From Diane

here4lfe said:

Weird Science
There is a well-known danger in looking at a lot of data. If you look at a lot if it, for long enough, you will find all kinds of patterns. It's called Data Mining. The problem is, you don't know the truth story to begin with, so any random pattern found could be right or wrong.

Shovel it out.

Best

Sonia32 said:

Sweet Gail
As a fellow singleton, and with many others in our group you are not alone. But you have mentioned you are single on here, I'm sure the eligible men like Ron50 etc will be queuing up now outside your door. ;-)

Hugs

greta said:

You're right, Beth!
It doesn't make any sense at all. In fact, it's ludicrous. There wouldn't be a CSN if posting test results were grounds for an account being blocked.

Best,
Greta

Kathryn_in_MN said:

Agreed
Love ya Phil! You are so right. (There are "facts" on this that go back a long ways... Often there is history that some are not aware of...) Sometimes the best thing people should do is let it go and move on. I'm always amazed at how the gossip mill works to distort things by people that really don't know the full stories.

It is sad to see what I thought was a good site for support for colorectal cancer, that was comforting to come to, turn into something that too often makes me uncomfortable and pushes me away.

Any site needs rules to keep order. If anyone wants 100% free speech, no matter if that means dealing with spam, or personal insults, or chaos caused by those that get their jollies stirring the pot on the Internet, then they can start their OWN site. It really is that simple. The American Cancer Society is the sponsor of this site, and they are a great organization. I continue to support them, including participating in Relay for Life. And I am glad they have limits on what is tolerated or not on their support boards. I've seen too many Internet message boards destroyed over the years when there are no rules enforced.

I come back here and lurk now and then to check on old friends to see how they are doing, but I rarely post anymore. I have enough stress in my life fighting stage IV cancer. It would be nice to see more postings having to do with the reason this site exists - questions, information and support for colorectal cancer patients, and those affected by colorectal cancer, and less of the crazy fighting, second-guessing, rumor mills, and antagonization. I realize I can choose what to read and not read, but often until you open a thread you don't realize what is going to be in there. So instead, I choose to stay away from the site most of the time. That is my way of choosing what I do and don't read. And it is my way of keeping myself from posting and getting involved in the crazy sadness of it all. (Until this post right now.) I know several others (we keep in touch via email, FaceBook, or other colon cancer support systems) that have done the same - they have left CSN because the tension and negativity is not something they want to deal with. I hope someday it turns around so more people will feel good about coming to this site for information and support, and not be chased away.

I think of many of you often, and wish you all the best as you live with colorectal cancer, whether you are in current treatment, NED or cured.