Jan 28, 2014 - 1:30 pm
My mom has brain cancer and I am acting as her primary caregiver. I am really struggling with being both a good caregiver and a good (new) roommate. I try to keep open communication and understand why, when she seems to be feeling well, she can't participate in the simplest of household tasks - namely putting food away when she is done with it and closing doors (car, garage, etc) so the pets don't get out and the house isn't open to anybody who walks by. I don't mind doing her laundry, cleaning, really everything else, but I am getting irrationally angry when she plays solitaire for hours but can't put the milk back in the fridge, even when asked. Does anybody have any experience with a parent who is physically capable of helping, but doesn't have the attention span nor the desire to make life any easier? We also argue over things I feel like you'd fight with a child over, like why she needs to bathe everyday, why she shouldn't open mail and leave the wrappings all over the floor, etc. I'm trying to pick and choose the most extreme and safety needs, but I'm getting so frustrated.
Thanks in advance.