Does anyone ever throw in the towel?

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  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
    #22
    pete43lost_at_sea said:

    caught any big ones lately ?????
    just curious,

    hugs,
    pete

    Can Barely walk
    Let alone fish Pete. It's a three sit down venture just to do my shopping. Not much better at work,can barely hold a screw driver and dropped a cup of hot coffee all over myself last week. Arthritis and neuropathy is the worst it has ever been.Ron.
  • taraHK
    taraHK Member Posts: 1,952 Member
    #23
    Throwing in my two bits: I reserve the right to make my own decisions and to change my mind. I've had my moments (I won't call them low moments -- just real moments of seriously considering a wide variety of options) -- I'm sure we all have --

    But for now (I'm currently on chemo -- for the fifth time!) I'm savouring all the joys in my life -- and at this stage, my joys include listening to my kids squable with each other!, as well as some more 'traditional' joys. I'm currently getting about 8 "good" days (feeling pretty good/normal) out of every 14 -- and that's good enough for me! right now....

    It's a different way to live - I used to plan ahead and have difficulty with change! a new way of living now...

    Tara
  • tanstaafl
    tanstaafl Member Posts: 1,313 Member
    #24
    doubts and fears
    . My quality of life is more important to me than struggling to stay alive thru surgery, after surgery, recurrence after recurrence, permanent chemo brain, neuropathy, etc.

    Many people have fears of futility, expense and pain to varied degrees that can strike at anytime, perhaps at critical junctures. These feelings might be better channeled as a problem needing a better solution, "I need a choice", "...a new doctor", "...a new treatment plan". It is amazing how things change once the victim decides to be a victor, engaging all circuits to find another path.

    We use these feelings to find, research, discover or demand better options: a better surgeon, a better treatment, and to plan ahead.
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
    #25
    tanstaafl said:

    doubts and fears
    . My quality of life is more important to me than struggling to stay alive thru surgery, after surgery, recurrence after recurrence, permanent chemo brain, neuropathy, etc.

    Many people have fears of futility, expense and pain to varied degrees that can strike at anytime, perhaps at critical junctures. These feelings might be better channeled as a problem needing a better solution, "I need a choice", "...a new doctor", "...a new treatment plan". It is amazing how things change once the victim decides to be a victor, engaging all circuits to find another path.

    We use these feelings to find, research, discover or demand better options: a better surgeon, a better treatment, and to plan ahead.

    Very well put......
    Thank you, it just takes a different perspective in words or a slight skew in mindset to get where we need to be...thats diligence in finding new avenues...that will also someday bring the cure to the surface........buzz
  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    #26
    Sure
    We all feel vulnerable once we find out we have cancer. To feel that you can't feel scared of the fight is normal. Remember this is a frightening thing to go through. There are days that just getting angry and crying is something that helps me through a "why me" moment, but then I'm usually up and ready to go on. You can be put on antidepressants if you feel you might need it and always come here to the board if you are down. We will always try to raise you up and will always be here for you. Good luck with what you decide.

    Kim
  • merrysmom
    merrysmom Member Posts: 51
    #27
    Annabelle41415 said:

    Sure
    We all feel vulnerable once we find out we have cancer. To feel that you can't feel scared of the fight is normal. Remember this is a frightening thing to go through. There are days that just getting angry and crying is something that helps me through a "why me" moment, but then I'm usually up and ready to go on. You can be put on antidepressants if you feel you might need it and always come here to the board if you are down. We will always try to raise you up and will always be here for you. Good luck with what you decide.

    Kim

    I agree with all of the posts
    First of all you have my prayers. There are definitely times I might feel like giving up but I know myself. I am a very determined person. I am 55 almost 56 and I still have a million things I want to do. Last Wednesday my onc called me in and told me that they think I have another type of cancer that is very hard to treat and rarely survivable. I think she wanted to shock a reaction out of me. My case has been handed to another cancer center and a doc that specializes in pancreatic and liver cancer. I see the surgeon on the 16th. I think the doc wanted me to fall on the ground and cry and fall apart. My philosophy is I am going to wait until the surgery and see what they really find before I fall apart. I am already dealing with intractable epilepsy and blood clots as well as the crc. I have too many things i want to do. We have mules and my dream is to get back up on them and go for a long trail ride. I am not walking in your shoes or in my case sitting in your shoes, but know that I am praying for you. Look in your life and find one thing that might be worth the fight. You have a lot of people on this post who cares about you and your life. You hang in there if you can. Maybe someday you will see one fat ole gal riding her fat ole mule and you will know who it is. Tons of love to you, barb
  • SisterSledge
    SisterSledge Member Posts: 332 Member
    #28
    merrysmom said:

    I agree with all of the posts
    First of all you have my prayers. There are definitely times I might feel like giving up but I know myself. I am a very determined person. I am 55 almost 56 and I still have a million things I want to do. Last Wednesday my onc called me in and told me that they think I have another type of cancer that is very hard to treat and rarely survivable. I think she wanted to shock a reaction out of me. My case has been handed to another cancer center and a doc that specializes in pancreatic and liver cancer. I see the surgeon on the 16th. I think the doc wanted me to fall on the ground and cry and fall apart. My philosophy is I am going to wait until the surgery and see what they really find before I fall apart. I am already dealing with intractable epilepsy and blood clots as well as the crc. I have too many things i want to do. We have mules and my dream is to get back up on them and go for a long trail ride. I am not walking in your shoes or in my case sitting in your shoes, but know that I am praying for you. Look in your life and find one thing that might be worth the fight. You have a lot of people on this post who cares about you and your life. You hang in there if you can. Maybe someday you will see one fat ole gal riding her fat ole mule and you will know who it is. Tons of love to you, barb

    I can hardly wait!
    Barb,
    I really, really, really wanna see you ride yer ol'mule! What part of the country are you in?
    Janine
  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
    #29
    SisterSledge said:

    I can hardly wait!
    Barb,
    I really, really, really wanna see you ride yer ol'mule! What part of the country are you in?
    Janine

    Sorry, I didn't read all the
    Sorry, I didn't read all the posts BUT!!

    QUIT!!!!!!!!!!!! NOT IN MY LIFE TIME! WHAT'S UP WITH THAT ANYWAY!
  • merrysmom
    merrysmom Member Posts: 51
    #30
    SisterSledge said:

    I can hardly wait!
    Barb,
    I really, really, really wanna see you ride yer ol'mule! What part of the country are you in?
    Janine

    Sister Sledge - Janine
    I am in arizona not too far from Tombstone. in fact our mules help pull at christmas time in tucson for winterhaven.
  • marqimark
    marqimark Member Posts: 242 Member
    #31
    Towel
    I am lucky, I was only IIIc and I wouldn't even remember that I had had CRC if it weren't for the neuropathy.

    That said, I did/do feel that if there were a recurance, and my odds changed from 40% to 10%, I would have a hard time convincing myself to go through chemo again.

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