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Hearty Pioneer
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 Starting today my mom begins hospice. She is 71, she has arhythmia, pneumonia, COPD, osteoporosis, fibromyalgia, triple bypass, and just recently her left kidney has died and her right is operating at less than 30%. She has lost a lot of weight and is down to 87 pounds. When my dad used hospice in 2009 it was for three weeks. I don't know for how long mom will need their service.  I will be providing her care at night. 

Of course when death is this close it makes me think of my own journey.  I feel like I dodged that bullet in 2012. Death seems to always be hanging around the corners of my life, today it has pulled up a chair and is sitting right at the family table. I don't like it.

Prayers are welcomed.

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NoTimeForCancer
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There are no words to ease your pain but I pray that God holds your mother in His loving hands and gives strength to you and your family at time.

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scatsm
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I'm thinking of you and hoping this time with your mother will bring you both comfort and peace.

Susan

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lovesanimals
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Sending lots of prayers to your entire family and praying that your mom is comfortable and pain-free at this stage of her journey.

Kelly

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poopergirl14052
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God bless you and your family....Val 

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wholfmeister
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I will be thinking and praying for you and your mother.

My own mom will be 93 next month.  I'm not ready...

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Cafewoman53
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I'm so sorry ,I hope you  and your Mom have a good experience with hospice .

You are truly Hearty Pioneer

 

Colleen

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Alexandra
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I hope your mom is comfortable and at peace.

Hugs,

Alexandra

mopar
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So sorry your Mom has come to this stage of her life.  Many of us, I included, are familiar with all of the mixed emotions, difficult days and moments, and so much more during a time like this.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Monika

 

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Hearty Pioneer
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Thank you all for your kind words and prayers. Mom is home and stronger than she was at the hospital.

Every day is a gift!

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Mwee
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Glad to hear that your Mom is feeling stronger.  ((((HUGS))))  Maria

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wholfmeister
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You and your mother have been in my thoughts and prayers.

Wondering how things are going for you. I imagine you must be very busy. Don't get worn down!

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Hearty Pioneer
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Mom has had days where she requires full assist to move from wheelchair to toilet to wheelchair to bed. Also, she had one night where I could not understand what she was saying-- lot of mumbling and disjointed speech. She is sleeping more and fairly crabby when awake.  We try to keep her pain free, but she does not want to take any more meds.

 

Sunday is my sister Annie's 50th birthday.  She has significant disabilites.  She is home this weekend and very excited for her party.  We are going to her favoirte hamburger place for lunch and party.  She spreads such joy and simple happiness.

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wholfmeister
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Thamks so much for the update.  but, you neglected the question, "how are you?"  I suspect you are so busy you don't even notice your own needs. I'm praying for lots of folks to step up and ease your burden as you provide tender care for your mom.

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scatsm
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I hope you are getting the support you need from your family and the hospice team. I want to echo Merrily's thoughts...how are you holding up through this? 

All the best,

Susan

 

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