Dec 23, 2013 - 12:07 pm
For many here this can be a very difficult time of the year. Coming up on my 5th Christmas without my husband, I still feel the loss. We did so many things together. He was the package wrapper, so as I throw/place gifts in bags I remember him wrapping everything with great care. Decorating the tree is becoming easier. I didn't have one for a couple of years. Christmas Eve was our night. That's when we did the family dinner. Again this year, one of my sons is choosing not to be here. I still will have one son and family along with my sister, brother-in-law and some good friends sharing dinner tomorrow evening. My mother passed away in September. She didn't really know me the last couple of years, but it will still be my first year in many when she isn't here. Life changes whether we like it or not. Yet, I know I am blessed in many ways.
For the newly grieving, I want you to be careful. I had a minor car accident that first Christmas. I was in a major fog. I have read here and elsewhere that that isn't uncommon. Be aware that little, often silly, things can hit us and we may find ourselves in tears. Don't let anyone tell you how you should feel. It's ok to feel lost and hurt while others are celebrating, maybe even especially then. For me the season has become easier. I have such wonderful memories, but even those can hurt at times. That's ok, too. Take care of yourselves. Change your traditions or cling to them. Whatever is right for you. Know that you are not alone.
I wish you all peace with blessings and cyber hugs. Fay