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sometimeshappy
Posts: 1
Joined: Aug 2012

My boyfriend of 3yrs had 3 affairs with different women during Christmas, new years & my birthday this past year (dec, & jan); admitting he never used condoms. I stayed with this man partially because I loved him & believed he would maybe change.
Last year my pap was normal. I was fine.
This year my pap was abnormal promting my gyne to do further tests;
I screened positive for HPV, then they found masses in my pelvic area during an EV, pelvic ultra sound & torso X-ray, which then they did a coclosopy & biopsy.
I screened positive for stage 4A cervical cancer. It has now spread into other areas of my pelvic region.
The feelings & emotions that run through my mind & heart were painful.
My only son is blind, & still young whom needs constant help; at home, school etc.
Now I'm sick & undergoing lots of treatments & surgeries.

This Man, doesn't ask me anything about my health, surgeries, treatments, is never there for any of it & isn't supportive at all.
Sexually, I disqust him now because my vagina is rotting, along with everything else. My hair is going, my skin is ugly, & I'm very skinny.
When it's his sex time, he lays on the bed naked waiting for oral sex & for me to hop on & it's done. Shower time.
When his cell rings or beeps, he gets nervous & ignores it. Always on his computer & our email notifications show me which adult web can site he had just registered with.
I'm sick now, & weak. I don't have family, friends to talk to. No one.
And I don't know how to tell my Son.
I have no one but my Son.
Most of you have family. I don't.

ccfighter
Posts: 370
Joined: Jan 2012

Sometimeshappy,
I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like you have a lot going on with many sorrows. Cancer and it's treatment is hard enough even with a good support system, and it seems that is something that you don't have. Perhaps you could find support groups in your area that can help you deal with all that you are going through. I wish you strength and good health, and prayers for a speedy recovery.

babe12
Posts: 52
Joined: Jul 2012

I am so sorry to hear about all you are going through right now. I agree with all that ccfighter said, cancer and it's treatment is hard enough even with good support. Please ask your doctors about finding help. They can refer you to therapists. I am a 4a cancer survivor. My cancer was either vaginal or cervical, not really sure, but it was squamous cell caused by hpv. I have been married for 27 yrs and we dated 2 yrs before that. From what I've been told, hpv can lay dormant for years before it rears its ugly head. I never had a bad pap smear and my gyno never tested me for hpv. I had no clue what all of this was. Yes the chemo, radiation and very major surgery was hard, but it got better day after day. You can do this, you can fight. I'm around if you need to talk. Hang in there!!!!

Curuk
Posts: 9
Joined: Oct 2010

This man is a danger, consider suing him. It has been done as his behavior is reckless endangerment and he is doing all of this KNOWING it is hurting people. He can also be turned over to public health and or the CDC. Please look up the case on precident for a lawsuit. I think I can find it, if I do I'll write. My husband was a serial cheater.

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