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Rev_Ted
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My wife was recently diagnosed with Stage 4B Uterine cancer. I was wondering if there are any people who have beaten stage 4b or are currently undergoing treatment right now. Thank you and God Bless. Ted

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Hi Rev Ted,

So sorry your wife is dealing with this. I didn't have stage 4 but there are others here who have stage 4 and are currently in treatment. Please know that everyone responds to treatment differently and there is always hope of kicking this terrible disease.

Can you tell us what type of uterine cancer your wife has, what is the grade of her cancer, and has she started treatment yet?

It's great that you're reaching out to others for support......as long as we're fighting, we need to fight this battle together! Please don't hesitate to ask any question at all, it really helps to get your questions answered, and who better to do this then those right here.

Sending prayers for you and your wife.......

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She has Stage 4B Uterine Cancer. Right now they can't do any treatment because she's fighting sepsis. The tumor is almost the size of a football and it broke through the uterine wall and perforated her bowl. That caused her to become sepsis. She had to have emergency surgery to clean it out and the doctors didn't think she would even make it through that first night. Thankfully God pulled her through and she beat those odds. Right now she's been battling the infection and trying to get stronger but it seems like we take 3 steps forward and two steps back. For the past week she had been running temps between 101-102 and they finally think they figured out why. They found two abcesses in her abdomen that they are going to go in and put in drainage tubes tomorrow to get it out. They said that where they are the antibiotics can't reach it. Then from there it's pretty much trying to get her using her hands, feet, arms, legs again. They have been keeping her on a c-pap and they've been trying to ween her off but she hasn't passed the tests to do it just yet she's just so weak. So it's been a tough battle to face when you know that she needs treatment so bad but she can't get it yet. From what the doctors did tell us was that they are planning on Chemo and as much radiation as she can take. They don't know if they'll ever be able to get the tumor out. The initial plan was to do the complete hysterctomy but that's been thrown out the door right now. It's just so much to take in and I wish I would wake up and it would be just a bad dream.

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Yup me too. Diagnosed July 2010 still fighting but mostly living After three recurrences, chemo two rounds, three rounds radiation.

TG grandson Bar Mitzva tomorrow then flying off for  r&r

your wife is lucky to have you in her battle both physically. And spiritually.

we are all cases of one!

we're here for each other!

Sara

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Thank you Sara. It's been such a test of my faith and everything I believe in. For the first week I just cried and cried. It's painful to see her like she is but I go in everyday being positive and encouraging. I'm ready to fight this battle with her, I just want her to get the fighting chance to do it. It's like we are facing so many other things besides cancer. Reading the stories have been a blessing and have given me more hope that it's beatable.

artist49
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I tell my story because I know that it always gives people hope. I was diagnosed with UPSC, the very agressive type of endometrial cancer, in September 2010 -

stage 4B Grade 3  with cancer found in 39 lymph nodes.  After chemo at Sloan and continuing maintenance with avastin (every 3 weeks) I'm still in remission

living a normal, active life.  Please don't lose hope because there is hope!! Besides conventional treatment, seek out advice on diet and exercise and FOLLOW it!

Good luck.

NorahS
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...I'm over here in this corner of the world, pulling for your wife and hope that each day finds her stronger and feeling better. 

If that can be accomplished, then it's onto chemo (usually quite "do-able") and radiation. 

Please continue to update us on how your wife is doing (by the way, what is your wife's name?) 

 

 

 

 

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Her name is Michele. She's doing a little better. Today they did two procedures on her. #1 they went in and put in a drainage tube and it's doing the job. And secondly they did tracheostomy to lower the risk of pneumonia and make it easier on her when they keep trying to ween her off the c-pap machine. Other then that all of her labs are coming back well and she keeps beating the odds each and ever day. I'll be so happy when she's more stable and healthier to tackle our next challenge, Cancer.

NorahS
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...the drainage tube is working, the labs are coming back with better numbers and they did a trach to lower the risk of pneumonia. Small, but encouraging steps.   

If a friend or family member asks what they can do to help - ask them to pick you up a copy of "Anti-Cancer, A New Way of Life" by David Servan-Schreiber. This is a very important book and while Michele is recuperating, you can get a jump start reading up on what will become a new way of life - for both of you.

 

 

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Thanks for offering some words of hope, artist49. My mom, initially diagnosed with stage 3C grade 3 endometrial cancer one year ago, just advanced to stage 4B, with a tumor found on her appendix and some spots on her liver as well. Can I ask what kind of chemo you had that successfully put you in remission? That is very impressive and it's so helpful to hear some hopeful stories when everything looks so bleak.

She did well with her initial chemo (carbo/taxol) last spring/summer and then followed it with external radiation (which was much harder on her). She's had a lingering side/back pain that no one could diagnose (why wouldn't they do a scan on someone who has been in treatment for such an aggressive cancer?!) until she finally went to the ER a few weeks ago and they found the tumor.

They just started a new chemo regime (carb + doxil) yesterday but they said that she probably wouldn't notice any difference until after the second treatment at least (not so comforting when the second treatment is 4 weeks away!). I'm really hoping that this combo will help shrink her new tumors but I'm wondering how likely that may be, considering she has already had chemo previously?

Thanks.

nancy9
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Sorry that your wife is going through this.  I have stage 3 and just finished chemo and currently going through radiation.  One of the things I discovered is having a positive attitude is what keeps me going.  Even those around me that stay positive helps a lot.  I wish you and your wife well and you are in my prayers and thoughts. 

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My thoughts and prayers go out for you and your wife.  What an uphill battle she is facing with the sepsis.  Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon and take care of the infection.  I know this is very difficult for you, too.  I pray for increased strength and courage for both of you as you go thought this journey.  In peace and caring.

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Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

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I am so sorry for what you are going through.  Besides loving her make sure you tell her daily how much you admire her courage and fight and that you need her.  It will help her to fight on.  She need you to be the stong one right now so that she can focus on fighting to be with you.  Let her know we are all in her corner and we will say prayers for her.  Never put a period where God has inserted a comma!! 

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I am so sorry for what you are going through.  Besides loving her make sure you tell her daily how much you admire her courage and fight and that you need her.  It will help her to fight on.  She need you to be the stong one right now so that she can focus on fighting to be with you.  Let her know we are all in her corner and we will say prayers for her.  Never put a period where God has inserted a comma!! 

ryan5014
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Well I just posted about my mom with one response but my moms cancer is advanced. It was a huge shock for all of us, but the one thing she has done to keep fighting was to not tell numbers scare her. She has been very resilient through all this and keeps moving forward. She is also a social worker so you can imagine what she has to deal with. She  did taxol carbo, germzar carbo and now txoil. Germzar seemed to work well for a while. The best advice it keep her motivated to do well. It is a sock at first, but as time goes on, you live to learn with it as a family. She has been an incredible inspiration to me. I have also been going through hell myself and watching her move forward has kept me motivated. Make sure u get a good doctor!!!!! It makes all the difference! Dont let anyone ever tell u there is no hope, my moms cancer is very rare and aggressive, but shes still going 2 years and 3 months strong.

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I guess for me in the back of my mind when they told us cancer I was in shock. The kind of cancer she has made me think okay no big deal just go in and do the hysterectomy and we're good. That's how I was trying to deal with it and look at it. And when they told us how bad it was it was like all the air in my lungs exited and i couldn't breathe. They thought I was going to pass out from the panic attack. Then it was like a rush of memories months prior to seeing her get sicker and then guilt of why didn't we act sooner followed by WHY. I think for me after going through this for the past three weeks has really changed me and my output on life. I'm grateful for the seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, and years that I've been given to share with her. I told her yesterday that I'm ready to fight with you and so is the family.

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You hit the nail on the head with comments about "BEING GRATEFUL FOR THE SECONDS, MINUTES, HOURS, DAYS, ....".  Cancer tends to change us and we have a "new normal
 with life.  What it has done to me, made me appreciate each day and minute and love everyone around me.  Sorta like a wakeup call isn't it?

Your wife is so, so lucky to have you beside her, as many of us don't have that support...thus the journey is very tough!!  Be there for her and know many of us even with stage 4 cancer are surviving and enjoying life years later.  Don't give up hope as God works in mysterious ways and you must believe she will be here next to you for a long, long time.

Hugs and keep the positive juices flowing

Jan

 

Plaque on my oncologist's office ----

You're a statistic of ONE!!! Smile

 

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I visited her tonight and for the firs time since being in the hospital she was awake and more aware then she had been. I got to joke around with her and tell her that she's to stubborn to lose to cancer. She just nodded her head like she always does with the "you know that's right look." We found out that the tumor has invaded her colon now so it's doing some damage and we can't really do anything about it just yet. I keep praying each and everyday for her to at least get the fighting chance.

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I am so sorry to read your news. May you find comfort and the ability to be with Michelle as she makes this transition.

You are in my thoughts,

Rachelle

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It always comes as a shock I think.  I am stage 3C  grade 3 uterine cancer and 21 months out from DX.  There is always HOPE. Your wife is lucky to have a strong partner with her to support her.  I had my daughter , her husband, my grandson wo does not understand but bought me great comfort, my sister and friends to support me through my journey that still contin ues.  Now that I have gone through this I tell all my women friends to pay attention to their bodies and if you think something is wrong, go to the doctor, do not wait.  This is a learning experience that I do not wish on anyone.  Keep on taking care of yourself so that you can help take care of your wife.  Prayers to you both. trish

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Reverend Ted,

Your wife is blessed to have such a supportive and loving husband and that will be one of the keys to pulling her through this!

My prayers are with you!

Kathy

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My wife is dying. Today the family and I had a conference with the doctors and she'll never recover. She battled hard from sepsis and two blood clots but it took a lot out of her. Not the mention the cancer she was fighting as well. She just turned 46 January 12th. I hope and pray that one day we can find a cure for cancer and end this deadly disease once and for all. I pray for all the women who fight this daily. And I pray for the husbands who are going through it with their wives. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers and may God bless you.

 

Rev. Ted Stanhope Jr.

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Words fail me but my heart is full.  I wish you strength to face this.  Michelle, I hope they are keeping your body pain free.  Rev Ted, I hope you are able to be with Michelle, holding her hand when she leaves this world.  The thoughts of all of us here are with you.  Come back and talk with us when you can.

I am so sorry, connie

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My eyes are filled with tears thinking about your wife's journey, may you both find some comfort and strength in Gods love.

Lisa

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I feel your pain in your inability to help keep her healthy and your wife, Michelle, dealing with the pain.  May God hold you both in his arms and comfort you and lift away her pain to enjoy her days.

Peace be with you both,

Jan 

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Rev Ted.

I was shocked to read your post - mad, sad are other feelings. Not fair! She is too young. I know you are bringing her comfort. May God give you strength to help you in days ahead.

Your wife you and your family are in my prayers. I'm so very sorry! May happy memories bring you some comfort. God bless. MaryAnn

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Your wife and family are in my prayers.  God bless you.

NorahS
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...I truly am so sorry to hear this very sad and devastating news.  

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I am so sorry to hear this news.  You and Michelle remain in my prayers.  I appreciate your prayers fo us, too.  May God Bless you and your family.

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 Words can't express how I felt reading these word. Rev Ted, I'm so sorry you and Michelle are having to deal with this.

Know you're being prayed for in my corner of the world.

 

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Reverend Ted,

I read your post yesterday and could not think of a word to say. How shocking and sad to get 'slammed' by this news! I cannot begin to imagine how you must be feeling. I wish I could offer some words of comfort, but your wife is too young to die and it sounds like she has already struggled so much.

I wish you some level of peace as you both move through this process. I think that is the best any of us can hope for during such a devastating, unreal time on our lives. That, and a peaceful passing.

You both will be in my thoughts and prayers....

Please stay in touch, though, and let us know how you are making out.

Kathy

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Michele passed away this morning at 12:30 AM.

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My deepest sympathies.  May you keep those special memories you made with Michelle close to your heart.  Take care of yourself.

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There are no words to properly express the sorrow and sympathy I feel for you now.  My heart and prayers are with you.

- Laura

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Deepest sympathy to you and your family.  Keep the good memories of Michelle deep in your heart.

 

Peace & Love,

Jan

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May your treasured memories bring a measure of comfort.  I know those of my loved ones who have gone on mean so much to me.  Take care of yourself.

 

 

NorahS
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...to you, your family, and your friends.  

Do take care of yourself in the coming weeks and months. 

 

 

 

nancy9
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Rev Ted,

I am sorry to hear about your lovely wife.  Thank you for keeping us posted.  You are in our thoughts and prayers. 

 

Nancy

Stabler
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I am so sorry for your loss.  I join with others in praying for you, your family and friends during this difficult time. 

God Bless

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Michele, you and your families are in my prayers.  May God provide comfort for you as you go through this period.  trish

HellieC
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There are no words I can find that will comfort you in your loss.  Please accept my deepest sympathy.  May God protect and guide you and your family through this terrible time.

Helen

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Dear Rev Ted,

May you and your families find solace from On High, as hard as those feelings may seem now, Belief in a Better Place is all we have. You have been, and I'm sure continue to be The Rock of Ages to all who love you and whom you love.

in sorrow,

Sara

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Rev Ted,

I join with others in praying for you, your family and friends during this difficult time.

 May your memories bring you comfort in the days ahead. 

And may the one who brings peace bring peace to you and all who mourn.

Amen,

Sara

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I a so sorry for your loss.  My hert and prayers are with you

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I am sorry you hve had to endure such great pain and suffering while you wife was ill. I too am 46 years old and diagnosed with UPSC grade 3 satge 3c. When I read this it hit home for me. I am hoping you are allowing God to comfort you through prayers and people. I will pray for you. Tami

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Today marks one month since she's passed. The month has brought a lot of emotions and anger. I don't understand "why" families and individuals have to suffer through this horrible disease. Each and everyone of you and your family who are battling cancer are in my prayers. I hope and pray in my lifetime we find a cure for cancer. Thank you for all your prayers. It's been a day by day process but I'm trying to move forward and do what Michele would want me to do. God bless you all.

 

Rev. Ted Stanhope.

NorahS
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...and thank you so much for taking the time to come back here and letting us know. 

It is not an easy path for those loved ones left behind. Again, I am so sorry on the loss of your beloved wife. 

Please take good care of yourself, Rev Ted.  

 

 

PS: There is a discussion board here on Grief and Bereavement (link should open in a new window):    http://csn.cancer.org/forum/193

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Today my husband was talking about how unfair cancer is. I just learned that my upscale has metasticized to my brain! It really stinks ...but my heart really goes out to you and your wife and other young people that suffer so.  Just thinking about that little 8 year old boy that died in Boston breaks my heart! 

May God bless and comfort you.

Mary Ann

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