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forme
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Hi All,

Sadness and loss has hit me again. My dear sweet "other" mom has passed from lung cancer. She never smoked, ever.

She fought so very hard and tried everything she could. We all thought that she would be okay.

She is a second mom to me and the one I turned to this past year after losing my mom.

I feel numb and too tired to cry. Sort of like being in a daze. Sort of afraid to cry, I may never stop.

I am ready for a break from lifes ever changing journey. Still trying to deal with the loss of my beloved mom and recover from the surgery and deal with all the cancer/health issues still ahead of me.

To go from such happiness for my daughter to such sadness in less than a week, well it's very hard.

If you can send Barbara's dear family some prayers or good thoughts to help them through this very tough time, I would be so grateful. They have been so supportive and helpful to me, I wish I could take away their pain and mine too.

Barbara was such a warm, sweet, caring, strong woman and she was only 4 ft. 9 in. tall. She was a pillar to me !

Feeling so sad today and so lost...

 

 

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Bill_NC
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Sorry for your lost. Please accept my deepest condolences .

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jimwins
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Hi Lisha.  I'm so sorry about the loss of your "second mom". You are in my thoughts always.

Jim

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I'm so sorry to hear Lisha. I just wish cancer would leave each and every one of us alone!

 

Hugs from me to you - Nathan

NANCYL1
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Lisha:

I am so sorry for your great losses.  

You are in my thoughts.

Nancy 

 

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I'm really sorry Lisha,

Wish I could do something for you, you have been through so much. Take care of yourself (((warm hugs)))

Sincerely,

Liz

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allmost60
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Hi Lisha,

  I'm so very sorry, and was hoping things would finally start to get better for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers, as always! My prayers to Barbara's family.

Love you...Sue

 

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Lisha,

I am very sorry about another loss to you, and to cancer.

My best friend found out that he probably had bladder cancer two weeks ago. His wife called me Saturday (May 9) morning:  He had shot and killed himself on the back of their property Friday night, and it took a day to find him on a creekbed that he loved to walk.  I am reeling as well, although it is worse when death comes to a relative. May you feel comfort soon. I am sort of stunned and do not know what I am doing for the last day or so -- very disoriented.

max

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jimwins
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Hi Max.  I wanted to extend condolences regarding your friend.  This is a hard thing.  Over the years, I've lost a lot of friends and family to various things including suicide.  Never an easy thing.  Hang in there.

Jim

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allmost60
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Hi Max,

 So sorry about your friend. I too have known friends that ended their life suddenly...so hard to wrap our minds around. May he rest in peace now. Take care friend..we are here for you. Love...Sue  (FNHL-2-3A-6/10-age62)

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forme
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Oh Max, how very sad  for you and your best friends family.

Death really knocks us off balance, and it takes time to regain the foothold we had prior to the loss.

I've been trying all the past year to find the balance again. It's hard.

Sending a special hug to you, Max. In time I hope you find comfort and maybe some amount of understanding. I am so sorry you are going through this.

Lisha

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anliperez915
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I'm really sorry Max for your loss... I'm at a loss for words. Thinking of you and his family, please take care of yourself.

Sincerely,

Liz

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illead
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Our heartfelt condolences.  There's not much to say except that we care and we know you are both hurting.  So so sorry. Bill and Becky

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lianadw
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My sympathies, thoughts, and prayers are with both of you. Sorry to hear of these tragic losses. Hugs to you both. Liana

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Sharlena
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I am so sorry for your loss! My prayers are with you and your family! Hang in there!

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forme
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Thank you everyone for your warm and kind words of comfort.

This afternoon (monday) will be the funeral service and burial.
I know this will be a difficult time for me and those I love.

Barbara and my mom were the best of friends. She will be buried one row above my mom and dad.

I'll try to pop in later in the evening if I have a moment or two.

thank you again for always lifting me up when I am down

Lisha

 

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epicc
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Lisha, 

My prayers are with you and your family during this very difficult time.  I am so sorry for your loss.  Love, Emily

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Chris17
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I am so sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you and yours

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