Jan 29, 2013 - 3:28 am
Greetings. I'm the husband of Kathleen, known as kayandok here. In case you haven't heard, Kathleen passed away on Jan. 10. She fought an excellent fight and was loved and admired by many people. She underwent 5 major surgeries and countless rounds of chemo. She really hated the hospital toward the end (not the people there, just the place) and her wish was to remain at home. We live in Japan and were able to get a kind of home health care insurance, which provided helpers, a nurse, and a doctor so that she could stay home. We celebrated Christmas together and she died peacefully in her sleep, surrounded by friends and family. It seems that her heart stopped from fluid build-up caused by being bedridden and on TPN for the last few months.
Thank you for all of the support you gave her, which meant you also supported our family. Some important lessons I learned from her were to never give up, never accept the first answer you get to your question if you are at all doubtful, and live life on your own terms regardless of your circumstances.
We started dating at 18 and married at 21, we grew up together. I'm feeling a bit rudderless without her, but also relieved that she has no more pain, no more suffering. My heart goes out to each of you and your families. It's not easy and some days are outright awful. But, you can gain strenght from your community here and other places.