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Has anyone heard anything about Trevor?  I've been very worried because I haven't seen anything at all for quite awhile.  Please tell me he is doing better?

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I've wondered the same thing, Tillie.  Praying he's OK. 

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About a month ago there was word from his daughter that he had been admitted to the hospital with acute renal failure, that he was gently fading, and that it was time to say our goodbyes.  There has been no word since that I am aware of.  Wherever he may be, I pray that he is at peace, I miss him.

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I too think of TW daily... but the lack of any info lead me to believe we have lost him some time ago...  it puts tears in my eyes, even as I type this..  I felt a closeness that I can not describe... Peace brother...

Ron

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I just called his place of employment and they told me that several weeks ago Trevor James Powell passed away. I asked them to give the family the condolences from all CSN members who loved and respected him.

Rest in peace dear Texas Wedge.

srbelle1
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very sad news; expected but very sad. RIP, TW, RIP

Sarah

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Thanks for the confirmation Alex, it is as I thought, but good to know for certain.  Have I told you all lately how much I HATE CANCER!!!

Rest in peace T

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Good Morning!

Isn't it interesting that you feel as if you know people on the discussion boards, even though you have never met.  Obviously the closeness is due to the fact that we have a common, albeit terrible, bond of being in the RCC "family".  I read posts on this forum for several months before actually joining and always learned so much from TW's posts--about medical issues and about coping with the disease and all of its baggage.

Sharon

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It is indeed very sad news. RIP.

 

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I really feel like I have lost an elder brother. 

Goodbye my dear friend.

Words fail...

srbelle1
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by the time I joined, TW was quite ill and exhausted most treatments; what will stay with me as defining of his character was his repeated admonitions that his cancer was unusual and that his outcome should not cause anyone to become more fearful.

a man who had endured what he had and who was facing death found the energy, attitude and care to think of others that he knew only through an online connection speaks volumes to his character.

sarah

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Thank you Alex for the confirmation!  I knew in my heart he was gone, but did not want to accept it!  We all love Trevor and rightly so.  Our dear friend was so brave and uplifting right up into his end!  In fact, when he was told that there was nothing else that can be done, he took this very well and was very content with it. I will miss him greatly!  I know that I will see him again and that will keep me going!  He wants us all to be strong, keep fighting and keep being there for one another. 

In Trevor's honor and memory, I have tried to link his picture to my name. This is the picture of the Owl he took and sent me not so long ago.  Each time we see it we will remember him and how the Owl was seen through his eyes!  I hope I uploaded it correctly so if we don't see it maybe someone can write me and let me know how to do it correctly.  That was one of the first emails i ever got from TW last year, telling me how to upload my pic!  Life will not be the same without Trevor.

I pray for his family to be strong and hope they are well. Love you so much, Trevor, miss you terribly! Always in my heart!  XOOX  Thank you for all you have done for us all!

 

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Requiescat in Pacem...

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Bye Trevor you will live on in our Hearts and our Fond Memories,i was Humbled just to have Known you.

todd121
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If anyone could surive this disease by will-power, wit, intelligence, and compassion alone, it would have been TW. I haven't been on here much these past few weeks- busy with my life and found myself spending a lot of time here that wasn't necessarily helping my state of mind. I had a feeling he wasn't doing well from posts I read a few weeks back, but actually expected to see him here when I logged in today.

I'm going to really miss seeing his posts here. I wish his family at home well, and his family here too.

We were blessed by his presence. I'm very grateful to have "met" him through this board.

Todd

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I haven't been on here for a while and this is the first message I see when I came on.  It is really such sad news that Tex has gone but his advice and wealth of information that helped a lot of us on here will go on for a very long time.  He did a lot for so many on this site which I for one will be forever grateful.  Rest In Peace Tex.

Eims x

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I'll never be able to remember Scotland without thinking of Texas Wedge.  He was a source of information and inspiration to all of us.  May his spirit live long.  His heart was as big as Texas and his quest for knowledge regarding kidney cancer was just as large.  The fact that he could and did share with all of us endeared him to everyone.

I'll toast you with Oban this evening, my friend.

Donna

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Wedgie and I joined this site about the same time. We shared our optimism and encouragement. He became a valuable friend. One of many from this forum. He will be missed. Love you my friend.

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Tex was the first to make me realize cancer was not an overnight death.  He was kind, informative, and very confident about fighting the fight and not giving up.  Thanks Tex, much love to you and I will miss you terribly!

                                                                                                           Brenda

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I wish I could take this post back, asking if Tex was alright, because I really didn't want to hear that he was gone.  I'm so sorry for his family's loss and for our loss of a gruff, put up with no BS, loveable gentleman.  Damn!  I hate to hear this.

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I was beginning to fear the worst, but did not want to voice it! Trevor was an amazing man, I shall miss his wisdom and guidance, he is irreplaceable! Rest in peace dear friend!

 
Djinnie x

 

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Rest in peace TW..

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Godspeed TW. I think about you every day and I will continue to remember you fondly.

David

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Speechless, and in tears.

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Who could have said it better?

 

 


 

 

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip.

 

You don't have to actually answer the questions. Just ponder on them.

 

Just read it straight through and you'll get the point.

 

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.

 

2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.

 

3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.

 

4  Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.

 

5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.

 

6. Name the last decade's worth of  World Series winners.
 

 


 
How did you do?

 

The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.

 

These are no second-rate achievers.

 

They are the best in their fields.

 

But the applause dies.

 

Awards tarnish.

 

Achievements are forgotten.

 

Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.
 

 


 

 

Here's another quiz.  See how you do on this one:

 

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.

 

2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.

 

3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.

 

4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.

 

5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.
 

 


 
Easier?!
 
The lesson:

 

The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the
most credentials, the most money...or the most awards.

 

They simply are the ones who care the most.

 

Though I never had the pleasure of shaking his hand, sharing a drink or playing a round of golf together, I will remember him for as long as I walk this earth.  He cared more for others (even veritable strangers) than he did for himself, no greater thing can be said of a man. 

T, I shall celebrate your journey until we meet again, fair thee well my friend, my brother, know that you are loved.

 

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is that with my limited computer savey, I have not been able to find any obituary posted in any Scottish newspapers. Why would that be? His daughter had sent me an email on oct. 16th stating the end was iminent. But that was the last I heard.

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First Tillie, don't be sorry you asked. I, for one, am very glad you did.  The emotional turmoil in not knowing has been brutal. My heart refused to give up while my brain told me a miracle was unlikely. But we all know what a playmaker TW is (was), and I, for one, refused to believe he was gone until proof was received. 

So Alexandra, thank you for the confirmaton. I, like Fox, searched for an obituary and found none (making me think a miracle was in play).  And Fox, I too find that odd.

TW, may you now be free of pain and at rest* (*or chasing golf balls in the heavens).  As I've told you on numerous occasions, you are forever in my heart. And the heart lives on. . .

 

 

 

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Obituary... I searched for it too. But some very "on it type of gal" on this board was able to track down his workplace, so i am guessing she will be able to come up with his obituary.  ;)  But rest assured, there were not enough sentiments in it to satisfy this bunch!  I somehow feel TW was short changed in many ways!  If only things worked out better for him, but I know he went down fighting and better yet, he was still very upbeat and encouraging until the day he passed.  As tears STILL stream down my face, I also have a big smile!  Just think of how empty my life would have been if we had never met!  Love you Trevor.  I hope you like the pic I use in your honor and in remberance of you!  It is a nice shot! There are not many WISER than you! :)

 

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Who knows, maybe Trevor didn't want one. I tried to contact Justine on Facebook and on linkedin without response. I was asked not to name his company on CSN for privacy reasons, but if someone wants to call them or to send a card, PM me. 

I'm posting a few older pictures from TW's expressions. Not the last "svelte" one. He was a great man who will be missed by many.

 

srbelle1
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thank you for posting these pictures and putting a face to the name; an elegant gentleman.

sarah

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Thanks Alex. I had never been to Trevor's expressions page. Now the tears come. So sad.

David

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So Sad.. But I guess we all knew this was coming.

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A rock for me that was always our biggest proponent.  The absence is deafening for me.

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We may be missing a kidney, or other assorted bits and pieces; but I just wish his family had the opportunity to read everyone's comments. TW was generous in his assistance and you were generous in your praise.

Blessings.

I am alive
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I loved Trevor.  He was one of the first to greet me when I washed ashore here.  We shared chromophobe disease. I didn't know what sarcamatoid meant when I "met" him because - so far - I have been lucky enough not to have had to deal with that. I didn't know about the latest drugs. I didn't know much of anything. Trevor/Tex/Wedge/TJ taught me almost everything I now know. His  methodical, logical, even-handed approach to digging deep for knowledge made me less afraid, more enlightened, more able to look the beast in the eye. He led by example. And his extraordinary generosity was truly awesome. Like the rest of you I kinda figured he had passed, but that didn't prevent me from shedding tears when Alexandra tracked down the fact of it. Or cry more while running errands today. I miss him.

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When I first hear the news, I was upset.  I still am.  For me, Trevor (TW) was always the person that provided the well thought out anwer.  He was one of the people that really helped me through finding out that my tumor had spread.  It saddens me.  We should all go out and play a round of golf in TW's honor....leaving the wedge at home.  We can use our feet.

Trevor, may you be at peace and pain free.  Your CSN friends miss you.

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I came to CSN today looking to catch up on the latest of old friends and was saddened to see the news to Trevor's passing.  He was such a source of guidance and inspiration in our years in RCC and will be missed tremendously.  Rest peacefully my friend.  Your spirit lives long in the pages of SP, CSN and more.

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Gone but never forgotten. This forum will never be quite the same. He was the glue that held it together. I was dreading this news and have shed many tears tonight. 

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I havent been around for a while, this was the first post I read after returning...

Goodbye TW. We will miss you in many ways.

Rest in peace.

/G

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Thinking of TW with a heavy heart this morning and lifting his family in prayer, as they learn how to live without him, in a physical sense.  Spiritually, he will live on forever.   I will always remember the things he taught me and cherish the support he so lovingly offered, through his kind words of wisdom. 

It really never occured to me when joining this group, that, as with any family, we will lose loved ones.  Or that I would get emotionally attached to people I have never met.  With the passing of TW, came this realization.  He continues to teach me, even in his absence.

RIP, TW

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It's very sad to hear that TW has passed away. He helped me out with making a very important decision a few months ago. It's funny how someone you've never met in real life can be such a great help to you in time of need. Wow how sad! May he rest in peace and god bless his family.Frown

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This is a true and touching story of love and perseverance. Well worth the read.

At the prodding of my friends I am writing this story. My name is Mildred Honor and I am a former elementary school music teacher from Des Moines, Iowa .

I have always supplemented my income by teaching piano
lessons - something I have done for over 30 years.

During those years I found that children have many levels of musical ability, and even though I have never had the pleasure of having a prodigy, I have taught some very talented students.

However, I have also had my share of what I call 'musically challenged' pupils - one such pupil being Robby..

Robby was 11 years old when his mother (a single mom) dropped him off for his first piano lesson. I prefer that students (especially boys) begin at an earlier age, which I explained to Robby. But Robby said that it had always been his mother's dream to hear him play the piano, so I took him as a student.

Well, Robby began his piano lessons and from the beginning I thought it was a hopeless endeavor. As much as Robby tried, he lacked the sense of tone and basic rhythm needed to excel. But he dutifully reviewed his scales and some elementary piano pieces that I require all my students
to learn. Over the months he tried and tried while I listened and
cringed and tried to encourage him.

At the end of each weekly lesson he
would always say 'My mom's going to hear me play someday'. But to me,
it seemed hopeless, he just did not have any inborn ability.

I only knew his mother from a distance as she dropped Robby off or waited in her aged car to pick him up. She always waved and smiled, but never dropped in.

Then one day Robby stopped coming for his
lessons. I thought about calling him, but assumed that because of his lack of ability he had decided to pursue something else. I was also glad that he had stopped coming - he was a bad advertisement for my teaching!

Several weeks later I mailed a flyer recital to the students' homes. To my surprise, Robby (who had received a flyer) asked me if he could be in the recital. I told him that the recital was for current pupils and that because he had dropped out, he really did not qualify.

He told me that his mother had been sick and unable to take him to his piano lessons,
but that he had been practicing. 'Please Miss Honor, I've just got to
play' he insisted. I don't know what led me to allow him to play in the recital - perhaps it was his insistence or maybe something inside of me saying that it would be all right.

The night of the recital came and the high school gymnasium was packed with parents, relatives and friends. I put Robby last in the program, just before I was to come up and thank all the students and play a finishing piece. I thought that any damage he might do would come at the end of the program and I could always salvage his poor performance through my 'curtain closer'.

Well, the recital went off without a hitch, the students had been practicing and it showed. Then Robby came up on the stage. His clothes were wrinkled and his hair looked as though he had run an egg beater through it. 'Why wasn't he dressed up like the other students?' I thought. 'Why didn't his mother at least make him comb his hair for this
special night?'

Robby pulled out the piano bench, and I was surprised
when he announced that he had chosen to play Mozart's Concerto No. 21 in C Major. I was not prepared for what I heard next. His fingers were light on the keys, they even danced nimbly on the ivories. He went from pianissimo to fortissimo, from allegro to virtuoso; his suspended chords that Mozart demands were magnificent!

Never had I heard Mozart played so well by anyone his age.

After six and a half minutes he ended in a grand crescendo, and everyone was on their feet in wild applause! Overcome and in tears, I ran up onstage and put my arms around Robby in joy. 'I have never heard you play like that Robby, how did you do it?

Through the microphone Robby
explained: 'Well, Miss Honor .... remember I told you that my mom was sick? Well, she actually had cancer and passed away this morning. And well ...... she was born deaf, so tonight was the first time she had ever heard me play, and I wanted to make it special.'

There wasn't a dry eye in the house that evening. As the people from Social Services led Robby from the stage to be placed in to foster care, I noticed that even their eyes were red and puffy. I thought to myself then how much richer my life had been for taking Robby as my pupil.

No, I have never had a prodigy, but that night I became a prodigy ....... of Robby. He was the teacher and I was the pupil, for he had taught me the meaning of perseverance and love and believing in yourself, and may be even taking a chance on someone and you didn't know why.

Robby was killed years later in the senseless bombing of the Alfred P. Murray Federal Building in Oklahoma City in April, 1995.

So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice.

Do we act with compassion or do we pass up that opportunity and leave the world a bit colder in the process? (I know how T would have answered)

May God Bless you today, tomorrow and always.

If God didn't have a purpose for us, we
wouldn't be here!

Live simply.

Love generously.

Care deeply.

Speak kindly.

 

 

 

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I joined this forum late...so I did not have the pleasure of getting to know TW...but I can tell from the outpouring of beautiful sentiments about Trevor, that he was a great man to have touched so many lives.

Today my husband and I lost a very close friend of ours due to cancer. He was our best man at our wedding last year. We watched him decline from a strong, handsome, vibrant man to a very sick man who had shriveled to half his weight. He leaves behind 2 beautiful teenaged daughters who are now orphaned.

Cancer is as terrible as terrible can get.

I am glad I have found this group of people on this CSN forum who don't dwell on the negative but thrive on the positive. I don't know you well, but I have already learned that you all are made of the same stuff that dear Trevor was made of.

Thank you all for letting me lean on you. I know that Trevor would be very proud of you.

Jojo

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Jojo, was sorry to hear of the loss of your dear friend.  These things are never easy, especially with minor children.  I'll remember you all in my prayers.

hugs to you,

Sindy

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Thank you, Sindy. We are still reeling from it. Even though we knew it was coming...it is such a terrible loss.

Jojo

Bellweather
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I joined the group as TW was posting less.  The pictures really put it in perspective and made me feel as though I knew him, a bond we all have.  Prayers fot TW and his family as well as the entire CSN family.

 

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Lost for words...TW, thank you so much for everything you've contributed to the CSN network. your presense has been absolutley invaluable to us all. may you rest in peace.

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Even though I never met TW, never heard his voice on the phone, and never saw any of the photographs I just saw above, I still knew him.  If I know myself, I know him. Yes, he reached out to me immediately upon my first post, thanked me for my encouragement, and encouraged me on the days I was down, but I didn't know him, and yet, I know him.  I can only hope to be as much of a gem to others here. 

I knew him like we all knew him, because in a sense, we ARE him. Day by day, we come to this page comparing our condition to others' conditions, comparing our meds, comparing our side effects, and comparing surgical wounds and various other mental and physical battle scars. We look for hope in one another, because if you are like me and there is hope for you, there is hope for me.

And then we lose one of us, and we feel like we just lost ourselves.  But I never met him, and never heard his voice.  Yet, the silence is deafening.

NanaLou
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I had been looking for a post from Tex for weeks. I had feared he was gone. I will miss all his research and post. He kept all of us up to date and straight on our information. I feel we all have one more angel in Heaven watching over us! My prayers go out to his family and the people who had the pleasure to know him in person. Rest in peace Tex!

aditya_fighter
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I express my sincere respect and deepest homage to  the departed soul, TW.

I read almost all his posts during my association with CSN of say an year and a half.

He was extremely knowledgeable and always prepared to share his wisdom.

May his soul ever rest in peace.

Om Shanti.

Aditya

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