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KTeacher
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Has anyone heard from Catluver? 

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jim and i
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No I haven't in awhile.

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phrannie51
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since the day before the surgery....that's been a long while... Frown.

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Grandmax4
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about her, hope the surgery was successful and we get word in the not too distant future. Makes me think, if, God forbid, we have to have treatment and are unable to post, maybe we should tell our family, to let our friends on CSN know what's taking place

 

KTeacher
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I usually have my sister post for me after my surgeries here and on FB.

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phrannie51
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a list of places on the net...dog forums, facebook, and here to contact if I was unable to make contact myself.  I got the idea from you, Bev....so people would know what was going on.

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KTeacher
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At my 'surprise' 60th birthday party a week ago, one of my friends thanked my sister for keeping everyone up to date on my recovery after surgeries.  Stanford is 2 1/2 hours away from home and I am in no shape to post coming out of anestesia.

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debbiejeanne
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bev, i wish we would have known about your bday!!  we would have loved to celebrate it with you cyberly.  anyway....

dj

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hwt
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I have also thought of her often and wondered how she is doing. If anyone hears, please post.

John W
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Hi everyone.....This is John. Vicki's husband. We have lost an angel. Vicki passed away in my arms on Tuesday 4-15. She had a couple of rad treatments on her leg the last Wed. and Thurs. to alleviate the pain before her passing and that seemed to put her over the top. She became comatose and in a vegatative state (Could have been a combo of rads, brain lesions and pain meds) She was the strongest woman I had ever known. To go through all of this in three years, it was a total nightmare. I wasn't a part of this site but I certainly knew of it and I'm sure she would have wanted me to let everyone know. I knew she respected and, to a point, loved each and every one of you. You helped her through the tough times until she couldn't write anymore. I want to personally thank each of you for helping her. She is incredibly loved and will be incredibly missed. Thank you again.   John 

PS...If anyone would like to discuss this more...I find it very cathartic. I am loss and our house is very empty now. How I miss her.....

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lornal
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  I looked everyday for Vicki's post.  I was in the hospital at the same time she was in Feb/Mar - and I thought of her often.

Thank you so much for letting us know.  My prayers are with you and your family.

katenorwood
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John,

My condolences for the loss of your lovely wife Vicki.  She will be missed by many here.  Katie 

KTeacher
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So sorry to hear about your loss.  We were wondering when we hadn't heard from her.  Thank you for sharing.

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phrannie51
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to hear this news.  She will be missed here...a positive and happy light for everyone.  I'm so sorry for you loss, John....please do come back and talk here all you want.....we are great listeners...she was part of this family, too.

Again.....I'm so sorry about your loss.

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debbiejeanne
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john, i'm so very sorry for your loss.  we will all miss vicki.  this is the second death in a week from this damn disease and it tears me up.  i can't help crying as i type this.  we truly do come to love and care about one another on this site and it hurts deeply when we lose someone.  i'm praying for you and your family at this very sad time.  please come here anytime you want/need to talk or just want some company.  we will be here for you, John, just like we were for Vicki.  God bless you.

dj

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rachel12yrsuv
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John, 

i am so sorry about your loss, i will pray for the to ease your pain and grief!

 

rachel 

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wmc
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John i'm trully sorry for your loss. I enjoyed when she posted and got a lot from them. Vicky will be in my prayers as will you. She will rest in peace.

wmc

Sunshine60
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Dear John,

I am so very sorry for your loss .  Vicki was special to all of us here and she will be missed.  I so hate this disease :( :(

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donfoo
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I am very sad to hear the news of Vicki's passing. She is free of the pain and suffering at last. Hopefully you know she is in a better place now even though the hole is massive and the hurt indescribable. Don

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PJ47
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Thank you for taking the time to write and let us know during your grief, as we have all been looking for a word from her.  Please keep writing and know we will listen,

PJ

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Hondo
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My prayers and thoughts are with you in this time of sorrow, I know it is hard on our caregiver as the help us through the fight. I just want to thanks you for being a loving caregiver to Vicki, in all my trials my caregiver Wife was right there by my side. I could never have don it without her and my oldest daughter who stuck with me through the many ups and downs in my life.

 

God Bless and keep you in His tender care.

Hondo  

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CivilMatt
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John,

My deepest condolences in the passing of Vicki, she was a special person.

Matt

Guzzle
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John , I never had the pleasure of conversing with your wife but it is obvious that she touched a lot of hearts here. I am sorry for your families tragic loss sir. I will be lighting a candle in Liverpool Cathedral. Gary.

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KB56
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John, I am really sad to hear of Vicki's passing and the loss that you and your family must be feeling.   Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Sincerely,

Keith

John W
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Thank you everyone for sharing your thoughts. I went back to work today and everywhere I turned...there were memories. I just have to take this day by day.

A little more info for everyone to digest...After surgery (Feb 24) and ICU, Vicki went to a care center for rehab. 17 days of not much. It was turning into palliative care. The leg mass and back/hip areas were too painful to attempt any PT. Now, bedridden. Still fluid enough to converse. She was finally released on March 21st. Home...finally. But..the morning of March 23...rushed her to the hospital via ambulance. She was in shock. Lost 4 units of blood. Couldn't see it anywhere...She had passed out a couple of times trying to move her to the comode. Low oxygen to brain. We just about lost her then. ER got her blood transfusions. She had a large ucler in her duodenum caused by massive amounts of pain meds. Ulcer cauterized. HMG levels up for a while but declined over a few days. Drs wanted to do colonoscopy. She was impacted. Could only do a partial one. Bleeding stopped on own. Moved to a better care center on April 7th. As I said...tried a couple of rad treatments and in 8 days, she passed. 3 years of absolute hell. Hug your loved ones. Love your pets. Take care of yourselves. You never know. This is and will be the hardest thing I will ever go through.

KTeacher
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John,  You are welcome to stay with us but there is a forum that might also be helpful.  There is a Grief and bereavement forum if you scroll down on the Discussion Boards.

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jim and i
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John, so sorry to hear of Vicki's passing. I lost my love on the 18th and I know the whole you are feeling in your heart. If you need to talk you can PM me .

Debbie

John W
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Yea...you're right KT...I'll move on. Thanks for listening.

KTeacher
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Please stick around and visit.  I was not asking you to move on, just another support option.

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Grandmax4
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to hear of your wife's passing, the road ahead will be long and windy , but, she's now walking the streets of gold. Please don't take Kteachers suggestion in the wrong way..we want you to come here as often as you want, I know Kteacher was just trying to be kind and offering more options to express your sorrow, and talk to others that are traveling the same road as you

 

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