Apr 13, 2013 - 6:23 pm
I've been posting on this forum for my mom, who is 57 years old and has stage IV cancer and was diagnosed in February. She just got amazing news from the oncologist this week after her cat-scan - her liver tumors have shrunk dramatically, and are now controllable, while her lung tumors are completely gone. Due to high inflammation continuing from the radiation, they were unable to check her colon itself. But basically, she's gone from a prognosis of 1 year to a likelihood that she'll be living well past 5!
There's one problem though; because of her continuing severe pain in her rectal area, which is intensified by the radiation damage, she will need an ileostomy. And in spite of the fact that she knows this means a release from the past 6 months of suffering she's had, she's pretty terrified about it.
I have been talking myself blue in the face about all the good things that will come of this surgery (scheduled for Thursday) - her lack of pain, the lack of need for painkillers that make her constantly tired and drowsy and dizzy, her ability to walk and do things again, in contrast to resting on the couch in pain all day - and it's not helping. She's having a hard time accepting the fact that she will need to have a pouch that collects her body's wastes, and how that will change her life and the way she sees herself. I tell her that she will adjust and get used to it, but she can't see that right now. Please - I'm looking for good stories, happy stories, life-changing stories, and even just stories about how it's really NOT AS BAD as she's convinced it will be. Any comments and support from everyone here will be very much appreciated!