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Tonsil Dad
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I know this is a little off topic but I just had to write this. Yesterday we had our
beloved dog "Shandy" a soft coated wheaten terrier put to sleep, she was only
10years old. The past week or so she had not been eating and all she did was throw
up and lost weight, , Vet gave nausia meds, no good so we did blood work nothing
conclusive so we did x-rays yesterday and found a large tumor in the spleen a small
tumor in the liver and fluid in the stomach and lungs. If we did nothing she would just
waste away and die slowly or we could operate (with a 25% success rate) and she
would only last maybe another 3 months if she made it. As I write this with tears
in my eyes, I just remember she was by my side all through my treatment and didn't
show any signs of anything, now she knows I'm recovering it was her time to let go.

Thanks for listening.

God bless
Tonsil dad,

Dan.

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Grandmax4
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that you made the right choice, love hurts sometimes

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Skiffin16
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Our pets are part of us, our family, our friends, and our care givers....

I honestly have to admit, that I have a better relationship with my pets than I do with some people...that includes family and friends. They (Kali and Jazzy) were with me giving me love everyday of my treatment and being sick.

It's kind of like having had cancer, and treatment....if you are a dog (or pet) person, you get it.

Like cancer, if you haven't been a care giver or had it yourself, and the treatment to kill it in you, you just don't fully understand.

We lost Ebony, a female black lab a few years ago. We had her as part of the family for 13 years, the pain and hurt was terrible....

So even though she is gone in body, she is with us everyday in memories...and we do still think of her nearly every day at one moment or another.

Thought and Prayers Dan,
John

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hwt
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So sorry for the loss of your dog. I know how difficult it can be. Unconditional love without a doubt.

katenorwood
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Dan,
Your descission to do this was out of love, never forget this. I too as many have had to do this with a beloved pet. Before my dx, our Collie/Shepard mix had the same issues. And my poor husband couldn't handle the decission, so I made it for our Chassie. I am so sorry for your loss...and yes they are there to comfort us through our illness. My white cat Tubby...little sweet soul that he was, gave me so much love and happiness after my surgery and rads. I laughed til I cried at his antics ! One day shortly after I started feeling better, we found him gone at the front of my recliner. I couldn't scream because of those stupid rad effects, but the tears came all the same...and a cry deep from in my soul. I tried to throw something...and landed only an inch or so in front of me. I feel your pain my friend. Warmest wishes sent Dan, Katie

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D Lewis
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Our pets are a part of our family. I tragically lost my beloved little English Bulldog Rosie shortly after completing my treatment. She was with me constantly, when I was very sick. I still miss her.

Deb

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VivianLee5689
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I am very sorry for your loss. When my dog died four years ago I cried harder than I have when losing some other people. The thing about our pets is they love us unconditionally. Every time we walk in the door they are always so happy to invite us home. How can you not be attached to that. I am so sorry for your loss and that you had to make the hard decision.

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Matt29
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i'm sorry to hear about your dog i know its not an easy decision.

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Billie67
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I'm so sorry you've had to go thru this. I had to put our dog down a few years ago as well. She was finenone day and then the next she had this lump in her neck and 3 days later the lump and grown to triple the size. The vet said it was cancer. Our statistics were about the same as your dogs were. Very sad but we had to do it.
Hugs
Billie

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George_Baltimore
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You have my sympathy. A person that doesn't have a beloved pet cannot imagine the pain you are going through. I have a nine and a half year old miniature poodle that has degenerative disk disease. Even with the pain pills each day, sometimes it brings tears to my eyes watching her walk. At times, you wouldn't think anything was wrong but at others... It tears me up just thinking about having to have her put to sleep. I hope it gives you comfort knowing that there are others out here that share the pain in your loss.

boardwalkgirl
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Joined: Jun 2012

So sorry for your loss. Pets are such a part of a family and it is so hard to lose them. I know my cats were so much company for me thru my treatment, always made me laugh every day when no one else could.

Sam999
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Joined: Mar 2012

So sorry for your loss. See it this way, you freed her from her suffering.

Samt

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phrannie51
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you've lost your little companion. You did the right thing, it's just so heartbreaking when we come to that time when we have to keep the biggest promise we ever make to our four legged "kids"....and that is to no let them suffer.

My heart aches for you.

p

If It Should Be

If it should be that I grow weak,
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
For this last battle cannot be won.

You will be sad, I understand,
Don't let your grief then stay your hand,
For this day more than all the rest,
Your love for me must stand the test.

We've had so many happy years,
What is to come can hold no fears,
You'd not want me to suffer so,
The time has come, please let me go.

Take me where my need they'll tend,
And please stay with me until the end,
I know in time that you will see,
The kindness that you did for me.

Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.
Please do not grieve, it must be you
Who had this painful thing to do,

We've been so close, we two, these years,
Don't let your heart hold back its tears.

Unknown

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Tim6003
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I'm sorry for your loss Dan ....... I can't add to what's been said, We too have been there.

I know your friend had a great home and was well loved....

Tim

PS I think Phrannies post says it all

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Kent Cass
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And God bless Shandy, Dan. Of all that God created way back when, perhaps one thing that he really should modify is the average length of a dog's life. Just don't seem right- all that pure goodness and unconditional companionship, and the 10-15 year average lifespan...RIP, Caregiver Shandy.

kcass

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osmotar
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That is never an easy thing to do, our pets become such integral parts of our families.

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luv4lacrosse
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Dan, pets are as much as a part of our families as humans are. My condolence for your families loss.

All the best.

Mike

ditto1
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how hard it is to lose a loving pet, I lost my Toby recently and Diane lost her cat Emily. So our hearts are with you and your loss. Just remember all the great times you all had.

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tuffenuff
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I hate to hear this. The love we have for our dogs has no measure.

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jim and i
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So sorry to hear about your loss. Our Tebow is 10 years old I can't imagine being without him. My heart hurts for you.

Blessings
Debbie

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fisrpotpe
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always hard to loose your best friend that has given so much unconditional support and love.

i lost my black lab Mandy many years ago to almost they same conditions, i will never forget the sad look on her face but i know she is now pain free and having fun.

feel free to vent anytime
john

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Tonsil Dad
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I feel so comforted with all of your warm responses, they are helping
my wife, daughter and myself come to terms of not having Shandy around.
We cannot thank you all enough but we still say thank you from the bottom
of our hearts.

God bless
Tonsil dad,

Dan.

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Pam M
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I'm with Kent - - Rest in Peace, Caregiver Shandy. Words can't adequately express the importance of the furry members of our cancer fighting teams. Loving creatures who started out as incredible family members become somehow something even more when they help us when we're ill. I'm very sorry for your loss.

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VanessaSLO
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Joined: Jul 2012

how you feel, because in the middle of my dad's treatment now we had to put to sleep our 10-year old dog (German shepperd) :-(. He was sick for quiet some time now and we had to make this sad decision... It was very sad for my dad also because they were like best friends.

But my dad had to concentrate on his treatment so we did not want to be sad for long. We must take it as a cycle of life...

I'm so very sorry for your loss too!

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tommyodavey
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Joined: Nov 2011

My condolences on the passing of your beloved dog. I too lost my best friend during my recovery. Almost the exact same story as yours so I can relate.

Let the grief flow,

Tom

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Jan Trinks
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Dan:

So sorry about your doggie. We had two shelties Rowdy and Blue and I had to put Blue down 7 months to the day that Charlie passed away. That was March of last year. This past April I had to put Rowdy down as he was almost 14 had glaucoma in one eye which he was going to have to have removed and he was becoming blind in the other eye. So I opted for putting him down but it was so hard. He had been with me thru everything with Charlie and he knew the minute I walked thru the door on Aug. 21 2010 that his daddy was gone. He was right by my side constantly. However, the same funeral home that took care of Charlie's cremation took care of Rowdy and Blue too! So they are with their daddy on the entertainment center. I now have Sammy (a dachshund) who we adopted in Nov. 2008 and he's 5 and also a 6 month old Sheltie puppy that I named Chargee Boy (after his daddy of course) A friend of mine's oldest daughter called Charlie Chargee when she was little because she couldn't say Charlie. He's quite a guy and that's his picture with my comment. So sorry for your loss.

Jan (Basketcase)

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