I'm 32 and an only child to a single mom who is getting ready to pass

My whole life it has been just me and my mom. She was diagnosed in august of 2013. This week will be her last week with me. Although I am an adult, I still have the overwhelming feeling of becoming an orphan. I know I am not the 9nly person to fall into this catagory but I'm feeling very alone. My mother is who has always rallied behind me. I could tell her anything no matter how embarrassing.  I could ask her any question without feeling stupid. She always had great life advise. I just don't know where I will turn in the future. I know there is nothing I can do for her now but make sure her last wishes are met and make sure I live a life she would be proud for her only daughter. Our last real conversation, before the onslaught of medication, lasted three hours. We laughed and told stories and learned new things about eachother even after we thought we knew everythi mg there was to know. She is heavily sedated on medication now and will remain that way until it's her time to go. I don't want her to have to ask for anything. I feel alone. Absolutely alone. Ive got great friends and wonderful support, but I just want my mom. Sounds kinda pitiful and selfish. I miss her already.

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  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    Sorry

    im sorry that you are going through this. You think you are ready, but you really aren't. In the Surviving Caregivers Board you will find a thread about only children losing a parent. Maybe you can find some support from those who have had a similar experience. I'll keep you in my thoughts. I'm glad you have friends who can be there for you if you let them. Take care, Fay

  • Rach_27
    Rach_27 Member Posts: 2

    Sorry

    im sorry that you are going through this. You think you are ready, but you really aren't. In the Surviving Caregivers Board you will find a thread about only children losing a parent. Maybe you can find some support from those who have had a similar experience. I'll keep you in my thoughts. I'm glad you have friends who can be there for you if you let them. Take care, Fay

    Thank you for the kind words

    Thank you for the kind words and direction. I truly appreciate it!

  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
    not selfish - honest

    I took care of my mom in the months and years before she passed.  After we lost her I sat in my husband's lap and held mom's purse and cried like a baby wanting my mom.  I was 54 at the time.

    I am sorry y'all are going through this.  It is just hard.