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Another forum I am on listed a post  for someone who went on hospice, so that person would know what gifts  they had given to them.  Mary Ann is not doing well.  She is getting weaker every day.  She is using oxygen to help her breathe.  She is also taking morphine for the pain.  I hope Rudy will read to Mary Ann how special she was to this board.

Mary Ann you are to be admired.  you always welcomed new members and were always positive and encouraging.  You always answeed questions.  You always shared your jpurney through the good times and not so good times.  You have been courageous, dignified and honest in your posts.  I appreciate you sharing everything with us.  You encouraged alternative methods but never pushed them.  You have been a strong warrior.   I pray for peace and comfort for you.  May a choir of angels welcome you at  the gates of heaven.  It saddens me greatly that you are going through this.  

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Ro10 thank you so much for this and all you do to keep us updated!

You and Mary Ann, Jan and several others were on this board when I first signed on last November. I had so little information and a million thoughts running through my mind...some of which were not that pleasant. You all took the time to break things down for me in a patient and caring manner.

I began going through the older posts when I had time, and found that there were the 'regular's here who kept supporting the 'old' and new' who came to the board for comfort, information or advice.

No one can put a price tag on that kind of service especially when many of us are at the lowest points of our lives when we arrive here.

Mary Ann has a wealth of information 'stored' on these message boards. I enjoyed and learned alot from her posts on nutrition as that is where my journey is focused right now. She also offered so much other assistance.

I believe God is not in necessarily in Church or up in Heaven, but inside each of us. He uses us to touch and teach others. Mary Ann has definitely shared her gifts of knowledge, patience, courage, etc. with all of us.

I pray for her every night. I hope we can be kept in the loop regarding her progress and that her pain is manageable.

Kathy

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This saddens me deeply as I have always held a very special spot close to my heart for my friend Mary Ann.  She has ALWAYS been strong and never complained, but there for comfort to everyone.

All of us on these boards most likely never personally met, but sure have become almost sister-like as we bear our soles.  I feel like I'm loosing a sister and darn it, it truly does hurt deep down inside.  

Ro, I do hope Rudy keeps us posted on her progress and as well, lets Mary Ann know we're all here for her....with comforting arms around her.

Love to all,

Jan

 

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Jan I really like what you wrote about comforting arms around Mary Ann. I could not respond when I first read about her bad news. I could not bear to think about it.  Now when I read what both you and Ro have written I can only say how very much I agree with all of your beautiful words.

I have not posted for a long time but exchanged posts with Mary Ann back during a difficult time for me. She was very supportive but as you say strong, always interested and caring for others, and never complaining for herself.

Love to Mary Ann and Rudy and to all of you,

Georgia

 

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I feel that I am a newbee having just joined this site in 2011.  I have read a lot of the past post to find information out and Mary Ann's were there helping to support and educate along with all the older messages from when this site first started with Linda, Diane, and even yourself back in 2009.

Mary Ann you always shared your knowledge with everyone andwere so supportive and caring for others.  I prya that God gives you comfort during this time.  I also pray for Rudy to have all the support and stregth he needs during this time.   

This news just makes me so sad that another sister is losing her battle to this terrible disease.  I pray for all the ladies and their families that do find this site for support, knowledge and encourgement. 

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The others have all said it for me and said it so well.  At this point, I do so hope they are keeping your body comfortable.  My nursing career started in the days when that wasn't done well and I am so gratefull for all of us that hospice is there for us when we need them.

susangr
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Thank you for letting us know about how Mary Ann is doing and while none of us want to hear such news it is a journey we will all take at some point in our lives.  I have been on this board since August 2010 and was comforted and guided by many such as Linda, Mary Ann and you Ro just to name a few.  Mary Ann provided such thoughtful, caring and practical advice. She always took the time to respond and share her personal experiences.  I wish her peace and comfort on her journey and extend love and caring thoughts to her and her family.  Sincerely Susan

Cindy Bear
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You were one of the first persons to respond to me, when I came here back in 2009, so angry, hurt distressed, after losing my mother . You're proof that angels do walk among us . I'm a better person because of you . You've taught me about courage, and patience, faith and perserverance.  You are greatly admired and loved.

Sending great big cyber hugs your way,

Cindy B.

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Ro so sorry to read this and wish you only good thoughts and helpful feelings and ((((hugs)))).

Been more of a 'lurker, but your strength and warmth have made me and us all strong to fight another day.

Best wishes and prayers,

Sara

HellieC
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Thank you, Ro for suggesting this, it is a wonderful idea.

Mary Ann, you have always been there to help, support and offer advice to anyone who joins this board.  When someone is down or is worried about a forthcoming procedure or treatment, you have shared your experiences to help them through.

I have valued your articulate, reasoned and supportive advice so many times.  Your courage and dignity in facing this dreadful beast of a disease is awsome and I hope that I can follow your example when my time comes.  I have never met you but I feel a bond across the miles. 

Take care and God bless you and your family, Mary Ann.  I hope that the hospice are able to keep you comfortable and your pain under control - you deserve nothing but the best of care.

Helen

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Mary Ann -

You brought so much to others Mary Ann

So helpful, cheerful, did what you can.

See how many fans you have accumulated -

They all wish you the best as they stated

I wish there was more time & space

To truly express how you made the world a better place.

Our hearts are on that adventure too,

Dear Mary Ann thank you for being you!

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Thank You Ro.... 

Mary Ann, we often go through life not knowing the impact we have on other people.    You came to me when I was drowning in sorrow.  I felt so lost, so alone, so empty.  Your gentle spirit and kind words gave me strengthen to pick myself up and face my illness head on.  Because you took time for me, I was able to live my life again. For this I, my husband and my daughter will always be grateful.  

You are loved, admired and cherished.  My God bless you, Rudy and all your loved ones.

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Mary Ann, today is another day to enjoy anything and everything. Music, ice cream, a day gown fresh out of the dryer and smelling great, a snuggle from a pet. Rest easy today and enjoy the scents and sounds. Thanks for your caring spirit and adventures soul.

Lisa

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I read Mary Ann your posts yesterday. She smiled and briefly opened her eyes to acknowledge her understanding. Thank you for the kind words. Mary Ann is at peace now. She died at 5:35 p.m. yesterday in my arms, with Phoebe, the cat, sitting on the edge of the bed. The sounds of soft Native American flute music eased the transition to the next life. The house seems so still without her presence. She was a beautiful woman, inside and out, who showed incredible courage and spirit in fighting an aggressive cancer for nearly five years. Her spirit lives on in the lives of those she has touched over the years as a friend, therapist, advocate, teacher or mentor. Mary Ann is missed ... This discussion board and your feedback and support were a great comfort to Mary Ann. Cancer is a beast. I am a 6-year survivor of prostate cancer; Mary Ann's sister Rita died several years ago from pancreatic cancer. I would like to do something to get the word out about uterine papillary serous carcinoma. Need to think about it a bit more. God bless all of you.

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Thankyou for thinking of us and sharing Mary Ann's last moments.  I am so pleased to hear she got our messages.  I'm crying so its hard to see to type this.  I will miss her so much and I will keep you in my thoughts as you learn to live in this world without her physical presence but with your memories to bring you comfort.  

 

If you decide to have charitable contributions made to some group that was important to her, please let us know.  I would like to contribute.

 

Connie

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Oh Rudy...my heart is breaking for your tremendous loss and I also write this with the tears streaming down my face! Mary Ann has thankfully moved to a place where I believe she will never have to suffer again, but you dear friend will be feeling a different kind of pain for a long time to come.

God bless you through the days to come and may He carry you when things get too rough. Mary Ann loved you with all her heart...I had to go back and read her last post about going into hospice b/c I could not believe she had gone so quickly. She mentions you then in the knowing way wives have about their husbands...

I am so glad she died at home in your arms and Ro had the timely suggestion for us to do the gift posts and you were able to read them to her. It sounds like a beautiful passing!

My thoughts & prayers continue to be with both of you over the coming days.

God bless...

Kathy

NorahS
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...on the tremendous loss of Mary Ann to your family. Thank you for always being there for her and for easing her path on her final journey.

Much love, now, and in the days to come

 

SUNGRANNY
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Dear Rudy,

I am one of the many women diagnosed with UPSC who appreciated the strength, comfort, and wonderful information in Mary Ann's posts saddened by your loss.  I send thoughts and prayers of sympathy and comfort to you.

When you do decide on a way we can help to memorialize Mary Ann, I too would be honored to join this effort.

Sara SG

 

 

 

 

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Dearest Rudy,  As with the other ladies, I am so sorry for your loss.  Mary Ann was a (gentel) force to be reconed with!  I truly believe we are given a mission by God on the day we are born.  Some of us complete this mission quickly and return to the arms of Jesus.  Some of us this mission takes many, many years.  Whatever Mary Anns' mission was,she completed it and she has been called home.  ....Rest well, thou good and fathful servant.  All my best, Debrajo

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Dear Rudy:

Thank you for sharing Mary Ann with us at your time of tremendous sorrow.   I was sadden to read about Mary Ann when I logged in today after not being on the site for several days. Please know that I pray for her, you, and your entire family.   Although I did not post much these last few years, I will miss seeing her posts, but as you indicated her positive spirit will always be here.  It is comforting to know how loved she was and how much strength, courage and comfort that you gave to her.

((Hugs)))

Kathy

 

 

susangr
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Taken to soon by this relentless disease.  We will all miss her greatly although her contributions to this board will remain a continuing legacy.  I extend my deepest sympathy to you Rudy and your families. May you gain comfort in the days ahead from the memories you have and the experiences you've shared.  Thank you for taking the time to write and let us know about her passing.  Thereis some comfort in knowing that she is no longer suffering.   

 

Sincerely.  Susan

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A steady stream of visitors came to the home the day before Mary Ann died. It was a beautiful day. Friend Francesca, a certified yoga instructor, sang and chanted mantras, clearing the path for a tranquil transition. Judy Lee and Judy Beaumont, ordained Roman Catholic priests who serve the poor with their unsanctioned church in Fort Myers, prayed and administered the Healing of the Sick sacrament. Mary Ann was able to receive communion. Friends Sue, Irene, and Mario shared stories. Neighbor Beverly delivered a homemade pumpkin pie, and Mary Ann ate most of a slice, her first food in two days ... Mary Ann has a photo she wants me to post to the site. When I figure out the technology, I will do it, perhaps later today .... I had asked Mary Ann to give me a sign of her well being after she died. When I telephoned her brother John yesterday and started giving him the details of Mary Ann's passing, the phone disconnected and I was unable to reach John for five minutes. He called back and said a lightening bolt struck near his house when I told him his sister had died. It knocked the power out. Coincidence or was Mary Ann strutting her stuff? - Rudy

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I'm so sorry to read of Mary Ann's passing.  Grateful it was peaceful with her in your arms.  You wife was a powerful force who was always here for any of us on these boards and I will always remember her strength.  She showed me how to keep on going and enjoy life to its fullest.  

When you write of the "coincidence" I think it's Mary Ann yes and know GOD TRULY WORKS IN MYSTERIOUIS WAYS!!

Cherish her memories as I know they have to be wonderful as she was a beautiful human being.

Deepest sympathy!

Jan

 

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My deepest sympathy for you and your family.  I was so saddened to read your note of Mary Ann passing.  When you told me it might be days or weeks, I was so hoping you had weeks with Mary Ann.  However I am so happy Mary Ann went peacefully surrounded by those who loved her.  Our cyber hugs were with both of you.  She will truly be missed.  Hang on to those treasured memories the two of you made.

thank you so much for sharing the last moments with Mary Ann.  She was such a special lady and valued friend.  In peace and caring.

i will pray for continued strength for you as you continue on with your life.

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Please accept my condolences and deepest sympathy on the demise of your beautiful wife Mary Ann. It is comforting that in her final moments on earth she was home, surrounded by loving family and friends, music and prayer. There is no better way to transition. She will be watching over you forever and always.

HellieC
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I am so sorry to hear of Mary Ann's passing, Rudy.  There are no words I can offer to make this time easier for you, but please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.  I am sure that the lightening was, indeed, a sign that Mary Ann is settling into another place.

God bless you and your family
Helen

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Dearest Rudy,

You asked for a sign and I do not believe it was anything but Mary Ann's clear bolt out of the blue that told you and her brother that she heard your desire and fulfilled it. It was hard for her to leave you especially with your mom so ill.

She wanted us to see her face and remember her sweetness so I do hope you post that photo but already she claimed a piece of my heart and is etched in it face or no face. I have thought about her daily and knew she passed. It was so sweet of you to have been with her and what a miracle that she had some pie! We should all go so gently into the night.

Much love to you as you traverse new terrains without your beloved. She continues to dwell in so many of us. Bee

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I too am so sorry to hear of Mary Ann's passing but her legacy on these boards will live on.  May God give you all the strength to help you through this difficult time. She was such a special lady always there for all the newbees coming to this board.  Words of encouragement, support and love is what she leaves behind.  trish

cheerful
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Rudy:

  I wanted to express my deepest sympathy on the loss of your wife, Mary Ann.  I did not know her or communicate with her on the board, but I did see a lot of her posts on this board as I joined the UPSC group in April of 2011 and she was an inspiration to so many of us women on the board.  She is a UPSC sister and all of us will miss her. She fought the disease for a long time and very bravely.

 I will keep Mary Ann in my thoughts and prayers.

 

Cheerful

a/k/a Jane

Cindy Bear
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Thank you so much for sharing these intimate moments with us. I am deeply saddened to hear of Mary Ann's passing, but I feel peace and joy knowing she was surrounded by so much love and caring.. what a beautiful picture you have painted so eloquently with words.... flute music, her beloved cat, and the pumpkin pie sounds pretty gosh darn good too..

I am also happy to hear that Mary Ann knows how much we loved and respected her. She's left her mark on this discussion board, and in our hearts. It's hard to believe that just a few short weeks ago, she was still walking every day. I know the days ahead will be difficult for you, I am sending big hugs and prayers your way.

 

Cindy

janh_in_ontario
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To take the time to come here and share your grief with us means more than you will ever know. I do not say this as a matter of habit or expectations - but your wife was so very helpful to so many here that you can rest assured you are being lifted in prayer and support. Thank you for sharing with us at such a difficult time.

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A man....who loved a woman. You cared for all her needs. She waits. You did well.....

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I'm so sad to learn of MaryAnn's passing.  She was truly a kindred spirit to all of us and will remain one.  Rest in peace, dear MaryAnn.

Suzanne

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Rudy,

Mary Ann was so special to all of us on CSN.  She was so kind and I appreciated her insight on how to deal with cancer. 

My deepest thoughts are with you and your family.  As you live life going forward, you have many wonderful memories to reflect back on and also CSN family is here to support you too.

God watch and bless you and your love ones.

Sue

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Dear Rudy,

Although I haven't visited these boards very often in the past six months, I was for a year and a half a "regular" who often read, and responded to, Mary Ann's lovely messages.  She was a beacon of support for all of us and a warm, courageous lady, always glad to share what she knew to help and comfort all of us in this shared struggle.

Allthough I am sure she leaves a special legacy for her family, all the loving responses here are a real tribute fro her community of sisters, who really adored her.  I only hope we provided as much support to HER as she has to US in the past few years.

Love,

RoseyR 

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Nothing to add as tears stream down my face as memories of the strength she gave us suffuse. I know and pray that her spirit of love will give you solace.

Sar in

soromer
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I am so very sorry that Mary Ann has died. 

You have shown us great courtesy by coming to tell us the news. I appreciate your kindness in the midst of your grief.

And yet, I also hope that you can experience some gratitude and peace, even now, for helping your beloved wife make such a calm transition.  Everyone dies; you know probably better than most (given your profession) that not every death is a good one. The scene you describe of her last days is very touching. Clearly she was much loved and will be sorely missed by many.

I look forward to seeing a more recognizable photo of your darling Mary Ann.

May the memories of the life and love you shared bring you comfort, now and always.

Peace,

soromer/Kate

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When I read about MaryAnn, I was deeply saddened for you and tears welled up in my eyes as I read your post to my own husband. Your wife was a very brave woman to share her journey with us, thank you for sharing her with us. It helps us face our own mortality someday. None of us know the number of our days that we have, but God knows. The picture you painted for us was one with dignity, love, and no suffering. May you now allow the Lord to wrap his arms around you as you did for MaryAnn, during your time of grieving. Love in Christ, Tami (a UPSC sister) 

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The picture was taken April 20th in Fort Myers at The American Rhapsody concert presented by the Symphonic Chorale of Southwest Florida. It was Mary Ann's last singing appearance, about three weeks before she lost her hair to radiation treatments. Mary Ann was an alto with the group. Her funeral Mass is scheduled for noon Saturday, June 15, at St. Andrew's Church in Cape Coral. Her obituary and a video tribute should be posted on www.mullinsmemorial.com in two or three days. - Rudy

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Dear Rudy,

Please accept my condolences on the passing of your lovely wife, our dear Mary Ann. What a beautiful face with such a sweet smile, to match the everlasting impression she has made on our hearts. We will forever remember her wise words of comfort and direction as we traveled this road we've been given.........but never alone, due to God's grace and spirit exemplified in special angels........such as Mary Ann. 

Please take care, Rudy, and thank you for sharing Mary Ann with us. 

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It's a wonderful picture, Rudy.  I'm so glad to have a face to go with Mary Ann's words.  Thankyou.  Take care.

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Rudy, thanks for sharing.  I will always remember Mary Ann's beautiful smile.  Take care Rudy.

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Thank you Rudy for posting Mary Ann's picture... she was such a beautiful woman,  I'm so very sorry.   

HellieC
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Thank you, Rudy, for sharing your wonderful picture of Mary Ann.  What a lovely, smiling, joyful face.  I am so pleased to be able to put a face to the lady who brought such wisdom and kindess to these boards.

Kindest wishes
Helen

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I just read Mary Ann's.  What a full, compassionate, generous life.  We knew she was remarkable  but now we know the the extent of her achievements.  The lives she impacted are countless.  Here's to a life well lived.  You did good, Mary Ann!

pinky104
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Rudy,

I apologize for not having sent my condolences sooner.  I did not know Mary Ann personally, but I read her comments on this site whenever I was on it.  She apparently was a very great person, so helpful to others.  I don't understand why some of the best people on here are the ones that are taken first.  I had UPSC 3 years ago.  It was grade IVb, the worst there is, but I just came from a check-up and I'm totally healthy.  I have NED.  And other than a good surgeon and a good oncologist, I don't know why I'm surviving when others aren't.  I guess God needs some new angels singing up there!

Hang in there.  I'm sure you're missing her terribly.

pinky104

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It ran in today's Fort Myers News-Press along with a death notice. The site has a spot for memorial comments if you wish. The funeral home's web page has been down the past three days.

 

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I will visit the network from time to time and offer support when appropriate. I may write a story about Mary Ann's cancer fight, about the little known UPSC, and the support she received from this board.

 

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Rudy,

I am so sorry for your loss. I realized as I was reading MaryAnn's obit how much she loved people. I also realized that the beautiful picture you posted of her was just in April, she is an inspiration to all of us to keep living each day we have to its fullest. She didn't let cancer interfer with her zest for life and thats a lesson to us that we all can take to end of ours. Thank you for sharing your wife with us and your heart. Tami-UPSC stage 3c age 46, but still living life with zest.

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Rudy,

I am so sorry for your loss. I realized as I was reading MaryAnn's obit how much she loved people. I also realized that the beautiful picture you posted of her was just in April, she is an inspiration to all of us to keep living each day we have to its fullest. She didn't let cancer interfer with her zest for life and thats a lesson to us that we all can take to end of ours. Thank you for sharing your wife with us and your heart. Tami-UPSC stage 3c age 46, but still living life with zest.

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Thankyou for sticking with us.

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