Mar 06, 2013 - 9:22 am
ok i know i cant get my tram flap reversed but i wanted to put this out there to so many ladies that have experienced breast cancer and let me know what you think. i had breast cancer in 1996 then i had a lot of crazy things happening to me the last couple of years so i oped to have both my breast removed. i was tired of being scared as i am 57 yrs old and have 13 yr old daughter living with me at home. so my general surgeon said he thought it was best if i had reconstruction done at the same time. i wasnt really looking to do that i just wanted the problem gone. anyways i took his advise and spoke to this plastic surgeon. he promised me the moon and the stars. he said i would have high and tight little boobies and a flat stomach again. so yes my vanity won. i did it. well i had complications. part of the radiated breast started to die. he graphed some skin and patched me and i was on a wound vac for a week. things did heal but my stomach was not flat and i have bulges under my breast and i asked to have small breast he did not give me small ones (to me small ones are a b cup) so i asked what was he going to do. first he told me that he would go back and fix the breast as they have a indention on the side that looks like a butt crack and give me nipples. well i asked him to do something about the muscle under my breast too. now he says he cant do anything about the bulges and they are not that bad and if he reduces my breast they will droop. they arent high and tight as it is. the stomach he says i should be happy most women my age are a lot bigger. so i went to duke and saw another dr and he said he would remove the muscle under the breast but not til the end of the year and he would re-shape my breast but there was nothing he could do for my stomach. ok i went back to the first plastic surgeon and he said the dr at duke was just putting me off and he didnt want to do it either as i had a 10 percent chance of losing one of the breast. i am not happy. i am considering having both breast and the muscle removed. it looks like i will have a hard time finding someone that will do this because i mentioned it to the dr at duke and he just said he didnt want to do that. and my doctor will not do that. so what i want is you guys to give me some in put on am i going to far with what i want or am i right. o and i didnt mention that the muscles under breast contract and agravate me every minute of everyday. my daughter says i am not the same person i was before the surgery. she says i'm always unhappy or hurt or dont feel good and just plain gruppy. its not pain you need meds for or anything just always uncomfortable. nothing seems to fit the boobs due to the lumps under my breast and they are really ugly to me also.
so ladies do you think i'm nuts
am i right
should i just grin and bare it
or should i take action