Jul 19, 2013 - 12:55 pm
Good day my firends,
Like many of you, I have had my share of being touched by cancer. Both my parents passed from cancer (MM for dad and lung cancer for mom). I have lost an aunt, a grandfather and multiple friends as well. I have personally dealt with kidney cancer this last year and am currently NED. Each time stepping up to the plate and dealing with what life has to test me/us with. This time it is different. My son's best friend who is 25 has been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. His life has gone from ' be all you can be' to a future that is measured in months.
My son's friend presented with an ongoing cold, that was diagnosed as pneumonia in June. When it persisted, he returned to the doctor to be told he had a clot in his lung and needed to rest (no work) and follow-up tests. Now in July he is unemployed, very fatiqued with a new diagnosis of stage 4 lung cancer.
I want to help and support both my son and his friend. They are at a distance (about a 6 hour drive). Despite having been touched by cancer before, I have never felt so angry and overwhelmed. I feel guilty too - I survived, I had good doctors and an early diagnosis. What kid/ young adult screens for cancer? Life isn't fair.
I appreciate your listening to me vent and would appreciate any advise on how to support my son and his friend in the hours, day and weeks ahead.