Nov 08, 2012 - 10:47 pm
I recently read something on here about being a "clean person" vs someone who has "a bag." It has stuck in my craw and I want to respond to that line of thinking. I am a clean person, too. And I am an RN, was the ostomy nurse for the home health/hospice agency I worked for for years. And I am the mother of a 33-year-old woman who is a colon cancer survivor, still battling, who has a colostomy.
This is what I want to say: there is nothing about having an ostomy that makes a person "dirty" in any way, unless they were "dirty" (not bathing, B.O., bad hygiene, don't brush their teeth) to begin with. The majority of the patients I've worked with over the years with ostomies were not "dirty" people. And my daughter is one of the most hygienic, well-groomed people I know. She would be mortified if she came on this COLON CANCER SUPPORT forum to find someone suggesting that a colon cancer patient with an ostomy is seen as "unclean" and needs his/her own bathroom to deal with THE BAG. An ostomy is no "dirtier" than an a$$hole - and EVERYBODY has one or the other. And EVERYBODY poops.
My daughter learned early on how to live with her ostomy and we don't even think about it. Her husband helped her with it from the start. He is also "clean." And he still finds her sexy, attractive, desirable, and tells her so.
So... I think people who don't have ostomies and think they are nasty or are bothered by the fact that somebody has one need to keep that thinking off this forum. I apologize if this sounds confrontational. It's hard enough for a person dealing with colon cancer to face the reality of an ostomy and associated changes. This should be a place of SUPPORT, not the opposite.
Off my soapbox now.