Nov 10, 2013 - 10:38 am
I have been taking care of a elderly couple for the past 9 years. The elderly man (84) past Aug 2012. I was with him until the end.
The elderly lady is 78 and find out a month after she has nsclc stage 2a ( Oct 2012). They wouldn't remove it. They did the weakest chemo and radiation they have. They wanted her to do it for 9 weeks but she only had 3 weeks. It almost killed her. In may 2013 ( the last time she would go to the dr) she had a fractured in her spine.
She smoke 2 packs a day and is still smoking the same. She lives on 2 or 3 cookies and potatoes chips a day. She was 134 pd ad years ago and now 98 pd. 2 weeks ago it was 94 pds. She has pain in her right shoulder and down her arm. In the last 4 or 5 months memory is very bad. She is showing sign of alzheimer and/or dementia. She feel bad all time.
I can't get she to eat or go to the dr. She is a very head strong person. You can't tell her what to do, it makes her mad..
She has no kids, I'm the only one who takes care of her ( for the last 13 months, 7 days a week ).
She is very mean at times, and i know its because she not feeling good. But I would like to know what's going on. I have called the dr and talked to him but he said its her choose to come or not. He called in pain pills but her will not take them.. (she got so mad when I called them)
In the last 2 or 3 weeks she is feeling worst. She isn't tell me but I can see it in her face.
Its been 13 months ago when we find out. 10 months from her last chemo and rad.
Can someone tell me what is happening, what to look for, how to help her?
I can't talk to her about anything. Its like she doesn't unstand what I'm saying.
How do I handle a head strong person who will not do what best for them?
This woman has been like a mother to me. Please tell me what to come!