Jan 02, 2013 - 8:55 pm
Hello everyone! First of all, I want to apologize for not getting back to some of you when you posted on my original topic ‘My mother has throat cancer.’ I genuinely appreciated everything you all had to say, and it meant so much to me that you took the time to reply. Much of what everyone told me helped SO much in that initial, scary time and I was lucky enough to make contact with ‘Billie67’ who has done WONDERS with keeping me sane and answering my questions. After we found out the news, things seemed to fly by so quickly that I just couldn’t find much time to get back on here but I still read, and appreciate, all of it.
One bit of good news I have for those of you that told me to stop googling things and to not pay so much attention to statistics… My googling days are officially over! At least for medical things, I learned my lesson!
When I first posted we knew very little information, but now my mom has gone through all of the various tests; PET scan, CT scan, blood work, x-rays, biopsy, etc. During the biopsy she also had a mass removed that was blocking her airway. It has come to the conclusion that my mom has stage 4 throat cancer. Tomorrow, she will be going in for surgery to remove the entire voice box, along with affected lymph nodes, and doing some kind of voice restoration… that last part still has me slightly lost. After she will be having radiation, and I believe chemo. I’m a little freaked with how sudden all of this is, but I’m happy that something can be done. My biggest fear from the beginning was that there was nothing that could be done, or that it had spread outside of the H&N area, thank God it didn’t.
We’re still pretty worried, but things have gotten a little bit easier. I suppose as easy as they possibly could be. I’m also pleased to say her doctor made a total transformation and went from grumpy, mean doctor that scared the hell out of us to a nice, normal doctor! I think maybe he realized he was getting ahead of himself. He told us she has a 40%-60% chance of making it to the 5-year point without relapse… WELL… he said that in so many words, and Billie was kind enough to explain to me what all of that meant, because of course I initialed freaked out a little bit. She also has a very kind radiology oncologist that has met with her.
Tomorrow she has to be at the hospital at 7am and along with the surgery, they’ll also be putting in a feeding tube. He said it would be about 6 hours, so I’m hoping I can stay strong and patient in those 6, possibly more, hours. She’ll be there about a week, assuming there are no complications. Rereading my previous post, I feel SO much more confident and well informed. I’m still scared, though, because my mom is everything to me. Thankfully I have my fiancés help in all of this but outside of him, I’m my moms sole caregiver and that's hard, but honestly, I wouldn’t want it be anyone BUT me, I just hope I can do everything right and be strong for her, along with taking care of everything she would usually take care of. But those are big shoes to fill.
Thank you again to everyone that was so kind to me, and also thank you for taking the time to read this.