Feb 20, 2014 - 1:05 pm
My husband is 1 week post radiation. He is still on a liquid diet (but after reading so many posts, we expected this). I had to laugh at him last night becuase he tried to eat a Gold Fish and about threw up at the taste (I'm not being mean, he's a little melodramatic, so his reaction was funny!) But prior to that, he had a major meltdown, which took me by surprise!
I knew the last 2 weeks of radiation were tough on him, and that he was down more so than usual. But he never would tell me what exactly was going on and how bad the crap coming out of his mouth was, or how severly his throat hurt. I work full time during the day, so he would get up and text me to say he was feeling OK, so I'd go about my day. We have been at odds with each other the last couple of days, so when we started talking last night and made up, he broke down about how awful the last 2 weeks were on him. And I do mean broke down, crying and all.....I feel like a horrible wife because I allowed him to pull the wool over my eyes! He said that he would rather have died if he knew how bad the last part of radiation would be. Well, I've already had one husband die on me, so I had to slap up side the head when he said that!
He's better today, and is anxiously waiting to get the call to go back to work. He drives a train and says that work will help take his mind off the fact that he can't eat, and hopefully make the time when can seem to come quicker. I don't blame him, I couldn't sit at home feeling decent, doing nothing. But with him being on a liquid diet only concerns me a little. Will he have the stamina to drive/sit around waiting on a train for 12 hrs? His normal work schedule is one that takes him out of town, he gets about 10-12 hrs rest, then heads back home....then it starts all over again in another 10-12 hrs.
So, to my question...and of course it's about intimacy. He doesn't have the crap coming out of his throat anymore, but still has a few sores (that we can see) in the back of his mouth. He wants me to kiss him, but I'm not sure it's a good idea just yet. He doesn't have any saliva, how's he going to perform that task?? LOL Anyway, what has been others experience with the post cancer intimacy?