Feb 18, 2013 - 3:57 pm
Hello everyone! I'm new to this site but sure am glad I found it. Maybe you all can shed some light for me. Here's my story: I am 31 years old. I have an amazing boyfriend (finally - been together 4 months and ready to move on). I am currently living at home with my mother whom has been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer (though last reports say it's clear) and she has a large brain tumor and 2 smaller ones. The doctor's are hopeful - they have not given her a time frame and are confident they can shrink them both. I have been wanting to move out for some time now - I moved back home almost two years ago when my father left her; then we found out she had this cancer. I have been praying about it and all of a sudden I find a nice bedroom suit I can afford and an amazing deal on a house to rent 5 miles away. My mother is ok with this and in fact, believes she will get stronger and more independent knowing I am not there. She feels that she is becoming too dependent on me. She is a very stubborn and independent woman! The problem is that her two sisters and mother are really upset about this and do not think I should leave. They do not think I understand the situation. I completely do. But i feel as if i deserve a life too and if I continue to stay and watch this, I will become more and more depressed. I plan on getting "Life Line" installed so she really isn't ever alone and I will continue to stop by every day and even have sunday dinners. The rental agreement is also month to month, so I can move out anytime, if needed. Am I being selfish? Am I wrong? I already work an hour and a half away - I leave at 8 and don't get hom until 7. She's already alone that long during the day. What do you all tbink I should do? And any words I can get over to my aunts? Please help!