Nov 07, 2013 - 10:32 pm
Hi friends, I have been out of town helping my dad (83yrs) with some things. He has had some urinary concerns so went to see a urologist. More tests are needed but upon initial exam it appears that a recurrance of cancer related to his prostate is causing his issues. 20 years ago he had his prostate removed for cancer and has been doing great until recently. Never in my life have I seen a deeper love then that of my parents, and when my mom died eight years ago so did a part of my father, yet he has patiently continued to live a just life. My brother on the other hand (50yrs) has still not come to terms with the loss of my mom to ovarian cancer 8 yrs ago. They were close, as is my whole family. He is a business executive with huge resposibilities and well compensated for his hard work, along with being the kindest most sensitive brother I could have. But, between my mom, myself and husband, and now my dad he seems unable to function without alcohol to numb him. He is unable to see how his life is spinning out of control over the past year and although admits he may have a problem, he is not ready to make any changes. I am so sad that not only will something awful happen to him, he will miss out on precious time with our father and later regret it. My dad, took his recent news with a calm, almost relief, that he would consider whatever treatment made the most sense for a man his age, but also a sense of comfort that he is just that much closer to seeing my mom again.
Sorry for the vent.....just thinking how sad it is that this disease has to have such fallout on others.