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sweetvickid
sweetvickid Member Posts: 459 Member
in Breast Cancer #1
I am physically sick right now. Yes I don't trust him and have been checking his email.
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  • Gabe N Abby Mom
    Gabe N Abby Mom Member Posts: 2,413
    #2
    I am at a loss for
    I am at a loss for words...but I do have big heartfelt cyber hugs for you.


    Linda
  • MAJW
    MAJW Member Posts: 2,510 Member
    #3
    Gabe N Abby Mom said:

    I am at a loss for
    I am at a loss for words...but I do have big heartfelt cyber hugs for you.


    Linda

    Yikes!
    Now that sucks! I am so sorry you're having to deal with this....I, too, don't really know what to say....but let it rip here! Vent away! Have you confronted him, yet? If verbal confrontation is difficult, perhaps you could put it on paper....by checking his email, have you been suspicious or was this a complete surprise?

    Sending you hugs,
    Nancy
  • CAchick
    CAchick Member Posts: 277
    #4
    I am so sorry
    I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. Nobody deserves this type of treatment. Confront him. Make copies of whatever you have as far as emails. He will try to deny it, or say that you are paranoid or something. Have evidence.
    You are worth better treatment than this and you did not cause this.
    LOVE AND HUGS,
    Sybil
  • AMomNETN
    AMomNETN Member Posts: 242
    #5
    Whoa

    Excuse my language but what an ****!!! You should sign up too with fake everything and meet up with him. I'd love to see his face when you sat down. Sending many {{{{{Hugs}}}}}}

    Janie
  • lynn1950
    lynn1950 Member Posts: 2,570
    #6
    Dear Vicki, I am so sorry.
    Dear Vicki, I am so sorry. Please see a counselor to help you navigate through this. xoxoxo Lynn
  • aisling8
    aisling8 Member Posts: 1,627 Member
    #7
    lynn1950 said:

    Dear Vicki, I am so sorry.
    Dear Vicki, I am so sorry. Please see a counselor to help you navigate through this. xoxoxo Lynn

    Ouch
    This is very painful. I send you a big hug.

    xoxo
    Victoria
  • ldpettit
    ldpettit Member Posts: 128
    #8
    I just don't understand how
    I just don't understand how he can do that. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this... of all things.

    My heart goes out to you!

    Lisa
  • RE
    RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
    #9
    :-{
    Oh Vicki I too am at a loss for words that kind of betrayal would be quite painful. I agree that counseling at least for you to help you find a way to constructively deal with this is a good idea. I am sending virtual cyber hugs and as you can see we are circling the wagons of support around you, hope you feel the love!

    BIG GIGANTIC LOVING HUGS,

    RE
  • mwallace1325
    mwallace1325 Member Posts: 806
    #10
    I'm so sorry
    I'm so sorry to hear you have to go thru this on top of everything else. Please talk with a counselor about your sanity and emotional stability. I'm also thinking that if you've gotten emails or other evidence of what's going on, maybe you could gather that, copy it then stop looking for more. I'm afraid having to continue finding evidence will just be harder on you than you need.

    Prayers and angels surrounding you as you navigate this issue.

    marge
  • aysemari
    aysemari Member Posts: 1,596 Member
    #11
    Take care of your precious heart...
    I know it must breaking into thousand pieces but if you ask me, it's DEFINITELY
    his loss!!! You are such a sweet, caring and witty Lady. He'll be searching for
    some time to find the likes of you. So you hold you head up high and don't let
    him hurt you. YOU are our precious sister and we love you too much to see you
    get hurt.

    I am giving you a HUUUUUGE HUG!

    Ayse
    PS: Would you like me to punch his lights out (;
  • jessiesmom1
    jessiesmom1 Member Posts: 915 Member
    #12
    Husband's Extracurriculars
    Unbelievable. I just heaved a DEEP sigh on your behalf. My thoughts are with you. Like others have suggested I agree with confronting him with what you have found out. Be prepared for denials, lies, etc. Think 1st if you want to go to counseling or go the lawyer route. What an awful situation to be in.

    IRENE
  • Dot53
    Dot53 Member Posts: 239 Member
    #13
    What the .....??
    Vicki,

    Hang in there.. I know this is tough to take but we are all here for you.. please promise that you won't allow him to blame you for his actions.. I would also suggest that you seek counseling as it will help you deal with your feelings..

    Take care..

    Big hugs,
    Dot
  • natly15
    natly15 Member Posts: 1,941
    #14
    aysemari said:

    Take care of your precious heart...
    I know it must breaking into thousand pieces but if you ask me, it's DEFINITELY
    his loss!!! You are such a sweet, caring and witty Lady. He'll be searching for
    some time to find the likes of you. So you hold you head up high and don't let
    him hurt you. YOU are our precious sister and we love you too much to see you
    get hurt.

    I am giving you a HUUUUUGE HUG!

    Ayse
    PS: Would you like me to punch his lights out (;

    I'm at a loss for words. All
    I'm at a loss for words. All I can say is ditto to everything Ayse has said. I will join herin punching out his lights. How dare he!!
  • Aortus
    Aortus Member Posts: 967
    #15
    On behalf of decent guys everywhere
    I know the term "decent guy" isn't a big part of your vocabulary right now, and I don't blame you. Still, I'm sorry to hear that he turned out to be such a Weiner. Kick his **** and move on.

    Joe
  • Punkindo
    Punkindo Member Posts: 113
    #16
    That is soooo wrong.....
    I am sooo soorry!!! Carma will get him......
  • jendrey
    jendrey Member Posts: 377
    #17
    Dot53 said:

    What the .....??
    Vicki,

    Hang in there.. I know this is tough to take but we are all here for you.. please promise that you won't allow him to blame you for his actions.. I would also suggest that you seek counseling as it will help you deal with your feelings..

    Take care..

    Big hugs,
    Dot

    ...
    I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Emotional infidelity is just as bad and worse than a physical one. Which it doesn't sound as if it's progressed that far yet?

    Have you asked him why?

    As painful as it is, you may be surprised by his answer if he's willing to talk about it. It could be the opener for much needed dialogue from him.

    As for your snooping through his email - well, you're his wife that's kinda' just your job. Too bad if he doesn't like it, he knew that would be part of marriage. And if he didn't--he knows now!

    Hugs and hopes for it all working out for you.

    If not, then I'm up for punching his lights out too!!!
  • mollyz
    mollyz Member Posts: 756 Member
    #18
    OMG
    I know your the only one seen his emails and I'm not taking up for him at no means is he actually "wanting" the person? or is it just conversational? Ladies I'm not sure if you realized it but our spouses go through also my Dr. told me my husband would have a harder time than me think about it they think they'll loose there life long partner maybe he's scared I mean I'm grasping at straws right now this is unbelievable what could be worst than the cancer,WE NEED TO LOAD THE PINK BUS FOR HIM AND GO BEAT THE "ASHES" out of him and ask him do he know what he's doing and boy the timing of a mid life crisis. I'm just saying ! this really gets my goat. mollyz
  • deeb111
    deeb111 Member Posts: 141 Member
    #19
    wow I dont care what they
    wow I dont care what they go through as well as us we are not looking for replacements you stick it out with the ones you love no matter what sorry for being so harsh but the truth is that is unacceptable behavior and im sorry
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
    #20
    deeb111 said:

    wow I dont care what they
    wow I dont care what they go through as well as us we are not looking for replacements you stick it out with the ones you love no matter what sorry for being so harsh but the truth is that is unacceptable behavior and im sorry

    Say WHAT!!! ... Sweet Vicki ...
    You take care of YOU, and only you. What a difficult time, and predicament to be in. I am so very sorry that you have to go thru this after all that you have suffered thru to beat breast cancer.

    In difficult times, you know who will stand by you .. in the good times, as well, as bad. Our true colors show in our actions.

    I am 100% behind you .... Do what is best for YOU!


    Strength and Courage.

    Vicki Sam
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
    #21
    VickiSam said:

    Say WHAT!!! ... Sweet Vicki ...
    You take care of YOU, and only you. What a difficult time, and predicament to be in. I am so very sorry that you have to go thru this after all that you have suffered thru to beat breast cancer.

    In difficult times, you know who will stand by you .. in the good times, as well, as bad. Our true colors show in our actions.

    I am 100% behind you .... Do what is best for YOU!


    Strength and Courage.

    Vicki Sam

    I am so sorry to see you go
    I am so sorry to see you go through this. We are here for you and use us to vent whenever you need to. There is just no excuse for this, none.
    Stef

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