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Mom passed last wednesday 14/11

spainmum
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Since the starting of October has been a rough time for mom and family. Things started to go bad, initially the hospital admission for the ascitis and right pleural effusion, she was at hospital a week and during the next week she had to return to be drained three more times and then was sended to palliative care. A week later another hospital admission for respiratory problems due to the pleural effusion for what they gave her oxigen and controlled the pain with oral morphine but when she was at home two more days and then a big pain in the abdomen that was an abdominal obstruction and more pleural effusion at the left side.

Then she was admitted at palliative care and they controlled the pain with fentanil and every day she had more pain and more respiratory problems and they had to increase the quantity of the pump of fentanil, until wednesday when they said to us that had to sedate her for not having more pain. Doctors explained this to her and she only wanted not to be more in pain and we had the opportunity to say goodbye to her, we (my brother, my father and I) kissed her and say how we loved her.

Then she was sedated and we stay there holding her hand until the end that was ten hours later, at this moment all three were with her and we noted that thas was the final and she looked quiet and peaceful.

I want to say thanks to all of you that are here giving hope to people like me searching for answers and hope and I wish you all the best.

Hugs.
Celeste.

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Lovekitties
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Dear Celeste,

My sympathies to you and your family with the loss of your mum.

The only comfort is that she is no longer in pain and at peace.

I hope that you and your family will find peace in your minds and hearts as you fondly remember her time with you.

Hugs,

Marie who loves kitties

Chelsea71
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So sorry for your loss. Your mom was lucky to have such a caring daughter. Take comfort in the fact that her passing was peaceful and her time of suffering is over. I hope that the passing of time eases the pain that you and your family are now feeling.

My sincerest condolences,

Chelsea

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PhillieG
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I'm very sorry for your loss...
-phil

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YoVita
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Treasure your memories. You were a loving daughter to your mom. She's at peace now.

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Maxiecat
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I am so sorry to hear bout your mother. Thankfully they were ble to control her pain and she went peacefully with hr loved ones surrounding her.

Alex

Deena11
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Spainmum-
So sorry to hear about your Mom. It sounds like she was surrounded by love and comfort at the end. My positive thoughts are coming your way.
Deena

here4lfe
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Joined: Jan 2010

Your mom is not in pain anymore, but be gentle with yourself in the days ahead.

Best

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SharonVegas
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Deepest condolences to you and your family..
Ron

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Kathleen808
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Celeste,

I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. My prayers are with your family.

Aloha,
Kathleen

steved
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Joined: Apr 2004

Thank you for taking the time to post here. I am sorry to hear of your mums passing- at least she found peace and release from her pain in the end.

Steve

Cathleen Mary
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Joined: May 2011

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your Mom. I hope that you find consolation in every effort you made for her comfort and care. Blessings on all.

Cathleen Mary

smokeyjoe
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I am so very sorry for your loss. You are a very loving and supportive daughter for your mother throught, which I am sure was a great comfort for your mom.

danker
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My condolences go to you and your family. Know that she is in a better place free of all pain!!

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Varmint5
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I am so sorry. You were such a supportive daughter to your mom during all this. You did everything you could and did everything right. I wish you comfort in the coming days and weeks.

Sandy

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karguy
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I'm sorry about your mother,but she is at peace now,and is no longer in pain.At least you were with her at the end.

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rogina2336
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So very sorry for your loss. Kim

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fatbob2010
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Celeste,

I am so sorry for your loss. If there is any good news, it seems that she was with her family and out of pain at the end. Please allow yourself to grieve this loss as it is a natural part of loss. Peace and comfort to you and your family.

Art

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k44454445
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i am so sorry about your Mom. i am glad that you were able to say good bye & be with her. prayers for all of you.
judy

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Goldie1
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to you and your family. So sorry to hear about the loss of your dear mother.

Take care,

Ellen

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steveandnat
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Your mom is now resting in peace which for me is a feeling of relief because the pain is overwhelming. Praying for yor mom and your family. Jeff

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