double mastectomy Oct 26

bevaschia
bevaschia Member Posts: 53

Just posting an update.  I saw the surgeon yesterday.  Surgery has been slated for October 26th for double mast.  I'm triple positive.  Initial mri had mass size at 3.2 x 3.1 cm. With three rounds of taxotere, herceptin, and perjeta chemo, it's down to 7mm x 1.7 cm. I'm very scared of the surgery and what the sentinel node will reveal.  Any words of advice from our sisters in pink on preparation, recovery, etc?  Love and prayers to you all.  Bev

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  • twnkltoz
    twnkltoz Member Posts: 169 Member
    No advice, just lots of love

    No advice, just lots of love and positive thoughts!

  • bevaschia
    bevaschia Member Posts: 53
    twnkltoz said:

    No advice, just lots of love

    No advice, just lots of love and positive thoughts!

    Thank you!

    Thank you!

  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
    bevaschia said:

    Thank you!

    Thank you!

    Ahhh .. I am a sister in PINK that has walked this

    path -- ..  Please know it is doable - hard, with side efforts but doable. 

    Please keep us posted.   

    Vicki Sam

  • Datsy
    Datsy Member Posts: 31
    You are in my prayers.

    You are in my prayers.

  • desertgirl947
    desertgirl947 Member Posts: 653 Member
    You CAN Do It

    Although it may all seem overwhelming, it is do-able.  Been there.  Yes, it does take some time to recover from all the body goes through.  My sequence was different, as my treatment hinged on what the path reports would show from the surgery.  So, I had surgery first.  Chemo second (eight infusions every other week, four of adriamycin and cytoxan and then four of taxol).  Radiation third.  Hormonal therapy now.

    I will say that for me, it was easier to sleep in my recliner chair.  I think it is because I just never was one to be able to sleep on my back as it was.  I did sleep there for about three months.  I was not house-bound for long.  I was out (not driving) with friends and family about three weeks after my surgery.  I probably was driving soon after that -- although it was tricky having the seatbelt (had a small pillow I used).  During chemo, I was feeling pretty good most of the time.  For the AC, I think I had maybe two or three days when I felt queasy and that was it.  With the radiation I had a little burning, but not enough to cause delays. 

    I made it a point not to be house-bound, as I thought it was helpful.  I am in education and work with young kids (some parents send them to school even when they are sick).  So, I did not work; however, I did pop by to talk to my supervisors to update them on things.  I did visit my class once, but the teacher warned them not to hug me or stuff like that.  They (2nd graders) did all right.  I was out to church, but I say way in the back so that it was not obvious if I chose not to stand for parts of the service or drank from my bottle of water.  Because I had some issues with coughing, I could easily leave the auditorium.

    How well did I do overall?  The end of the week I had my second infusion, I went to Ohio (from central NY) for a family reunion.  That was a last-minute decision, as I wasn't too sure how I would be.  Ten days after I finished chemo, my husband and I went on a four-day trip to southern PA and my class reunion in Southern MD.  I paced myself and did very well.

    We all know that we don't all handle our treatments the same, even if they are the same.  But, I hope things go well.  I did have a few struggles, but they were minimal.  I am now three years past all that and doing well.

    e

  • bevaschia
    bevaschia Member Posts: 53

    You CAN Do It

    Although it may all seem overwhelming, it is do-able.  Been there.  Yes, it does take some time to recover from all the body goes through.  My sequence was different, as my treatment hinged on what the path reports would show from the surgery.  So, I had surgery first.  Chemo second (eight infusions every other week, four of adriamycin and cytoxan and then four of taxol).  Radiation third.  Hormonal therapy now.

    I will say that for me, it was easier to sleep in my recliner chair.  I think it is because I just never was one to be able to sleep on my back as it was.  I did sleep there for about three months.  I was not house-bound for long.  I was out (not driving) with friends and family about three weeks after my surgery.  I probably was driving soon after that -- although it was tricky having the seatbelt (had a small pillow I used).  During chemo, I was feeling pretty good most of the time.  For the AC, I think I had maybe two or three days when I felt queasy and that was it.  With the radiation I had a little burning, but not enough to cause delays. 

    I made it a point not to be house-bound, as I thought it was helpful.  I am in education and work with young kids (some parents send them to school even when they are sick).  So, I did not work; however, I did pop by to talk to my supervisors to update them on things.  I did visit my class once, but the teacher warned them not to hug me or stuff like that.  They (2nd graders) did all right.  I was out to church, but I say way in the back so that it was not obvious if I chose not to stand for parts of the service or drank from my bottle of water.  Because I had some issues with coughing, I could easily leave the auditorium.

    How well did I do overall?  The end of the week I had my second infusion, I went to Ohio (from central NY) for a family reunion.  That was a last-minute decision, as I wasn't too sure how I would be.  Ten days after I finished chemo, my husband and I went on a four-day trip to southern PA and my class reunion in Southern MD.  I paced myself and did very well.

    We all know that we don't all handle our treatments the same, even if they are the same.  But, I hope things go well.  I did have a few struggles, but they were minimal.  I am now three years past all that and doing well.

    e

    Thank you, Desertgirl.  So

    Thank you, Desertgirl.  So glad you are doing well.  Can you elaborate on the things you could or could not do by yourself right after surgery and how bad the pain was?  I've completed chemo on the front end, but will have to do more after surgery.  

     

  • desertgirl947
    desertgirl947 Member Posts: 653 Member
    bevaschia said:

    Thank you, Desertgirl.  So

    Thank you, Desertgirl.  So glad you are doing well.  Can you elaborate on the things you could or could not do by yourself right after surgery and how bad the pain was?  I've completed chemo on the front end, but will have to do more after surgery.  

     

    I can't say the pain was all

    I can't say the pain was all that bad.  I made myself get out of my chair and go eat supper at the table.  I did not prepare the meals initially, as my husband and church friends took care of that the first few days.  My sister came for a week to help with anything she could.  She cooked up some entrees and froze them for us. 

    I had drains to contend with at the start.  Because I slept in the recliner, they were not a problem.  If I recall, I was rid of them about 10 days after surgery.  I went to the surgeon's 1-2 times a week for follow up.  He would take a needle to pull out more of the fluid.  That did not hurt because I could not feel it.  I may have done that over three weeks after the drains were removed. 

    I think a big reason that the pain was minimal is that I was numb across my chest -- still am -- where the DRs did their magic.  Being jostled could be a bit uncomfortable, if I was out in the car (rode in the back seat so I did not have to wear a seatbelt).  Coughing and laughing were not a problem for me.

    What was difficult for me was strectching and reaching.  For quite a long time, I felt pulls when I did things as simple as try to look over my shoulder.  Even if I took deep breaths, I could feel pulls.  Now I don't have those issues.  It took exercise and moving/reaching to help with that.  I still have some problems with that BUT probably it is due to an earlier sports injury (shoulder) from which I never was 100% afterwards.  The scar tissue and radiation just exacerbated it.

     

  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member

    I can't say the pain was all

    I can't say the pain was all that bad.  I made myself get out of my chair and go eat supper at the table.  I did not prepare the meals initially, as my husband and church friends took care of that the first few days.  My sister came for a week to help with anything she could.  She cooked up some entrees and froze them for us. 

    I had drains to contend with at the start.  Because I slept in the recliner, they were not a problem.  If I recall, I was rid of them about 10 days after surgery.  I went to the surgeon's 1-2 times a week for follow up.  He would take a needle to pull out more of the fluid.  That did not hurt because I could not feel it.  I may have done that over three weeks after the drains were removed. 

    I think a big reason that the pain was minimal is that I was numb across my chest -- still am -- where the DRs did their magic.  Being jostled could be a bit uncomfortable, if I was out in the car (rode in the back seat so I did not have to wear a seatbelt).  Coughing and laughing were not a problem for me.

    What was difficult for me was strectching and reaching.  For quite a long time, I felt pulls when I did things as simple as try to look over my shoulder.  Even if I took deep breaths, I could feel pulls.  Now I don't have those issues.  It took exercise and moving/reaching to help with that.  I still have some problems with that BUT probably it is due to an earlier sports injury (shoulder) from which I never was 100% afterwards.  The scar tissue and radiation just exacerbated it.

     

    Multiple pillows in various,

    Multiple pillows in various, sizes help with sleeping on your back -

    Some Sister in Pink find sleeping on recliner for the first 3 to 5 nights is also a comfortable alternative

    Please make sure you know how 'to' milk your drains - which will be in for several weeks after bilateral surgery

    Prepare meals in advance and freeze 

    Run all your errands - I was instructed NOT to DRIVE for 5 days

    Please have cups, saucers, plates at arm level - as well as re-arranging your 
    fridge for more commonly used items at arm levels. Tide/Downy small container 
    sizes - also at arm level. Reaching up and grabbing heavy items -- will tear 
    your stitches, as well as hurt your arms. Muscles and tissue in breast, as well 
    as arm areas will be cut,moved and sewn back together.

     
    My husband installed a flex shower head & hose so I could shower.  No sponge baths for this Sister in Pink ...  nope, no, no. 
     I was able to maneuvering the flex hose from waist down, as well as place shower water under my arms and so on.

    I was given a list of exercises to do at home that would help with my healing process.

    honestly,  When post - OP nurse told me me about milkinggmyndrains and keep a recoe of fluid, I had no idea what she was referring to .. please have your nursing staff or doctors office assist you before surgery.  First time I milked my drains, I just about pulled my drains out .. no joke.

    gentle hugs,

    Vicki Sam

  • jay_rogers
    jay_rogers Member Posts: 14
    Surgery

    Do not be afraid of surgery. By surgery you will be in better state. It may ask for some scarifies but it will almost reduce the tissue sells of cancer that causes problem. Be brave and good luck.

  • Mamacan
    Mamacan Member Posts: 2
    Bilateral mastectomy

    I am  47 years old and I just finished chemo, now I am  worrying and just a little afraid of having this surgery; on the 22th Oct  I go back to give the plastic surgeon the ok to go forward I will be having the back muscle, fat, and blood vessel brought to the front to form the breast, I am not 100 percent sure this is what I should be doing, but I do know I don't want saline, or silicone, so it's a flap for me.

    I just thought if any of you ladies could give me some advice on the long term affects of the flap surgeries, that would be great, because really that's what I am afraid of is that I don't know what's going to happen down the road, with losing muscle from one place to another.

     

    Thank you

    Michele

  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
    Mamacan said:

    Bilateral mastectomy

    I am  47 years old and I just finished chemo, now I am  worrying and just a little afraid of having this surgery; on the 22th Oct  I go back to give the plastic surgeon the ok to go forward I will be having the back muscle, fat, and blood vessel brought to the front to form the breast, I am not 100 percent sure this is what I should be doing, but I do know I don't want saline, or silicone, so it's a flap for me.

    I just thought if any of you ladies could give me some advice on the long term affects of the flap surgeries, that would be great, because really that's what I am afraid of is that I don't know what's going to happen down the road, with losing muscle from one place to another.

     

    Thank you

    Michele

    A few more days to go ... Thinking about you dear Sister

    in Pink ...   Sending magic sprinkiles your way.

    Strength, Courage and HOPE for a Cure.

    Vicki Sam

  • sweetvickid
    sweetvickid Member Posts: 459 Member
    Piece a cake

    Surgery was easy never haad any real pain.  Bought a wedge pillow since I didn't have a recliner.  Helped keep me on my back and made t much easier to get up by myself.

     

  • bevaschia
    bevaschia Member Posts: 53
    Thank you

    Thanks everyone for the well wishes.  Monday is double mastectomy day.  Getting nervous.  8am is the lymphosentesis (sp) and then 1230 is the double mastectomy.  I pray sentinel node is clear.

     

  • Ace44
    Ace44 Member Posts: 47
    bevaschia said:

    Thank you

    Thanks everyone for the well wishes.  Monday is double mastectomy day.  Getting nervous.  8am is the lymphosentesis (sp) and then 1230 is the double mastectomy.  I pray sentinel node is clear.

     

    Will be thinking of you and

    Will be thinking of you and hoping things go smoothly. I did think of one more thing and maybe you already have one but a small soft pillow for the ride home to go between you and the seatbelt. The hospital gave me one but just in case. 

     

  • Puffin2014
    Puffin2014 Member Posts: 531 Member
    sending prayers

    Sending prayers that your surgery goes well tomorrow

     

  • GlowMore
    GlowMore Member Posts: 789 Member

    sending prayers

    Sending prayers that your surgery goes well tomorrow

     

    Surgery Today*

    We are all praying for you today as you go through your Surgery and waiting in the Pink Waiting Room for your first post to let us know you are ok.   Glo

  • button2
    button2 Member Posts: 421
    GlowMore said:

    Surgery Today*

    We are all praying for you today as you go through your Surgery and waiting in the Pink Waiting Room for your first post to let us know you are ok.   Glo

    Bev, how did it go?

    I'm waiting along with Glo in the pink room. Best wishes for a speedy recovery....Anna

  • twnkltoz
    twnkltoz Member Posts: 169 Member
    GlowMore said:

    Surgery Today*

    We are all praying for you today as you go through your Surgery and waiting in the Pink Waiting Room for your first post to let us know you are ok.   Glo

    Thinking of you and sending

    Thinking of you and sending best wishes!

  • bevaschia
    bevaschia Member Posts: 53
    update after bilateral mastectomy

    HI, surgery went well.  A little pain right now, but they are getting me some medicine.  Sentinel node revealed NO cancer.  So happy!  Thank you all for your prayers and waiting in the pink room.  Thoughts, prayers and love for you all.

  • Ace44
    Ace44 Member Posts: 47
    bevaschia said:

    update after bilateral mastectomy

    HI, surgery went well.  A little pain right now, but they are getting me some medicine.  Sentinel node revealed NO cancer.  So happy!  Thank you all for your prayers and waiting in the pink room.  Thoughts, prayers and love for you all.

    So happy that the surgery

    So happy that the surgery went well and the biopsy revealed no cancer. Hope you are resting well. 

    April