Jul 21, 2013 - 10:18 pm
Hi, I am struggling in my personal life right now and as I sit here alone, I am truly scared. I have tried to work thru the issues with my spouse,. I have been telling myself and family that even if I divorce my spouse the problems will still be there, only doubled because I know without hesitation he will return to drinking he doesn't do well with stress which until recently I have managed.
Now it is taking a toll on my health. What I could use from the the board is any information that can be given to me about Divorce and the things I am able to ask for after 23 years. I am broke and sit here with 124.00 in my bank account and my spouse has run home to his mom. Again even thru cancer, my spouse's alcolholism and fling with prescription meds, I have to pull my 'Billy' out as Sundance says to move forward. I am lost as where and who I should see and talk to since my funds to see an Attorney will have left to be on a credit card if the charge is not to outragous
We have looked into chapter 7 and were sent to a chapter 13 attorney and they said no, but I dont know if believe it or not. They were attorneys used by my husbands work. But we were told we couldnt go chapter 7 or chapter 13 when trying to get finances in order. What do I do now, my doctors are saying I need to get rid of the stress, it literally killing me. Does anyone have information on Attornies on the Central Coast or information about Divorce in CA. I am so disapponted in letting things go this far, I have no one behind me. I have my 3 boys who are college age but they dont need to know specifics and I have basically abandoned my cousins and friends because its so embarrassing all the things I have had to go thru with my husband being an alcoholic. I let my guard down and let it define me. In all of this, I lost me, my curiosity that killed the cat, that I always had to know if I could do this or that, or if someone said I could not do this because females couldn't or shouldnt I was first on the list to show I can. It may not have been perfect, pretty or great but I did it.
Now I just want to sit and let it all cave in, Ive become over the top bashful I only go to a store to grocery shop, the shame of things getting this screwed ovewhelms me. My mom came to visit my boys who are home during school break and she left after 1 1/2 days because of the atmosphere here. How does she think I feel?
Please give me some enlightenment. I will PUSH (Pray Until Something Happens) and I will get thru this someway, somehow.
I always promised my dad I would be an open book, because he told me people dont know if you dont ask questions to find the answers.. This open book policy is humbling, maybe someone will show or tell me the correct questions to ask!
Thank you Semi (HEMI) Colons-