How do you style this fluff on the top

Apaugh
Apaugh Member Posts: 850 Member

Prior to the journey through hell, my hair was shoulder length, straight as a stick, and solid white.  My hair has come back black and white.  Not even.  Sides are straight, the top is a big poof ball and very course.  I call it the duck's behind.  The back is curly.  What do I do with it?  Most times, I just look crazy.  Help!

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  • teresa41
    teresa41 Member Posts: 471
    Gel and hair oil

    hi yes I remember them new hair days I found hair gels and also oil for hair it will help with frizz and smooth hair mine came back a little wavy and before chemo mine was to the middle of my back ! I use to cry I hated the way my hair looked at the growing back stage frizzy , dry.  I went to a hair stylist she showed me the tricks for my hair again gels and the oil  not sure if it is still around but garnier fructis moroccan  sleek I used ! Any sleek oil for hair should be good it doesn't take much to use ! I also used a hair paste to I tried to not blow dry to much it made it worse ! It will get better hang in there I hope this helps ! Mine is back long and straight and Fine I battle oily hair now I can't use the hair oil anymore ! 

    Hugs

    teresa 

  • Apaugh
    Apaugh Member Posts: 850 Member
    edited March 2017 #3
    teresa41 said:

    Gel and hair oil

    hi yes I remember them new hair days I found hair gels and also oil for hair it will help with frizz and smooth hair mine came back a little wavy and before chemo mine was to the middle of my back ! I use to cry I hated the way my hair looked at the growing back stage frizzy , dry.  I went to a hair stylist she showed me the tricks for my hair again gels and the oil  not sure if it is still around but garnier fructis moroccan  sleek I used ! Any sleek oil for hair should be good it doesn't take much to use ! I also used a hair paste to I tried to not blow dry to much it made it worse ! It will get better hang in there I hope this helps ! Mine is back long and straight and Fine I battle oily hair now I can't use the hair oil anymore ! 

    Hugs

    teresa 

    thank you

    Thank you very much for responding.  I know some may think, stop griping.  You got hair and your alive!  I am grateful for that, I really am.  Though I am almost done with treatments, I still feel the pain and insult of this.  Everytime I look in the mirror at where my breast use to be reminds me, I will never be the same.  Everytime I try to tame this beast on top my head, I am reminded I have to fight harder and accept this new norm.  Well I just want to say that today, I dont like my new norm at all!  I may tomorrow.  I may have a better attitude tomorrow, but today, I dont have it.  Thanks for letting me pout today. 

  • Pritydaisy
    Pritydaisy Member Posts: 1
    edited March 2017 #4
    Coconut Oil

    First off, let me say that your allowed to vent. I felt all the same emotions that you are feeling. I cried over my hair and losing my breasts. Keeping a positive mind as much as possible is necessary, though sometimes it's not that easy and you have to vent to get it out..or cry. That means your human.

    For my hair, I used coconut oil. I used it as a rinse out conditioner when I showered and used it as a leave it conditioner at night. It only takes a little bit. When I fixed my hair to go out, I used Biomega Behave Smoothing Elixir (because coconut oil can make your hair look greesy). I also used a travel (mini) flat iron to straighten my short curly mess on the days I went out. I only washed my hair every few days, so I wouldn't have to use the iron/heat too much since my hair was coarse. I done this starting when my hair was only about an inch long. Crazy I know, but it enabled me to spike my hair and I felt I looked a bit better. Whatever makes you feel better, ya know?

    You will make it through this beast. Prayers for a better day tomorrow!

    Pritydaisy

     

  • Apaugh
    Apaugh Member Posts: 850 Member

    Coconut Oil

    First off, let me say that your allowed to vent. I felt all the same emotions that you are feeling. I cried over my hair and losing my breasts. Keeping a positive mind as much as possible is necessary, though sometimes it's not that easy and you have to vent to get it out..or cry. That means your human.

    For my hair, I used coconut oil. I used it as a rinse out conditioner when I showered and used it as a leave it conditioner at night. It only takes a little bit. When I fixed my hair to go out, I used Biomega Behave Smoothing Elixir (because coconut oil can make your hair look greesy). I also used a travel (mini) flat iron to straighten my short curly mess on the days I went out. I only washed my hair every few days, so I wouldn't have to use the iron/heat too much since my hair was coarse. I done this starting when my hair was only about an inch long. Crazy I know, but it enabled me to spike my hair and I felt I looked a bit better. Whatever makes you feel better, ya know?

    You will make it through this beast. Prayers for a better day tomorrow!

    Pritydaisy

     

    Thank you I appriciate your encouraging words.

    I appriciate you.  It sure is something I have to get use to.  I sometimes feel all that product in the hair makes my hair look dirty.  Mabye I am just not ready to accept this and will have to give myself a pep talk over it. 

    Hugs,

    Annie

  • peony
    peony Member Posts: 306 Member
    i found a good barber and

    I found a good barber and have been keeping mine very short.  Tapered on the sides and a little longer on top.  Once I'd  been bald for eight months, I kind of liked the freedom.

  • booksandnumbers
    booksandnumbers Member Posts: 30
    edited March 2017 #7
    Hair

    Like Peony, I keep my hair very short. I'm glad I have hair and it being so short is very liberating. You're right though, it feels and looks differrent than before.

  • lisenbysl
    lisenbysl Member Posts: 22
    I'm going through the same

    I'm going through the same thing! My hair is black and white, curly and not even. I use curly gel for now. When I don't it's a curly dry mess. Laughing It should get better.

  • Mnlmeyer
    Mnlmeyer Member Posts: 1
    Scared

    I am just beginning.  I had a lumpectomy last week and scheduled to start chemo (T/C/H) in two weeks. I am so scared that when this is all over and behind me, I won't look the same. I love my hair and don't want it to come back thinner or grey. My cancer is Er+ PR+ and HER2+

  • peony
    peony Member Posts: 306 Member
    Don't count negative chickens

    Don't count negative chickens before they hatch Mnlmeyer. I've been told that I look better than I did pre-cancer.  The fear is natural and expected, but at least we can travel this bumpy road with you. I didn't even find this site until I had finished treatment. Feel free to ask any question and rant any rant.

  • camul
    camul Member Posts: 2,537
    I have gone thru the bald and regrowth so many times on chemo

    8 months ago I had brain radiation. There are 3 areas on right side that had gro n in about a quarter inch! Lol and it is dry and kinky and flakes from the burned tissue and follicles. I use oils and hair creams.  

    About a month ago my sister and I found a site with short sassy pixies for ladies.  Most are about 40+ (age group) and I did the short sexy sassy one.  A month later the left side, top, and back is about an inch and a half and the 3 bald spots arestl less than a half inch and little curls, color hasn't changed ever (other than all my dye colors over the years, red, blonde, brunette etc.  I now found a barber who does the pixies! $7.  and look really cute, have always had thick healthy hair.  Have received more compliments than ever.  It is so easy, just was told to only use shampoo 2-3 times a week.  It has turned out to be kind of fun.   Cant wait for him to do it!

    kind of Jamie Curtis (she was one of the pics), but a little longer on on side. Never knew I could pull off short hair!  Like all of us thou, I would rather have my old head of thick white (or what the color of the month) was.  I was white in my 20's.  But am having fun with it!

    Moan, and grown all you want, much easier for us to understand it than friends and family who just feel we 'should' only feel gratitude.  I have no problem saying cancer sucks with a capital F. and I don't thinkmy 4 sibs going thru it would disagree!

  • Teach76
    Teach76 Member Posts: 351 Member
    edited March 2017 #12
    Changes after treatment

    I finished active treatment in July, and it took about 3 months until I felt that my hair was somewhat presentable.  Everyone kept telling me how they could not wait to see my curly hair because everyone they knew who went through treatment had it.  Well,  I am still waiting for a curl. . .  hair is poker straight (just as before) and coloring is black and white (just as before).  At first I felt my hair was coming in thick, but as soon as Armidex/ then switched to Femara were introduced it began to thin.  I have added Biotin supplement along with the other wonderful drugs post treatment.  Onco said it seems to help some patients struggling with hair issues.  If nothing else, at least I feel I am doing something active. (Taxotere/Cytoxin effects)

          Whatever is there, rejoice!  It may also take some time. . . I remember that the back and sides seemed to get started first, and I feared the top was lost for good.  Now I have hair all around. . . just not growing too fast and seems thinner.

    Kathy

  • Beepositive
    Beepositive Member Posts: 259 Member
    edited March 2017 #13
    Mnlmeyer said:

    Scared

    I am just beginning.  I had a lumpectomy last week and scheduled to start chemo (T/C/H) in two weeks. I am so scared that when this is all over and behind me, I won't look the same. I love my hair and don't want it to come back thinner or grey. My cancer is Er+ PR+ and HER2+

    Hello Mnlmeyer..Beepositive!

    hello Mnlmeyer..Im new to all this too just had my left breast mastectomy and started breast reconstruction/have breast tissue expander  March 7, 2017! invasive lobular cancer ER+ PR+. I had CT and bone scans done prior to surgery and thank God no cancer was there..just the left breast and had to remove a large number of nodes (thank God i demanded additional testing after my last mamo because i knew something was not right otherwise i would have waited another year for my next mamo.   DO LIKE I HAVE BEEN DOING..KEEP ASKING A LOT OF QUESTIONS!  YOU WILL BE FINE....BEEPOSITIVE