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mrs_blkjak
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Blkjak has been struggling for a while. The drugs that showed some promise several weeks back quickly stopped working. The rumors in his lungs have gotten so big and he was hospitalized for a few days last week. He came home on oxygen. Last night his breathing was really labored. So we went back to the hospital and he was admitted it the ICU. He died this morning. I am so sad for my children and myself. Even though he wasn't doing well, he really went quickly once he went downhill. He was so miserable the last few weeks and I am happy he is in peace. But I miss him horribly. 

While I wanted to let you all know this, I also want to do a Texas Wedge-style disclaimer. Brad only survived 13 months from diagnosis. However, nothing about his case fit any norm for RCC. They could not classify his type and really felt that he had a rare and very aggressive form of RCC. So please don't lose hope for yourselves. I know he would want others to remain positive and focus on living. 

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icemantoo
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Mrs-b, Sorry about your loss. From what I remember about your posts, he was a fighter and that counts a lot.

 

Icemantoo

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rainsandpours
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My condolences.  So sorry to hear this.  Thinking of you....

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nsb748
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Very sorry for your loss.   

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danbren2
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My Dear mrs_blkjak,

     I wish there was some magical words that I could say to help take away the pain that you and your children are feeling right now.  I was so hoping that he would do an about face and be ok.  I am sending love, prayers, and strength to you and your family.  I also know that every time the doctors tell me that I am NED, I will make sure to say a thank you to Brad for being another angel who will continue helping us fight this horrible disease from up above!

                                                  Love and prayers,

                                                   Brenda

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angec
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I am so sorry to hear this! I must say, I am in shock!  I never expected this after that post that the chemo was working for him.  I don't have many words, except that I am praying for you all! May God watch over you all and comfort you.  So sorry!  XOXO  You have have been a good support system to him, I am sure he knew this and appreciated and loved you very much!  

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Jan4you
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(((( HUGS  )))) to you and yours~so sorry for ALL you are enduring.

I am grateful you came here to let us know. Life can be fragile. But as you said, he's done suffering. He'll show his presence around you, please know that. Watch for it! He's as close as your breath.

Let us know how you are doing. I too am a widow, slept with his clothes on the bed for awhile to feel his scent and to hold onto something, BUT I still feel him all around me..guiding me.

Unfortunately only you can grieve, we cannot do that work for you. I wish we could...

Know that I'll be thinking of you especially.

Warmly, Jan

 

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Jan4you
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Was reading some of you and your hubby's past posts. You mention going to UW-Madison. Do you live in Wisconsin? I do.

Jan

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mrs_blkjak
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We do live in Wisconsin!

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Djinnie
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I am so very sorry for your sad loss Mrs. Blkjak, no one has fought harder than you and Brad to beat this awful disease. At such a time here you are with words of support for the rest of us. We can honor Brad by fighting as hard as he did. I will keep you all in my prayers!

 

Djinnie x

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foxhd
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It is a sad outcome. I can only imagine how hard this must be. I feel terrible for you and your family. You provided Blkjak with compassion and understanding. I'm sure he is looking down and thanking you. I'm so sorry.

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Alexandra
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I am so very sorry for your loss. May his love live on in your memories and bring you peace.

brea588
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So sorry for your loss.  Lifting you up in my prayers.

N_Woods_Gal
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May you find comfort in knowing you are in the thoughts and prayers of many.

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Jojo61
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I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine how difficult this must be for you. Your devotion to him was something I always admired. And even now, you worry and care about us and our fights. God bless you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Big hugs,

Jojo

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Skagway Jack
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I only knew Brad through your post.  I am very saddened by this turn of events.  I hope you find comfort in knowing he is in a better place albeit entirely too soon.

Deepest sympathies,  Jack

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canadiancruiser
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I am sorry for your loss, prayers sent to you and your family...

 

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Gordon Charles
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 Missing a loved one hurts no matter how much we think we understand.....thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

izzycohen
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I am so sorry to hear of Blkjk's passing.  Thinking of you.

 

Izzy

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Suekub
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To hear this news today. My thoughts are with you and your family. Having lost my own husband 9 months after being diagnosed with metastatic melanoma I think I know what you are going through. I am fighting hard against mRCC for the sake of our daughter who doesn't deserve to lose both parents to very similar diseases. I so hate cancer!

please take care of yourself and your children.

kind regards

Sue

 

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cran1
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Very sorry for your loss Mrs B. You are in my prayers..

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twinthings
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I'm so sorry for your loss, Mrs B.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your children. 

God Bless.

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sblairc
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My thoughts are with you and your family during this time. I am so very sorry. 

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alice124
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John just relayed this devastating news, and we’re both at a loss for words. So very sorry. May you find some solace in the fact you were one of the most determined, supportive advocates I’ve had the pleasure to know on this Board, and Brad knew that.  Know that your heartbreak is shared by your many CSN friends.

God bless you and your family. . .

todd121
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Bless you for thinking of us and providing reassurance to us even at this most difficult time. I'm very sorry to hear this news.

Peace be with you.

Todd

Srashedb
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as a fellow caregiver, I offer you my heartfelt condolences. You fought for your husband like a mama bear and your letting us know ala TW that his cancer was different and aggressive makes you an incredibly thoughtful person.

you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers; I am so sorry for your loss.

Sarah

a_oaklee
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Mrsblk, I am so sorry to hear this news about your husband.  It came as a shock to me because I had thought things were finally moving in the right direction with the chemo drugs.  Without a doubt, Mrsb, you were incredible with the help that you gave your husband.  I hope it is some comfort that you know the two of you did everything you could possibly do.  I wish I could help you in some way....I could lend an ear via email....give a cyber hug....truly wish I could do more.  Please know that I will always be happy to read posts from you, and yet, i can imagine that this website might be something that you need to put aside, and concentrate on healing.  My thoughts and prayers are with you, the children, and all the family. 

Annie

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mrs_blkjak
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Thank you all for all of the kind words. He fought so incredibly hard and did not want to leave us. I miss him so much. I may still pop in here from time to time. You were all so supportive to both of us throughout the last 13 months and I hope that I am able to pay that forward to others who come here scared and looking for support.

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foxhd
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I hope our support can continue to carry you. It is all about paying it forward. Others will come here on the same path as you and Blkjak. We are family in a large aspect. It goes both ways. Please continue to participate. There is a lot of love to go around.

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Cate1273
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So sad and sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!

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Karen0074
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mrs blkjak I have only recently joined but had read most pages of topics and I was always touched by the love and support that you and blkjak both showed one another. Hugs to you xx

 

strongmind
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Sorry to hear that Mrs B..!!Condolences to you and your family.

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Darron
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Very sad to hear this. He was a fighter and you did a great job supporting and helping.

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jshorty29
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I'm incredibly sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts & prayers.

 

Jenny

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dme59
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So sorry for your loss. My condolences to your family.

 

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