Feb 12, 2013 - 10:26 am
My mother is 73 years old and is recovering from tongue cancer surgery, where they took out 3/4 of her tongue, broke her jaw, floor reconstruction of her mouth and neck dissection. She had to have the floor reconstruction done twice as sutures came loose the first time. They put a wound vac in my mother's mouth for over a week to try to get the skin to heal over a small hole in front of her teeth. That didn't work. So, she had to have another surgery where the doctors had to put dermaskin on the front of her teeth because they had to break her jaw twice to fix the floor construction issue and it was not healing. Next, they took out her nose feeding tube and put in a G-tube. So, in all about 6 surgeries and a month in the hospital. She just got home on Feb. 1st. She has to make a decision with radiation as the doctors think she should even though all of her marigins were clear. They said that cancer was in part of a nerve and even though the margins were clear and no cancer in lymph nodes there is a 25% chance the cancer could come back. If she did radiation she could bump it up to 80-90% and they are pressuring her to make a decision. My mother doesn't want to do it as she has been through hell. She couldn't even walk a week ago. I try talking to her about it and she starts crying and says that she can't even swallow and wants to eat again. She is having PT twice a week to help her relearn to swallow and she's making progress. I don't know what to do. She doesn't want to go through it. Anyone's opinions would help and I will have her read them. Thank you all for your time.