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Lots of Laughs
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Joined: Apr 2013

Hello.....I'm new to this site and Cancer. Was diagnosed 03/14/13 w/ stage 3A Endometrial Cancer that metastisized to my Ovary, when Onc. performed Hysterectomy found Tumor that had engulfed Ovary was stuck to Sphygmoid Colon when he scraped it off it left a shadow. I'll be undergoing 6 cycles of Chemo w/Radiation at end. I am usually a pretty "Tough Cookie" but this event in my life has me running to the hills in "FEAR". I have even decided to put the beginning of my treatments off for two weeks so that I can attend some end of the year school events for my 14 yr. old son. I am afraid that once Chemo starts it is like the beginning of the end...Does anyone have any tips for building strength...I'm divorced, but have a wonderful support system. So far I have been able to keep my sense of humor even through the very painful post-op complications from Hysteri Surgery but now that Chemo is right around corner staring at me I'm just SCARED.......Thanks for any responses, sorry if my Cancer Vocab. is so skimpy like I said I'm a novice to this world.....PEACE

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Kaleena
Posts: 950
Joined: Nov 2009

Sorry you have to go through this.   You can do it.    I was diagnosed with Stage 3a, Grade 2 endometrial adenocarcinoma.   It was found AFTER I had my hysterectomy on my ovary and uterus so I had to have another surgery for staging.  No other cancer was found at that time and was staged accordingly.     I was 45 at the time.   They then put in a port so that I could receive the taxol/carbo.   I could not take the taxol so I had gemzar and carboplatin for the six months.  I was able to have pelvic radiation due to my excessive scarring but I did receive three brachytherapy radiations.   I still worked during my treatment (although it is our business) and my sons at the time were 15, 13 and 11.  

While you are in treatment you may get very fatigue a day or two after treatment.  ALthough everyone is different but it seems most of us get through it.    I want you to know that my treatment was in 2005/2006.    I am going to be 53 this year and my youngest son is graduating from high school.  I did have one other surgery in 2010 but it worked out great.

After the initial "shock" of this whole thing, take a stand and be in charge.   Stay as positive as you can.   You will get those days though.  And rest when you have to.

I wish the best for you and that your treatment goes quick.  

Kathy 

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txtrisha55
Posts: 410
Joined: Apr 2011

This site is the place to be to voice all your fears and get good information.  I am 2 years from the diagonsis that I had stage 3c grage 3  carsonma sarcoma uterine cancer that had spread to one lymph node.  I went through 6 rounds of Carbo/Taxol, I did not have any radiation, which I still question my doctor about but it is past so if it returns I can then have the radiation if needed, I guess.  This is doable.  You will get through this.  For me chemo was OK and very easy to do.  Yes you will lose your hair but it should grew back, mine did, but a bit curlier than my hair before.  For me that was not a big deal.  There are lots of threads of here of what to do to help you through the chemo and even raditation. There are a lot of books you can get to that talks about what to do through the process and how to change your lifestyle and eating habits that will help your body.  On the first screen there is search box that you can type what you are looking for and it will bring up a list of message traffic.  The biggest thing with me was to getting to a possitive attitude to fight, once I got there I have never looked back.  Still doing OK.  I have a good support group of family and friends.  I am 57 and divorced with one grown daughter, so at least mine was out of school.  But I did have to worry about my grandson.  He will start school in Sept this year in 5K so I plan to be here when he graduates in 12 years.  God willing and my daily prayers are answered.  Good luck and I will add you to my prayer list. trish

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laura25
Posts: 148
Joined: Mar 2011

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.  I was 45 when dx with a 12 year old at the time.  I had Endometrial Adenocarcinoma Stage 3c grade 3.  Mine, like Kalena's was found by accident.  It was only after a partial hysterectomy where my uterus was morcellated in my abdomen that the path report found the tumor.  The uterine biospy performed failed to show I had cancer prior to surgery.  That was in Jan 2011 and my treatment ended July 2011... I've had a few scares since stopping chemo but have been blessed that is all it was.  I know how your head is spinning and at times it so overwhelming that you feel like your drowning.  I wept so hard for so long that I literally had no more tears. 

But you WILL get through this.  Chemo was not hard for me at all.  I endured 8 rounds of carbo/taxol with no nausea at all.  I just felt really tired 2 days after chemo was given.  Please keep checking this site for support.  The kindness and knowledge of these remarkable ladies helped me beyond words. 

Peace be with you.

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daisy366
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Joined: Mar 2009

You are quite normal to be scared. Who wouldn't be? I recommend that you make conscious decision to be well! Good diet, hydration, & exercise, and doing things you enjoy.

I did very well with chemo. Worked full time during it.

Stay positive. Hugs to you. Mary Ann

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Kathy G.
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Joined: Dec 2012

I think all the ladies on this site can understand your anxiety and fear. Like Mary Ann says it is quite normal to be scared. I was diagnosed with Stage 1a/grade 1 and only needed the radical hysterectomy and now regular check-ups for the next 5 years. I feel very blessed! However, I think the time from my diagnosis until my surgery the ladies on the board are what got me through. My family was very supportive, but as I am sure you can understand they are kinda going through it, too, and in my case did not have the experience or education these ladies offered.

Have faith you will get through this and you will. It will definitely be a life-changing experience, but it can be positive in many ways. One day at a time so you don't get overwhelmed. Find things to do to keep your mind busy! I had a heyday some nights before falling asleep making my funeral arrangements, thinking of what people would say, if my kids would fight over the will, etc....lol. You can drive yourself crazy!

Best of luck!

Kathy

SUNGRANNY
Posts: 58
Joined: Dec 2012

I love your username - "Lots of Laughs."  I too know very well the fear, anger, sadness, and range of emotions of the cancer diagnosis.  Day by day, or hour by hour you CAN make it through the treatments, tests, and ups and downs. 

I was initially overwhelmed by the stage 4 Serous Endometrial cancer diagnosis and related prognosis.  What helped me to be cope was, with the help and encouragement of women on this board and others,  to put aside the numbers and statistics, and to focus on living in the present time, day by day. 

Thinking of you and sending you support,

Sungranny

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jazzy1
Posts: 1375
Joined: Mar 2010

Anything with the word cancer can be very scary as in most cases the Unknown for all of us.  I realize at the beginning of this journey everything looks black and full of fear and doubt, but after each progessive treatment, we do see more light.  Trust me, there is life, as we simply place one foot in front of the other and endure.

As I've always told others, God never gave us a book on how our lives would work out, therefore, we must learn to be very flexible and be strong.

I suggest reading up on cancer to gain some control.  A great book to read that most of us recommend, THE ANTI CANCER book, by David Servan-Schreiber....excellent read!

Think positive and know we're all here to help and listen to you...

Jan

 

soromer
Posts: 130
Joined: Mar 2011

It's a scary diagnosis.

Chemo isn't as bad as it used to be. The drugs they give you to prevent nausea and help with white blood cell counts do make a difference.

I'm assuming that you are going to be working through chemo? Give yourself as much time as you can to recover after each treatment; after the first one, you'll have a better sense of the rhythm for you.

Two pieces of advice. First, it's a good idea if you can take someone with you to chemo if at all possible, especially that first time. Second, if you have a Gilda's Club or a Cancer Support Community near you, see if there are some programs there that interest you. My own CSC has been a godsend to me.

Good luck. Keep finding things to make you laugh! That truly will help, too.

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jazzy1
Posts: 1375
Joined: Mar 2010

I started prior to treatments at Cancer Support Community (CSC) for group therapy with a few gals.  It was a God-send as kept me above the dreary times and continued onward for a few years.  Are you still going to this community?  I've gotten away from it, but do know they offer tons of free services.

Definitely agree some sorta therapy programs really make us feel loved and we can learn from others who've walked the walk before.

Hugs,

Jan

 

nancy9
Posts: 35
Joined: Feb 2013

So sorry you are going thru this.  It is scary and frustrating, and everything else in between.  Afte my hysterectomy, I was dx as stage 3, not stage 1, grade 1 like they first thought.  I finished up 6 rounds of chemo at the end of January and just finished 5 weeks of radiation.  I went back to work as of April 2nd.  The chemo was not so bad.  I was mostly tired.  The radiation was also not so bad.  I am looking at the bright side of this whole experience, no shaving for a few months; and with no hair, I am showered and out the door in 20 minutes.  Without humor, a positive attitude, and a great support system (family, friends, and the ladies on this site), these last 7 months would have been unbearable. 

Good luck and remember to allow others to do things for you. 

Nancy

cathy55
Posts: 1
Joined: Apr 2013

Hi, my name's Cathy & I just found out I have stage IIA ndometrial cancer. I start radiation on 4-22. I don't know what to expect. wish u well 

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