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I wanted to share this to try and relate this perspective..   At one time or another (or constantly) we all fear the worst and that the Cancer will do us in.  Sadly that happens.. but I just got an e-mail from a pal's wife...  Yup my pal passed away yesterday... geeesh.   He did not have Cancer...  In fact I had recently talked to him and he said he was doing well and was working on a motorcycle project.... sigh... geeesh..   At least he was not in a rocking chair going woa is me...

Just a note to LIVE folks... keep on living... one day we will be gone no matter what... no time to worry about the bad...

Please be well all......

Ron

 

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Move forward by embracing the uncertainty of life as the one and only certainty. We’ve all been stamped with an expiration date. Unfortunately, some of us are living a little more precariously between the “best before” and final expiration. But you can't dwell on that. YOU JUST NEED TO LIVE YOUR LIFE. 

 

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Sorry for the loss of your friend, Ron.

What a shock!

Makes us appreciate all we have TODAY!

Feel better soon~

Hugs, Jan

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Jan.. thanks... you are a treat around here...!  I am ok... just making the point we need to live more and try to worry less....

Had a blast tonight with a bunch of pals... it was good to get out..!  

Tomorrow I will call my pal's wife and see if she needs anything... gosh they were every so close... Hope she is handling it well..

Ron

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Ron, you've had too many friends pass on in the recent past. It sucks getting older. but it is MUCH better than the alternative. It helps cherish our time.

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First, my condolences.  I am still young enough where only a few of my peers are gone. 

I just want to remind people that even us with cancer can drop dead....last summer, I had a cardiac stent put in.  I had been having Angina for 5 weeks...but I thought is was related to the cancer.  I had gone to my Primary Care Dr twice, and he did not think much of it. 

Finally, when I had it after the NED, I though it could be heart, and called the cardiologist, and 1 week later, they found a 98% blockage in the LAD artery. 

So, with metastatic cancer, you can have other things wrong unrelated to the cancer. 

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Ron, as a widow and having worked in Hospice, I know the best thing you can do for any survivors after a death is to REMEMBER them! Many folks, not wanting to make you feel badly, never, ever mention the person who died. To the survivor it feels like others deny they ever lived!

So know that as time passes, she'll need more support if just to share memories..and a hug of course! Hopefully for her (and you too I bet) he will make his "presence" known..

Warmly, Jan

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Sorry for your loss, Ron. It really hits home when your friends die. We start to feel vulnerable. You are right though - it proves that we need to savor and enjoy life and living!!

It makes you re-think things in your life. Re-prioritize. We lost our best man last year...just a few weeks after I was diagnosed. I lost my mom a few months before that. I am not sure if it was the loss of two loved ones within a  few months, but I felt that losing our friend was harder!! He just turned 50. Or maybe because I was still grieving my mom, my grief just increased. Who knows. But it hit us hard. Life is precious and short - no matter how long you live! Live and love to full capacity and that is all you can ask for!

Hugs,

Jojo

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Just last week a good friend's brother passed away from complications of the flu, he was 55, we never know.  Live every day as though its your last, and be thankful every morning when your feet hit the floor.  My father had a life long friend affectionately known as Wild Bill.  When you asked Bill how he was doing the answer was always the same "STILL SUCKIN' AIR!!!" followed by a belly laugh that rattled the walls, everybody laughed with him.  That's the attitude we should all have.

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So, this Friday is my pal's funeral, then right after I head to the airport.. no time to waste.. big shin dig Saturday nite up near Portland..  

BUT, looking at the calendar, OH SH***..  Time is flying by...

My big race is mid August, but they  are taking entries now... have to be in by the end of March..  My rider is all set, whew..!  But the bike is not.  I just got a new swing arm last week, and now have it almost ready to install.  Still no new front suspension... and still waiting on parts so that I can get the bike to the dyno..  Lots to do and time is flying by...  Oh yes and then there are two events (4 races) here in California late April / early May.  Time to get my butt to work..!

And all of you here are so special to me..!!  I mean that..!!  All the good tales and we rally together when the story is not so good...  Nice to see some of the old timers show back up to tell us they are doing OK..

Life is short no matter what...  keep on living..!

Any rich widows out there that like race bikes.. look me up... heh Cool

Be Well All..!!

Ron

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Right back at you, Ron. Everyone on this forum is so wonderful, it is hard not to love 'em!!

Good thing you are retired so you can get all that work done!

Hugs,

Jojo

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JoJo..  you know your smiling face has a very calming effect...  so nice to see mostly smiles here lately... although a couple of our group are facing new challenges..

Today was one of those good days... as my Granny used to say.. "Ronnie is full of piss and vinegar".. and today I was/am..!  I got a lot of work done on the racer, then sat down here to see a few videos..  check this link out... I think it automatically goes to the next video..  

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FOuh6D5Q_4I&list=PLOJpnyYvE2pTOJtWpr7P3FBJhR9gLSpmf

Hope all had a great day..!!

Ron

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This is one of those times I want to curse, spit, say bad things.. and maybe hurt someone if they look at me the wrong way...  No, I won't get violent.. but that is how I feel.  I may have another family member that has the crud... geeesh...  If so, then I have suggested all the women on that side of the family get tested.. F*** it pisses me off...  Hope some of these new treatments pan out... we all deserve a break..

Thanks for the vent session.....

Back to normal.. wait, I was never normal...

Ron

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Prior to my dx in 2009 seven people close to me including my father-in-law succumbed to rcc and 2 years ago another friend, who thankfully is doing very well, was diagnosed. My hatred of this disease runs deep, but I am happy that today there are treatment options available we didn't have when my friends, relatives, and co-workers were fighting and losing.

Keep the faith,

Gary

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Thakns Gary... that was like the second time I felt the need to "scream" in here..  Being that I just reunited with these two less than a year ago after about a 40 year spread..  In a few hours, I get to find out if my eyesight damage is reversible... lost a lot of vision, which I would gladly give up in trade for NED.

Ron

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This is the first I remember hearing about that, is it from the meds?

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I will find out (I hope) in about an hour...  seems like blood in my eyes... a bit dark...  could be non Cancer related...

Ron

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Ron:

you have had your share, and then some, when it comes to loss; please let us know about your relatives as soon as you find out.

How long have you had vision problems? Again, please post as soon as you know.

Meanwhile, fingers crossed that this nightmare does not cross over into reality.

Sarah

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Oh Ron, I am so sorry. I hope it all goes well. Please keep us posted. We are thinking about you, hon.

Big hugs,

Jojo

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Thanks Ladies..!  Well, my local eye doc could not find anything wrong with my left eye.  My right eye "she thinks" may of gotten a bit worse.  I suspect she does not have enough magnification to see it.  I will wait a few days and see what happens.  The only "treatment" are heat packs on my eyes 4 times a day. In 1993 I had what is called Toxoplasmosis, which was slayed by heavy steroids. but left floaters in my right eye, plus occasional hemmoraging.   That part is fine, and no hemmoraging in about 15 years.  However my Doctor back then used three levels of magnification to see inside the eyeball.  Looking back it was kind of funny, two large pieces of magnifying glass both pressed up against my eyeball, then the third one on his head.  Seeing very small things inside the eyeball is difficult for the doctor, but easy for me to see.  If I have any additional concern I will try to contact my old doctor who is a 3rd generation Opthalmic Surgeon.  This guy is awesome..!  As we all know, getting the right doctor is key... 

Ron

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Another... OK, so, true to form, I did do my helpful deed for my Cuzzie..  She lives in a smaller town away from a large city.  The soonest she could be seen by a local Dr was almost a month away.. not good enough.  So she asked me if I could get her a referral.  I e-mailed my Onc, who emailed me back in about an hour..  Her appointment is today.  One of the most rewarding things for me is helping others.. whether here or on S.P. or through other methods of contact.   You could say it brings some additional purpose for us all.  And the people here are "Aces"..!!!  (especially you wonderful women..)

It is almost 5 am, soon the sun will shine today..!!!!

Ron

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There has not been a better supporter of everyone here, and there, for that matter, than Ron. Always with a positive outlook. Humor in the face of disaster. Comforting all when panic strikes. He deflects the self attention as unnecessary. He has given the shirt off his back so often to help others he thinks the fruit of the loom label was the signature of a gay tailor. I don't think most people realize how compromised Ron's health has been. This forum by it's nature can be very egocentric. We tend to reach out for others often forgetting our problems may not be as severe as those we ask for help. And what does Ron say? "The sun will shine today!" We all have many lessons to learn from MR. BSA.

Here's to Ron. Your Karma runneth over. Be healthy my friend.

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and foxy, that's a pretty good description of you as well!!!

You both are ROCK STARS

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You guys.. geeesh.. thanks for all the kind words..!!  OK, so get this, one of my old work pals called me the other day..  We met 34 years ago and worked together until 1990.  But wqe stay in touch.. he retired a few  years ago.   Anyway he confirms my address... and says watch the mail.  He sent me a Silver Angel..!   Check this out...

http://www.govmint.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/480x325/9df78eab33525d08d6e5fb8d27136e95/2/0/2014-isle-of-man-1-oz-silver-angel-bu_249765_1.jpg

It is a special silver coin from the Isle of Man.. where I should be racing this summer.. well my bike will be racing..!  

Good friends are priceless.!!

Be Well All..!!

Ron Cool

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OK, a great story... and guys like Fox will relate.   There are only two racers in the WORLD that have won championships on both 2 and 4 wheels.  One is not from the U.S. and his name is Surtees.  The other is a very well known character who lives locally to me.  This guy used to be our head chef every Wednesday night.. sitting at the BBQ with his glass of wine, telling stories from the past.  Now this guy hung out with guys like Granatelli, Smokey Yunick, A.J. Foyt, etc..  I am talking about Smokin Joe Leonard.  Joe won a bunch of championships on a Harley, back in the 50's.  However he never got a factory ride, boy did Harley screw up..!  He was also a USAC Champ as well.  Joe raced the Indy 500 in the STP Turbine car, which, while in the lead, broke it's throttle linkage on the last lap.. he was laps ahead of the eventual winner.  That Turbine car was immediately banned from competition it was so fast..!  Now Joe is around 80 years old now... and he has had like two heart attacks.  Joe no longer tends the BBQ, but he is with us almost every Wednesday..  He still has his dinner and glass of wine.  Well maybe two or more glasses is more accurate.  Now I  should say that Joe is a big guy.. not some puny jockey..!  And Joe has some awesome stories.. we should record some of them... but wait some are not G.P. Rated... oh my...   Joe's left arm is in a sling and his one foot is not 100% either.. and so the health issues have taken him down a notch.. BUT, just ask him about his grand daughter, he lights up with a huge smile...   And Joe always smiles anyway..!

OK, at this point I will tell you that I have yet to shake his hand... but that will soon change.  You see, a work pal of mine from back east has always been a fan of Joe.. and he just e-mailed me and asked me to get Joe's autograph.  This means I HAVE to shake Joe's hand.  Imagine putting your right hand in to a very large press and having someone pull the handle and not let go...  that is how Joe shakes hands... it WILL hurt, I will see stars..!  I will beg for him to let go..!  That is our Joe..!!

Looking forward to the rock crusher soon....

Yes, Life is good..!

Ron Cry

 

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If fox would grow his hair out that could be himWink

Pretty cool

I remember that race, it was Granatelli's car wasn't it? Please give Joe a squeeze from me!

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Fox.. I love it..!  Well in the last few days... I helped another person.. it really did not take much.. but it made a difference.  This person has all these Cancer symptoms, and her local Dr is dismissing her.. not good.  So, I send off an e-mail to my Onc.. who gives me a referral.  Well, this person had a check up yesterday by a junior league Doctor, but he did write a scarey report...  Today the main man was contacted and he had a good plan of action, ordered up all the needed tests and got the wheels in motion.. oh yes and he will do the surgery..  Aha..!  The right "referral" works..!    You all know how good it is to help others, when they fear the Cancer crap.. and are not able to think clearly, etc.   I was never a Boy Scout... maybe I am now...    Today is a "Fell Good" day... bright sun, warm.. had lunch on the ocean... yup, life is good..!!

Be Well All..!!!

Ron Wink

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my sister-in-law has had bouts of toxoplasmosis; she was told that her childhood pet, a cat, was to blame.

the bad news: it is a recurring thing which feels miserable;

the good news: it is NOT life-threatening.

Sarah

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Sarah, Toxo should not repeat..  I took some heavy drugs which included steroids and it killed that little bugger.  The parasite is common to cat feces, and you get it prenatal.  This is why doctors are supposed to tell expectant Mothers about hygene and ask about cats in the house.  The Mom injests the parasite and the parasite goes to the fetus.. and to a water source.  This is typically the eye or the brain.  They really can not treat it in infants, which can be a big problem.  A gal pal of mine (lost contasct with her, boo), her X's kid had the parasite eat part of his brain.   I was luckier, my immune system kept it in check until my 30th birthday, then it woke up and started eating.. I have several floaters due to that.. but no big deal.

 

And yes, the Turbine car was known as the Andy Granetelli STP Turbine Car...

Ron

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that turbine car also. I can see it in my head.

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