Aug 09, 2012 - 4:18 pm
I am a gay male and was just diagnosed with anal cancer. I'm scared and worried just like anyone who has been told he/she has cancer.
I know I should not be ashamed to say I have anal cancer. For the most part, I don't mind saying it. The problem is telling my family members the type of cancer I have.
I come from a small town. My folks go to church every time the doors open. They are religious fundamentalists and members of the Tea Party. I simply prefer not to tell them that I have anal cancer.
The problem is that my brother is married to a nurse. She is quite nosy and has started asking a lot of questions. I told the family I had "intestinal cancer." As a nurse, she knew that was a broad and general description.
It appears treatment will include radiation and chemo. While I've researched anal cancer, I've been spending too much time trying to find another type of cancer with similar treatment options.
Can anyone please suggest what I can tell my family members? I understand the importance of bringing awareness to anal cancer and I apologize to all of you for not yet being able to tell my family the truth. In the scheme of things, it doesn't matter. I know all these things, but I'm not ready to tell them.
Thank you for your support and understanding. I'm thankful for this site.