In memory of Pam

tabur
tabur Member Posts: 71
in Colorectal Cancer #1
It saddens me to tell you that my Pammie passed away. Yet, I am also grateful that her pain is over. She has been in the Hospice wing of the Hospital since February 22nd. The nurses there took great care of her, bathing her, applying skin lotion and they even painted her fingernails. While she was able, she gave hugs to each of them.

On Sunday, her condition deteriorated and although I think she could hear us, she was unable to respond. My daughter arrived on Monday and from then on, one of us was always holding her hand and talking to her. The nurses also kept her very comfortable.

Each night, I slept in a recliner right next to her bed so I could hold her hand. Last night, just after midnight, I kissed her and wished her a Happy Anniversary. Today is our 32nd. I like to think she was waiting for this. Around 2:30 this morning I fell asleep holding her hand and around 4:00, she fell asleep holding mine.

She was 52 years old and a wonderful wife, mother and grandmother (Mimi). I wish you guys could have met her.

Rest in peace my darling. I love you so much.

I will continue coming to this board and provide input that I hope will be helpful. I owe that much for all the support that was given to me.

Bless you all. Keep up the fight.

Al
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  • here4lfe
    here4lfe Member Posts: 306 Member
    #2
    Al,

    My condolences. You wrote a beautiful tribute to your wife, and the love you have for her is very evident.

    Take Care
  • lizzydavis
    lizzydavis Member Posts: 893
    #3
    Al,
    Al,

    My heart goes out to you. May God bless you and give you strength and comfort. May your heart be filled with wonderful memories of the joyful times together.

    With sincere sympathy,

    Lizzy
  • tina dasilva
    tina dasilva Member Posts: 641
    #4
    sorry
    I'm so sorry for your loss .hugs Tina
  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111 Member
    #5
    Dear Al:
    Our deepest condolonces on the loss of your Pammie. You were an amazing caregiver to the love of your life, your Pammie. You were with her every step of the way in her journey and I'm so sorry she is now gone. Your memories with her will live on in your heart forever. May you find peace and comfort in the coming days, weeks and months. You will feel her love forever.

    Sincerely,

    Tina and George
  • pepebcn
    pepebcn Member Posts: 6,331 Member
    #6
    geotina said:

    Dear Al:
    Our deepest condolonces on the loss of your Pammie. You were an amazing caregiver to the love of your life, your Pammie. You were with her every step of the way in her journey and I'm so sorry she is now gone. Your memories with her will live on in your heart forever. May you find peace and comfort in the coming days, weeks and months. You will feel her love forever.

    Sincerely,

    Tina and George

    Al ,My deepest condolences,
    in this sad moment, you and Pam will be in my prayers today. You both will be always in my mind.
    Sincere and deep hug.
  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH Member Posts: 1,456 Member
    #7
    Al, I'm so very saddened by

    Al, I'm so very saddened by this news. My deepest condolences go out to you and your family. Rest in peace Pam... Cynthia
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    #8
    LivinginNH said:

    Al, I'm so very saddened by

    Al, I'm so very saddened by this news. My deepest condolences go out to you and your family. Rest in peace Pam... Cynthia

    Al
    i am very sorry

    michelle
  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    #9
    Dear Al
    I am so very sorry that you have lost the love of your life, but am grateful that Pam is no longer suffering.

    May the coming difficult days be eased with sweet rememberances of your life together.

    Hugs to you and all your family and friends,

    Marie who loves kitties
  • TMac52
    TMac52 Member Posts: 352
    #10
    Tears have been shed.
    Al,
    You brought tears to my eyes reading your tribute. Your Pam and I are the same age and it breaks my heart to see your loss so vividly. You are such a nice guy I hope and pray that you can now find some peace. Best wishes.
    Tom
  • dianetavegia
    dianetavegia Member Posts: 1,942 Member
    #11
    So sorry
    Al, You don't know me from Adam, but I have followed Pam's journey and had read how important it was to both of you to be together on your 32nd Anniversary. I really believe Pam held out to honor that wish. I know you'll forever miss her, but true love never dies.

    Wishing you comfort and only happy memories from today forward.

    Diane
  • idlehunters
    idlehunters Member Posts: 1,787 Member
    #12
    dianetavegia said:

    So sorry
    Al, You don't know me from Adam, but I have followed Pam's journey and had read how important it was to both of you to be together on your 32nd Anniversary. I really believe Pam held out to honor that wish. I know you'll forever miss her, but true love never dies.

    Wishing you comfort and only happy memories from today forward.

    Diane

    So Sorry Al....
    This news really saddens me and yes, brought tears to my eyes too. I am glad Pam is out of pain now. How I hate this dang cancer! Please do keep coming back to the boards. Prayers to you and the family. Pam will be missed a lot!

    Jennie
  • NJC
    NJC Member Posts: 73 Member
    #13
    Al, I am so very sorry for
    Al,

    I am so very sorry for your loss. She sounded like a wonderful woman. May she now rest in peace. I am glad that you were able to spend another anniversary together! I wish you and your family the best!

    Joe
  • Lifeisajourney
    Lifeisajourney Member Posts: 216
    #14
    Just wanted you know
    our thoughts are with you both. You have handled yourself with dignity and grace and I am sure Pam knows that you were there for her. Bless you both. Pat
  • Sonia32
    Sonia32 Member Posts: 1,071 Member
    #15
    Al
    My mum was 53, and she saw her 32nd wedding anniversary too, then left us. Your post really touched me, I'm so sorry for your loss of your beloved Pam. I'm so glad she had you, a loving family and friends. Glad you will keep coming to the board, your knowledge and insight will be appreciated to anyone seeking advice.

    Hugs
    Sonia
  • lisa42
    lisa42 Member Posts: 3,625 Member
    #16
    condolences
    Al,

    I'm so sorry you lost your beloved wife Pam. It saddens me, but I guess we can take a little comfort in that she's no longer in pain or suffering. She is at peace now.
    That doesn't take away the terrible heartache you now have to bear, I know. I am praying for you today.

    Take care,
    Lisa
  • Lori-S
    Lori-S Member Posts: 1,277 Member
    #17
    Al
    I am so sorry that you lost Pam to this dreadful disease but, am glad that you were there holding her hand and that you both got to see your anniversay in. My prayers are with you and the family in this time. HUGS
  • Patteee
    Patteee Member Posts: 945
    #18
    Oh Al it feels like another
    Oh Al it feels like another link in our circle is gone with Pam's passing. You will get through this, you will! Rest, take deep breaths, hold tight to your kids and your grandkids. Please keep us posted on how you are doing. We all care about you! Pam's memory lives on in all of us, we all move forward everyday remembering those this beast has taken from our lives. Her fight to live and to be with her family will not be forgotten by any of us.
  • mukamom
    mukamom Member Posts: 402
    #19
    Lori-S said:

    Al
    I am so sorry that you lost Pam to this dreadful disease but, am glad that you were there holding her hand and that you both got to see your anniversay in. My prayers are with you and the family in this time. HUGS

    So sorry to
    hear of Pam's passing. May she rest in peace.

    Angela
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    #20
    Sincerest Condolences
    Al

    I'm sorry on the passing of your wife, Pam. Everyone could feel the heartbreak in your voice leading up to this notification post.

    A love shared is a wonderful thing - and I believe you, Pam probably hung in there until your anniversary did come so she could be with you in spirit.

    Wishing you peace and calm during these upcoming days.

    -Craig
  • sasjourney
    sasjourney Member Posts: 395 Member
    #21
    Prayers for you
    I am so sorry to hear about Pam. You and your family are in my prayers. Take comfort that she is in a better place and not suffering. You will be together again someday.

    Hugs and love,
    Sara

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