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Safewaychick
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Oct 09, 2012 - 12:51 am

hello to whomever decides to read this... i just needed a place where i could put down my... every thought.
I can't really believe that life would throw such a hurdle at us. my step dad passed away of lung cancer in aug 2002. My grandpy passed away of prostate cancer in feb 2007, and my father passed away from gillian bar syndrome in march 2007 also. so we are not shy? of lifes hurdles. Just greatly unappreciative of the way life in some regards.

My mom is a 62 yr old strong willed, smart, just incredibly amazing rock of a woman.
she is just great, she is my rock. i dont know what i would do without her.

we never really got along in my younger years, (ha.. i'm 28, and the only child) before i grew up to say the least... we've never been entirely close to being best friends. but she is my friend, my rock, my mommy..

I live 6 hours away from her, and i'm a workaholic to say the least...so i don't get to spend alot of time with her. which at this point i'm kinda disappointed in myself that i haven't gotten to know my mother as the woman she is. Like i know her, i just don't KNOW her .. you know?? hard to explain

She starts her first treatment of chemo and radiation tomorrow. and i'm going to suprise her by being there.
I want to be the strong person shes been for me, and i think deep down i can be.. but i still want to be mommy's little girl and crawl up in her lap and bawl my eyes out. i'm bawling for the first time right now as i write this..

I don't think i have questions, as to what all of this 'cancer' is or will do to my mom. Ive researched the crap out of it. (god i'm so much like my mom)

So Worried
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 Joined: Aug 2012
Oct 09, 2012 - 1:11 am
Dear Safeway....

Gosh, you have been through so much sorrow already and you and so young. I admire your strength. I think it's absolutely awesome that you are surprising your mom!! I'm sure that will make her SO happy :) When my hubby had surgery in July, my daughter (around your age) surprised me by coming to town (she lives 5 hours away). She kept saying "do you want me to come?" I kept replying "no"...I explained that he was having surgery and I would just be sitting by him when he was done and there was nothing she could do and it would be totally boring! We had this converstion at least 5-6 times. So...the day of his surgery I was sitting there waiting...and guess who shows up??? I must say, I was never, ever so happy!! I started crying a little just knowing she loved me that much and didn't listen to me (even tho I was very stern about it) So anyway, I think your mom will love you being there and that is so, so sweet of you to travel that far even though I'm sure you are super busy at work. You are a wonderful daughter!!!! Good luck to your mom getting through her treatment. You can come in some other time and fill us in on how she is doing.