Jan 03, 2014 - 10:56 am
I've been thinking about this for quite awhile. I wonder if y'all can give some input. It seems that many people face their cancer diagnosis with fear, worry and then aggression. First, what a terrible diagnosis to be given. Then the worry and concern for their life and the impact on the family. Next is the I'll do anything to get rid of the cancer, and the 100% committment to surgery and drugs. Life becomes VERY valuable. After nephrectomy there is some time spent recovering. Sudenly a type of depression developes. Even though we have increased our survival chances. Maybe the reality of what has happened hits home. Maybe time has let us realize our mortality. Maybe it is the knowing that it can come back. We do our best in our recovery. It is the only thing we have some influence over and now it is behind us. I'll bet most of us have dealt with this bummer of a trip. Not addressed much. What is your input?
I also wonder about those people who join the forum in an absolute panic after diagnosis. Begging for information and support. Then they disappear just as fast. Where are their heads at?
Since I've been here, (and long before me), members drop off. Some do pass on. Some are back to normal lives, and some are just tired of dealing with this publicly. Our group is always evolving. Some have no cancer IQ or knowledge. Some become research genius'. Some like me focus on living like a lucky retiree enjoying each day and looking forward to tomorrow. I don't over think it anymore. I try not to let it run my life. I hear all the time that I've got a good attitude. I really don't know how that helps. Cancer doesn't look for input from our "attitude". I have faith in my care team that they are doing the right thing. And as long as I agree with the plan, I don't, or so far haven't , second guessed them. Hell, I should be dead. It is their decision making that has me prospering nearly 3 years after the fact. I have committed to the care plan. (this may change after next scan. I hope not) What is the philosophy of being a cancer survivor for you? What keeps you sane and productive?
I guess as I await my next scan, I have been thinking about the psychological impact cancer makes upon us. We discuss the physical impact every day and lend a shoulder to lean on but how about the long term influences on how we live?
ramble, ramble, ramble..............(I'm guess I'm putting off shoveling snow).........