Mar 30, 2013 - 6:31 am
I have been reading your posts since I found out about my dad's cancer diagnosis two days ago. I am so blessed by your support for one another. Even though this is the last thing I wanted to do today - sign up on a cancer discussion board - I am so grateful to have a network of people who have walked this road.
My dad is 65. He has none of the health issues that often plague a person with EC; no diabetes, no heartburn history, no family history of cancer, non-smoker, non-alcoholic beverage consumer, etc. He is a healthy weight and, because my mom is a personal trainer, eats very healthy as well. Trouble swallowing and stomach cramps led to a doctor's appointment, which led to this.
He just had a scope yesterday. I believe it was an EUS (still learning). The doctor said the tumor is small-ish (about 1.5 inches). At first glance, they estimated it to be stage 1 or 2 and project 5-6 weeks of chemo and radiation (he is going to MDA Houston Monday to explore Proton Therapy) and then surgery a month after he finishes.
I am in Africa. I am only on day two of absorbing this, trying to learn all I can, trying to understand what this fight will be like. I planned to go home for about a month for my Dad's surgery in July. But now I am wondering if I need to be there during chemo as well. My mom is 63 and in decent health but I know this battle will test us like none other. If I ask my Mom if I can come help, she will tell me no. I have two elementary age kids that will have to stay behind (with my husband) in Africa for school. Not to mention, my parents need to rest, not entertain grandkids. I am saying all this because my Mom will not want me to have to leave my family to be with them. She never asks for help because she never wants to burden anyone.
My question is this. I know everyone reacts to chemo and radiation differently. Can anyone please share the reality of what my dad will go through, and my mom as his caregiver, so I can decide if I need to be there to support my Mom?