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Jul 14, 2012 - 3:03 pm
Hi All Well, I have had my first reality check and meltdown. I thought I was doing so good at keeping my mind focused on details and everything else. The quiet of the night is so hard. the brain starts whirling and it hits. Today we tell our daughters. This is going to be hard. I hate to bring them any type of fear or sadness. As a mom, I should keep all that from them. They don't deserve to have that enter their lives. No one does. So far today, I feel like I am on the edge of melting into tears at any given second. I hate to feel so fragile. I am turning to you guys, as your words hold me up. Lisha |
Joined: Jun 2012
Hang in there lisha, the hardest part for me after dx was my wife and I telling our 5 yr old daughter that I was sick. Even now just looking at her sometimes chokes me up, the thought of possibly not being here for her is devistating. All that being said you should tell them the truth, in the long run it will be easier on them and you. Just one mans opinion, I wish you all the best. Aaron
Joined: Aug 2010
Hi Aaron
Thank you for your kind words. My girls are older, but still very hard indeed.
I have grandchildren that will also need to be told, as we are a very close family and spend so much time together.
Please forgive my late welcome to the group. As you can tell, I have been a bit overwhelmed with my life lately. This group is so great, you have found a huge helpful "family".
You hang in there also. I know you have a lot coming up too.
Again, welcome and thanks
Lisha
Joined: Jul 2010
Hey Lisha,
I sent you a private e-mail, so will keep this short. Your girls will understand and be ok...keep the faith. You are a close family and times like this just make you all a stronger unit. Hug each other and let it all out...kids do so much better when they know exactly whats going on, especially the older ones that are capable of understanding the 'big picture". Love you sweetie, and when the melt downs happen just go with the flow and let the emotions come out. We are "ALWAYS" here for you. Hugs and kisses..xoxox Sue
Joined: Aug 2011
Hey Lisha,
Thanks for sharing with us. I pretty much agree with the others about
sharing current news with your family.
Let your feelings happen and let them out. You're a strong and
wonderful person and will get through this.
Stating the obvious for all of us but, I hate cancer - what it does to us and our families, the fear, the anxiety, the grief and the "roller coaster".
Grrrrrr....
Hang in there and hugs as always,
Jim
Joined: Nov 2006
Lisha, I think it is right to tell your daughter's, they need time to process all this too. It's hard to say the same things, stay strong, stay positive, but it is all I have.... I believe , all we can do, is to hold on to hope, I wish there was something I can do or say that would make it everything ok...... keep fighting Vinny
Joined: Jun 2010
Lisha,
I am just so sorry about what you are facing. Telling your children is