Aug 08, 2012 - 8:49 am
My mom recently has been diagnosed with colon cancer and she's planning on getting treatment at Sloan Kettering in NYC. We live in NJ and there is a NJ sloan facility but apparently they were talking about waiting until mid Septemeber to start chemo and that they were understaffed or something.It made my mom very unsure with her decision with Sloan because she thought the person she spoke to on the phone was incompetent or something and this is cancer. Apparently some lymph nodes were swollen on a scan and she is freaking out about it metastasizing to her brain or something if she doesn't have immediate treatment.
My dad is at work but I texted him to call Sloan as soon as possible so we can work everything out. In the mean time my 56 year old mom is FREAKING OUT. I think she is having a panic attack. It's been about two weeks since diagnoses and the first week was so horrible but I thought everyone's moral improved and things almost went back to normal.
I woke up today and I hate seeing my mom like this. I was trying to calm her down while she was in tears rambling on and sometimes I had no idea what she was talking about. She is freaking out about everyone supporting her. Like my uncle sent her an ipad (thinking it would be useful during chemo or something) and her friend told her to come over swimming whenever she wanted. She takes these as people being nice to her because she is dying.
How do I calm her down? I think her mind is racing because she wants the cancer OUT of her body and she feels kind of unsure with Sloan. I told her to call one of her friends and talk about unrelated things because why bother worrying???????? She is currently on the phone and has stopped crying.
I am rambling on but please give an 18 year old son advice on what he should tell his mother who is panicking about the diagnosis. I told her about this site but she is scared to come on here and face the reality of what she will be going through.