A little kindness goes a long way....remembering those who exemplified it.
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Emily
Your kindness and understanding of everyone's unique challenges and opinions has been greatly appreciated. Even when I was too much of a coward to take your advice, you were never rude or hurtful and I appreciated that so much. Your story inspired me from day one, yet I was absolutely terrified. In the long run, I can honestly say you changed our lives. At the time, I just wasn't ready to listen. I didnt know who to listen to i suppose. Thank you for understanding.
My husband and little boy say thank you too!0 -
well said juice chick
its so simple is n't it and so easily overlooked.
a little kindness.
hugs,
pete0 -
Amazing friendsscouty said:Hey Girlfriend
Great post!
Bud was amazing and a great dancer! remember how mad he would get at the old CSN board as we outgrew it and was having so many problems. My first memory of Bud was back when I had so many questions and he would research and attach links for anything and everything people asked about. If it was a controversial topic, he would post all sides and show no bias, he simply let you read and decide on your own which was perfect for my chemo brain. At CP 3 @ Austin in 2006, he treated Linda, who had lost her husband to the beast earlier in the year, to a spa day the Saturday we were there. I had dinner with them that night and she glowed while he beamed. She was like a different person in every way and I swear he had halo over her head that night and you couldn't knock the smile off his face. One of the coolest things I've witnessed and it involved 2 people who had just met and it was not flirtacious or anything like that, it was just a very kind and thoughtful gesture.
With Kerry, every time I see a bag of cheetos I think of you and her and laugh!!! I talk to her all time and she will live in my heart forever.
I think I learned more grace under pressure from Andrea than I have from anyone in my life to date. For a young woman in her early 20's, she was truly special. Remember the whole purple gown and Barney thread as we all promised to be at her grad school graduation? I wish I had met her in person.
I'll mention another one just because I thought about her today. Jerseysue, from Michigan (she grew up in Jersey). She was one of the funniest people I have ever met. We both were in management at AT&T and it was great to have someone to talk about benefits, disability, etc. At CP 5 @ Nashville in 2007 a group of us occupied the back of the bar enjoying one of those dueling pianos shows and I was dancing with somebody and got videoed without knowing it. The next morning she told me she had seen it so I asked her how I did and her response was "not bad for a white girl" just as serious as she could. I almost wet my pants I was laughing so hard. So TODAY I'm running well jogging my favorite 3 mile mountain bike trail and had a personal best for my post cancer days! As I cooled down and was gving myself kudos, I swear I heard her say "not bad for a white girl". I smiled, then cried but it sure warmed my heart.
Thanks for the reminder that we are here to fight cancer and help each other. People do what they think is right for them at the time and no one should judge them for it no matter what that decision is. I feel strongly that each one of us need to have faith in whatever we do. I totally believe in attitude, laughing, faith (in something), and conviction. I had a great conversation with my onc once about his "miracle patients". He smiles his wiley smile and his eyes light up when he talks about them. But his definition was a patient doing really well that "I and the stats can't explain". He said all oncs have miracle patients so I think we all should ask our oncologists to tell us about 1 or 2 the next time we have an appt.
Have a safe trip and again thank you for helping me save my life!
Love, Lisa P.
Emily, your post is very touching....
I spent time with Bud in Austin and yes he was and always will remain a very sweet gentlemen. One day he went and ordered and paid for a massage for a member of our CSN family just to help her feel better. Bud loved to dance and I'm sure he could have given Fred Astaire a run for his money - but can't say much about his driving. You can go to you tube and find a tribute I made for Bud after his passing. Many of the pictures were taken at Kerry's home where we had the pleasure of meeting Kerry's family.
Remembering Bud
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NQAq06Q8c2Q
Kerry was an amazing women - always gracious and very classy. We had the pleasure of spending time with her in Las Vegas, Nashville and Austin Texas her home town. Kerry and her husband Merriman had all the semi colons ( Colon Palooza 5 ) to their home for a wonderful and memorable evening. You can see picture of Kerry through this link but the audio portion is no longer available.
Kerry
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3761ZE8t9rg&feature=related
Sweet Baby Girl Andrea Elder was wise beyond her years... sadly she lost her battle on May 10, 2006 at the tender age of 24. Living through colorectal cancer http://www.mcgill.ca/reporter/36/13/stein/
Kimby, I never knew but I know she was loved by all
Amazing friends that will live in our hearts forever ...
Always,
Lisa Rose
Also remembering Mark Gregory ( limey ) Susan Kowalski ( jerseysue ) and Dr Jana Miller. Thanks for the memories xoxox0 -
A Beautiful Post!
Thank you, Emily, for so eloquently stating the significance of this board and its members. Whether we were once daily contributors and now just check in on occassion or are presently benefiting from the support and collective wisdom of fellow survivors, we all share a common bond. It's one that has no borders.
Getting to personally meet Bud in Austin will always be one of my treasured memories. Scouty said it all....he was a true gentleman!
I can't type or say Kerry's name without tears in my eyes. Spending time with Kerry during her final days was an honor that I will always cherish. Even in the most difficult of times, her grace and dignity stood out way above her disease.
I never got the opportunity to meet Andrea or Kimby, but I respected and admired them both.
Mark, Jersey Sue, and Jana are just a few of the many others who are etched in my heart and thought of often with admiration and respect. They are greatly missed and loved.
Because I no longer post on this board, please know that each and everyone of you are special to me, and I pray that you will once dance with NED, as I have done for the last seven years. I owe my wellness to all of the wonderful friends I met here during my journey with Stage 3c colon cancer!
Healing hugs,
Kay0 -
I like your post
Dear Emily,
I have to say it's really a blessing to find this forum and receive so much support from the people here. Despite the fact that they are all fighting hard, they always give support, love and hope to the others. They welcome the newbies, share their experience and cheer each others up. I myself have received so much support and help from them which help me a great deal to walk through the first few months. Without reading posts from them and receiving their unconditional support, I cannot imagine how am I going to go through all these hurdles.
I would really like to show my sincere gratitude and appreciation to all of you!
Lots of love from Dora0 -
Thanks, Add my sweet JR to
Thanks, Add my sweet JR to the list. He didn't post much just looked. He loved All of you guys for what you have and had gone thru. I still look now and then. You are all in my heart. Best to all of you for the ones we have lost and the ones still fighting and the ones who have won!!!0 -
nice
I couldnt possibly write better then that which has already been written, so I won't even try.
I'll just say thanks for all you do and who you are.
greybeard0 -
Thank you
everyone for your kind reponses. I have been away from the computer for a couple days due to a trip out of town. I would respond to each and every one of you, but I am on my folks' computer and don't want to tie it up.
My mother was dx'ed with breast cancer and is having surgery tomorrow. I am now an official caregiver. Interesting road to walk with her on the other side of this cancer gig. People are commenting on how peaceful and calm she has been so far and her response is that she's walked this with two daughters now. Of course she also taps into the peace that surpasses all understanding, if ya know what I mean. ;-)
I brought my juicer along so naturally I will be pumping her full of kale and cabbage and what have you if she allows me to. My dad is wanting me to juice him so let's hope I'm just buzzing on that juicer all day long! HA!
But back to the post...I was hoping that you all would add your own sweet memories of those on here...like limey and Jana and fitlisa and JerseySue and others. I'm envious of those who have made it to the paloozas and have gone beyond the cyber realm to solidify the friendship bonds we create here. I am SOOOOO looking forward to the one in Chicago this fall. WOOHOO!!
If I don't take the train down you can count on my lugging my juicer along for some carrot cocktails! HA!
So thanks again for the sweet comments. If I don't respond just know that I'm here in spirit while I'm taking care of my wonderful mama. Any healing vibes, prayers, good thoughts, candle lighting is greatly appreciated.
SEMI-COLONS ROCK!!
peace, emily the juice chick who wants to turn her mama a beautiful betacarotene orange. :-)0 -
Thinking of you + your Mom2bhealed said:Thank you
everyone for your kind reponses. I have been away from the computer for a couple days due to a trip out of town. I would respond to each and every one of you, but I am on my folks' computer and don't want to tie it up.
My mother was dx'ed with breast cancer and is having surgery tomorrow. I am now an official caregiver. Interesting road to walk with her on the other side of this cancer gig. People are commenting on how peaceful and calm she has been so far and her response is that she's walked this with two daughters now. Of course she also taps into the peace that surpasses all understanding, if ya know what I mean. ;-)
I brought my juicer along so naturally I will be pumping her full of kale and cabbage and what have you if she allows me to. My dad is wanting me to juice him so let's hope I'm just buzzing on that juicer all day long! HA!
But back to the post...I was hoping that you all would add your own sweet memories of those on here...like limey and Jana and fitlisa and JerseySue and others. I'm envious of those who have made it to the paloozas and have gone beyond the cyber realm to solidify the friendship bonds we create here. I am SOOOOO looking forward to the one in Chicago this fall. WOOHOO!!
If I don't take the train down you can count on my lugging my juicer along for some carrot cocktails! HA!
So thanks again for the sweet comments. If I don't respond just know that I'm here in spirit while I'm taking care of my wonderful mama. Any healing vibes, prayers, good thoughts, candle lighting is greatly appreciated.
SEMI-COLONS ROCK!!
peace, emily the juice chick who wants to turn her mama a beautiful betacarotene orange. :-)
I am sending good thoughts + vibes to you + your Mom for great results with her surgery.
Juice on!0 -
I hope all goes well with2bhealed said:Thank you
everyone for your kind reponses. I have been away from the computer for a couple days due to a trip out of town. I would respond to each and every one of you, but I am on my folks' computer and don't want to tie it up.
My mother was dx'ed with breast cancer and is having surgery tomorrow. I am now an official caregiver. Interesting road to walk with her on the other side of this cancer gig. People are commenting on how peaceful and calm she has been so far and her response is that she's walked this with two daughters now. Of course she also taps into the peace that surpasses all understanding, if ya know what I mean. ;-)
I brought my juicer along so naturally I will be pumping her full of kale and cabbage and what have you if she allows me to. My dad is wanting me to juice him so let's hope I'm just buzzing on that juicer all day long! HA!
But back to the post...I was hoping that you all would add your own sweet memories of those on here...like limey and Jana and fitlisa and JerseySue and others. I'm envious of those who have made it to the paloozas and have gone beyond the cyber realm to solidify the friendship bonds we create here. I am SOOOOO looking forward to the one in Chicago this fall. WOOHOO!!
If I don't take the train down you can count on my lugging my juicer along for some carrot cocktails! HA!
So thanks again for the sweet comments. If I don't respond just know that I'm here in spirit while I'm taking care of my wonderful mama. Any healing vibes, prayers, good thoughts, candle lighting is greatly appreciated.
SEMI-COLONS ROCK!!
peace, emily the juice chick who wants to turn her mama a beautiful betacarotene orange. :-)
I hope all goes well with your mom. I am sorry cancer is visiting your family yet again. Clearly it does not realize what it is up against.
I have often times wondered what it would have been like if my mom had beat her colon cancer and we would've had each other to lean on. She definitely gave me the blueprint as to how to navigate my way through it. Maybe it was better she never knew about mine. Guess I will never know.
I will keep you and your mom in my prayers.0 -
Oh Emily:2bhealed said:Thank you
everyone for your kind reponses. I have been away from the computer for a couple days due to a trip out of town. I would respond to each and every one of you, but I am on my folks' computer and don't want to tie it up.
My mother was dx'ed with breast cancer and is having surgery tomorrow. I am now an official caregiver. Interesting road to walk with her on the other side of this cancer gig. People are commenting on how peaceful and calm she has been so far and her response is that she's walked this with two daughters now. Of course she also taps into the peace that surpasses all understanding, if ya know what I mean. ;-)
I brought my juicer along so naturally I will be pumping her full of kale and cabbage and what have you if she allows me to. My dad is wanting me to juice him so let's hope I'm just buzzing on that juicer all day long! HA!
But back to the post...I was hoping that you all would add your own sweet memories of those on here...like limey and Jana and fitlisa and JerseySue and others. I'm envious of those who have made it to the paloozas and have gone beyond the cyber realm to solidify the friendship bonds we create here. I am SOOOOO looking forward to the one in Chicago this fall. WOOHOO!!
If I don't take the train down you can count on my lugging my juicer along for some carrot cocktails! HA!
So thanks again for the sweet comments. If I don't respond just know that I'm here in spirit while I'm taking care of my wonderful mama. Any healing vibes, prayers, good thoughts, candle lighting is greatly appreciated.
SEMI-COLONS ROCK!!
peace, emily the juice chick who wants to turn her mama a beautiful betacarotene orange. :-)
I am so sorry cancer is visiting your family again. Being a caregiver is difficult, you want to make everything better and yet much of the time feel so helpless (don't know if I said that right but I think you know what I mean).
I will say a special prayer for your mom and entire family as you face this new challenge.
Tina0 -
You are like those whom you describe
Emily,
You were there for so many of us. You have been down the road, seen the big picture, offered hope. You are the person whom you described. Those on this board that have walked so many of us through the fire are true heros.
You unselfishly shared so much wisdom about things that are difficult to find answers to. It is because of you and others who came (come) here that people like me could find suggestions that where not part of the "normal" discussions and for that I am ever grateful. Thank you.
I wish you and your mom the best. She is a very blessed mom to have a daughter who can understand and help.
Jan0 -
Emily
Emily,
You and your mom are in my prayers. My mom was diagnosed with Stage 1 Breast Cancer in September 2010. She had surgery and then the 5 day radiation. She is fine now. I pray your mom comes through this well.
The peace that passes all comprehension is a gift.
Aloha,
Kathleen0 -
Hey Em2bhealed said:Thank you
everyone for your kind reponses. I have been away from the computer for a couple days due to a trip out of town. I would respond to each and every one of you, but I am on my folks' computer and don't want to tie it up.
My mother was dx'ed with breast cancer and is having surgery tomorrow. I am now an official caregiver. Interesting road to walk with her on the other side of this cancer gig. People are commenting on how peaceful and calm she has been so far and her response is that she's walked this with two daughters now. Of course she also taps into the peace that surpasses all understanding, if ya know what I mean. ;-)
I brought my juicer along so naturally I will be pumping her full of kale and cabbage and what have you if she allows me to. My dad is wanting me to juice him so let's hope I'm just buzzing on that juicer all day long! HA!
But back to the post...I was hoping that you all would add your own sweet memories of those on here...like limey and Jana and fitlisa and JerseySue and others. I'm envious of those who have made it to the paloozas and have gone beyond the cyber realm to solidify the friendship bonds we create here. I am SOOOOO looking forward to the one in Chicago this fall. WOOHOO!!
If I don't take the train down you can count on my lugging my juicer along for some carrot cocktails! HA!
So thanks again for the sweet comments. If I don't respond just know that I'm here in spirit while I'm taking care of my wonderful mama. Any healing vibes, prayers, good thoughts, candle lighting is greatly appreciated.
SEMI-COLONS ROCK!!
peace, emily the juice chick who wants to turn her mama a beautiful betacarotene orange. :-)
I hate to hear about your mom. I hope the surgery goes well and the recovery is quick. I'll light some candles for you two.
Roger0
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