Oct 07, 2013 - 2:36 pm
It’s time I share this because it is driving me crazy-I have been having a recurrent dream, about 2-3 times per month. In the dream my wife who died of cancer 3 years ago has returned to my life and I am stressed of how to tell her I have remarried. I feel intense sadness and grief at trying to figure out how to present her with the news I have found someone else (I remarried a year ago).
I wake up and realize it’s all a dream, only to go back to sleep and experience it again. My current wife seems to think it’s because we live in the same house and perhaps we should sell it and move (She is very understanding).
I am even considering counseling to help me with this. I was married to my first wife for 32 years. I think some of this represents unfinished issues my wife and I never addressed when she was terminally ill. To be completely honest, I feel much more loved now than I did before, a wife who loves and cherishes me. I am happier, more fulfilled.
But it, the dream, is starting to bother me.