crying time again, 1:00 pm and he's out of it on a daily basis, I spend a lot of time picking him up off the ground where ever he lands, and it ain't easy), I've survived surgery that I thought would kill me. So, yeah, to heck with it, I'll take survivor, because so far, that's what I've been doing, surviving, with a little bit of living tossed in (grandchildren, school, children) so I'll take what I can get and be happy for the sunshine tossing a kiss on my face every morning, or even the sound of rain pounding on the roof, all letting me know I made it another day.
    Winter Marie
  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    z said:

    Phil
    Did you know when you click on the hate button your sent to an expressions page with food on it. lol

    WOW
    That's weird!
    It's not supposed to do anything.
  • Vickilg
    Vickilg Member Posts: 281 Member

    Cancer Survivor
    I hate the term, but only because it has the word "cancer", which well, is a whole story in itself. But I am a survivor...so far. And survivor fits, I survived being told I had cancer without having a heart attack at the fear of the word. I survived being divorced so that my ex wouldn't lose everything he worked so hard for in his life, I'm surviving his alcoholism, (well so far, it's crying time again, 1:00 pm and he's out of it on a daily basis, I spend a lot of time picking him up off the ground where ever he lands, and it ain't easy), I've survived surgery that I thought would kill me. So, yeah, to heck with it, I'll take survivor, because so far, that's what I've been doing, surviving, with a little bit of living tossed in (grandchildren, school, children) so I'll take what I can get and be happy for the sunshine tossing a kiss on my face every morning, or even the sound of rain pounding on the roof, all letting me know I made it another day.
    Winter Marie

    Survivor... I like it.
    Fighting cancer is one of the hardest things to do in the world. You are taking hits from the fear, the disease, the side effects, the surgeries. No other word for me quite says it like survivor because this is a war, a battle... I have the scars to prove it.

    I AM A SURVIVOR and very proud of it.

    Definition of SURVIVE
    intransitive verb
    1: to remain alive or in existence : live on
    2: to continue to function or prosper
  • abackhou
    abackhou Member Posts: 77 Member
    I am just a normal human
    I am just a normal human being who happens to have a terminal illness and doing the best to make the most of my limited life.

    Cheers Andrew
  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576 Member
    abackhou said:

    I am just a normal human
    I am just a normal human being who happens to have a terminal illness and doing the best to make the most of my limited life.

    Cheers Andrew

    survivor
    I do not mind the term survivor at all. The term that I dislike is The big C.

    Now this is just a personal dislike....no reflection on anyone else here. to me the BIG C sounds more powerful than saying the word cancer. It feels coy to me as if my friend could not say....soooooo she has cancer.....
    but I also believe in the power some words have. When my daughter was small I would deliberately slip in a four letter word now and then....just to demystify them and take away their potential power to shock.

    just sayin

    maggie
  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
    abackhou said:

    I am just a normal human
    I am just a normal human being who happens to have a terminal illness and doing the best to make the most of my limited life.

    Cheers Andrew

    Hi Andrew
    We all have limited time here, cancer or no cancer.
    Life is terminal...we should make the best of it for sure!
    -p
  • marbleotis
    marbleotis Member Posts: 720 Member
    Funny what cancer makes you think of
    I too do not like "survior". I am at chem 5 of 12 for stage 3 colon cancer, had the surgery in Jan. I am truely blessed that I had no mets. My pet-peeve is I do not capitalize the word cancer. I feel if it is capital it is given more strenth. I know I am stronger. I know it is a tiny thing but it really bothers me.
    You'll find what you like and use it - it continues to give you strenth.
    It's nice to see other csn people have the same pet-peeves I do. Thought I was the only one.
  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
    I am what I am
    And that's a survivor. Sure I survived stage3c cancer but since then I have survived lots of serious illnes all of which tried to kill me.At 14 years I am happy to embrace the term survivor or at least what's left of me is. Ron.
  • danker
    danker Member Posts: 1,276 Member
    abackhou said:

    I am just a normal human
    I am just a normal human being who happens to have a terminal illness and doing the best to make the most of my limited life.

    Cheers Andrew

    abackhou
    All people have a terminal illness. It is called life! We survivors prove cancer is not a death sentence. Yea make the most of whatever time we have before going to heaven!!!
  • dmj101
    dmj101 Member Posts: 527 Member
    Warrior
    ACS considers you a survivor from the day you are diagnosed..

    Survivor makes be feel like I should be consided cured.. but that is not true and in reality may never be the case for many.

    I was recently going thru a friends site and she had hodgkins lymphoma and they have an organization that calls their survivors Warriors,,

    I have adopted Warrior,,, I feel like I am constant at war.. so Warrior is fitting,,

    We are Warriors.. Hear us Roar!!!