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My mom has been diagnosed
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Nov 01, 2012 - 2:00 pm
My mom was just diagnosed. She is 72 and lives in Pittsburgh,I am in Baltimore. I am trying to do my best, along with my sister, to help her but we feel very helpless at times. She does not want to join a support group, does not want counseling (all things I would do) and I'm struggling with how to back-off and not try to force her to do things I think she should be doing. I'm liking reading the posts here and just looking for support. She is very constipated and I just overnighted her some Smooth Tea, anyone have thoughts on that? Thanks. |
Joined: Jul 2010
When my Mom was diagnosed all she wanted to know was that she can cancer. She did not want to know if it had metasized, the grade or anything else. Your Mom may feel the same way. Being told you have cancer is for most people the scariest thing they will ever have to face. She will come to terms with her diagnosis when she is ready, forcing the issue will not benefit her emotionally.
My Mom never did want to join a support group because she did not want to hear what may or may not happen to her.I think this is okay. You however can join one if you would like to discuss how her illness is impacting you and your life.
Remember everyone handles things differently and you must respect her feelings and the way she wants to handle her illness and her treatment.
Your Mom's doctor should be able to give her something for constipation. We learned very quickly that three days before Mom's chemo treatments to begin taking senokot twice daily for a week. Personally I wouldn't give her anything without checking with her oncologist. Cancer patients have very delicate digestive systems and she could end up with diaherria.
Good luck to both you,
Kelly
Joined: Jun 2010
that you should check with your mom's doctor. Unfortunately constipation is a big part of this disease. Even now I take