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no surgery or chemo for my dad
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Mar 10, 2013 - 3:57 pm
My dad was suppose to have his surgery on Feb 28th but Pet scan came back showing mets in LIver and lungs then was told he would do chemo (EOX) now Dr are saying that won't help so no surgery or Chemo for my dad. I can't believe they would just give up on him like this, I know some here have said qualitly or quanity but he still looks very healthy and gained weitght back because Dr. were able to stretch his throat every week now he feels like he only needs it every couple of weeks. So if other people here do chemo and i know its hard on the body, I have had chemo myself, so why wouldn't they at least give him a few and see how he does on it?? My dad's wife said we (me and my brother) are in denial but that's not the case I 'm scared because I know what the outcome might be, just wish they could do more. Plus just losing my dear sister I worry he might now fight anymore. Should I mention seeing another onco to my dad? |
Joined: Apr 2010
There are treatments to deal with the tumors in your Dad's liver and of course additional chemo might also affect the tumors in his lungs, but the fundamental question is "What does your Dad want to do?".
Oncologists see patients go through months of suffering with chemo only to succumb to cancer in the end. I have seen a number of people post at the end of a long struggle with cancer, and many rounds of chemo, that in the end they wish they had focused on quality of life rather than quantity. The reality is that once esophageal cancer shows up in one of more additional major organs it is very difficult to manage. It is difficult for a cancer survivor to make a decision for quality of life if their family continues to push to "not give up".
If it were my Dad, I would ask him what he wants to do, and then support his wishes irrespective of how I felt.
I can tell you from a personal perspective, as a survivor, if I had a recurrence that involved a met in one major organ I would continue to seek treatment. If I had recurrence in two major organs I would wish to maintain the quality of the remainder of the time I had left and discontinue treatment.
Best Regards,
Paul Adams
McCormick, South Carolina
DX 10/2009 T2N1M0 Stage IIB - Ivor Lewis Surgery 12/3/2009 - Post Surgery Chemotherapy 2/2009 – 6/2009
Cisplatin, Epirubicin, 5 FU - Three Year Survivor