Feb 22, 2013 - 8:53 pm
I need informed advice. I’m very confused and don’t know what is the right thing to do. My mother is 92 and started bleeding Jan. 31st. After an ultra-sound and a visit to a Gynecologist we know the bleeding is from her uterus. I'm feeling overwhelmed. The Dr. wasn’t mean but so matter of fact that I didn’t feel there was any support. The Dr. let me know that my mother had lived a good 92 years and I would have to think about whether or not we even wanted to try a biopsy. Which she said she might not be able to do anyway because of mom’s cervix being so closed. And, if they can perform the biopsy and if it came back positive what then? At her age would we want to have her go through the surgery? She said we might not even want to do the biopsy just go home and let happen whatever will happen. What!!!!! My mother is pretty healthy. I need to add that she has early onset of Alzheimer’s but still does very well. Mom is hard of hearing so even though she was sitting right there when the Dr. was speaking she didn’t hear it all. On the way home I related the conversation and mom’s response was yes, I want the biopsy, otherwise I’ll sit and wonder and worry every day anyway. The Dr. did say that if when trying to do the biopsy if mom was in pain she would just not do it. I strongly felt that because of mom’s age the Dr. doesn’t feel like it’s worth going forward because after all she’s lived 92 years. Has anyone else had experience with treating someone as old as mom. At this point we don’t know if mom has cancer but the Dr was not encouraging because of mom’s age. Am I supposed to just give up on my mom because of her age? Our next appointment is set for March 6th and what do we do if the Dr can't do the biopsy because of the closed cervix?