Aug 05, 2013 - 7:30 pm
My 26 year old husband has a 6cm mass on his lower right kidney. We have three little boys. we were told its 90percent sure cancerous. He had a kidney stone last week and that's how the mass was found, he's got a contrast scan scheduled for Wednesday and then a meeting with the urologist to see about surgery options. (Partial or full) he doctor isn't really looking to see if its spread, my husband applied for a medical card and so we will ask for an oncologist referral once he gets it (it could take 2-3 months though) they want to do surgery within a week or two. I'm trying my best to be there for him completely, I just hope Im saying the right things. I'm doing all the research I can. I'm scared for him but I wouldn't dare let it show. He doesn't really want to know much, he's thrown himself into the computer because he's so scared. He says Seeing me or one of our boys just reminds him of the cancer. I love him very much and just wanna get through this, I want life to feel "normal" he's not been able to work and ultimately lost his job due to the stones and the diagnosis. I was told however if I go to work it could potentially knock him out of hiss medical card, were already behind on bills and our hotwater tank busted this week. So we have no working water. Im bummed beyond words but I have to stay positive to get him through this and keep his head above water.