Sep 09, 2012 - 2:27 pm
when you are afraid of going back home because you don't know when she will drop another bomb on you, is it the time to end the marriage?
I understand having cancer is hard on everyone in the family. But if for no reason, your wife probably will drop another bomb and hurt you again deeply, do you think its time to move on with your life alone? All marriage have problems, ours is no exception, even before my diagnosis. But my marriage has been really difficult during the past a couple years.
Please do not doubt. I'm a good father, a good husband. We both loved each other so much, and we probably still do.
I understand she has issues dealing with the stress in life. The problem is that her anger towards the cancer thing is so wrongly directed. She would be mad at me because of I didn't do something her way (she believes its the right way, which I seldom argue because her intention is good), or for no reason at all. With each of the little cut to my heart, the wound is getting really bad and really difficult to heal. Today, I finally had this converstaion with our son (8 yr) and said, "daddy probably will have to move out because daddy doesn't want mommy get mad at me all the time. But I will see you from time to time, will you and your little sister be ok?" He burst into tears and said, "wherever you go, I will go with you".
I don't know what to do, seriously, I don't.
I thought fighting cancer was hard enough, until this marriage start to falling apart.