Jul 19, 2013 - 6:09 pm
Hi, I’ve been a long-time lurker on cancer forums due to my dad's prostate cancer. The forum advice and personal stories really helped me as I was with my dad every step of the way as he tried every treatment possible. Unfortunately, he passed on May 8th after a long and tough cancer battle.
Now it’s my turn. During my dad’s last few months, I started having blooding bowl movements. I attributed them to a combination of stress, constipation, and hemorrhoids. However, it got worse so I made an appointment with one of my dad’s former doctors, a colorectal surgeon. Good thing I did. At the exam, he pretty much told me right away that it was cancer. I’m sure many of you can relate to my total shock when he told me. He admitted later that he should probably have been gentler with me but because of my dad’s situation, he did not want me to have any false hopes that the tumor he saw was benign.
So, after all the usual tests, I’m clinically at Stage III (T3, N2a, M0). There are 5 lymph nodes affected. I am optimistic but sometimes it’s tough remembering that when my dad was initially diagnosed, he was also Stage III with lymph node involvement, and then it eventually became terminal.
I’m hoping to start treatment next week- chemo & radiation. I desperately need advice on whether to have Xeloda or 5fu. My oncologist strongly advised against xeloda because he’s seen patients with long-term or permanent side effects from hand foot syndrome and neuropathy versus 5FU. He said because I’m young, that is not something he thinks I would want to live with for many years. However, after doing so much of my own research, I already had my heart set on Xeloda because I am an extremely active person. So, I would love to hear from anyone on long-term side effects. I know that every person is different but I would really appreciate your input. Thanks!